To ask people not to just walk on by?

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I had a fall earlier, tripped over a loose paving slab and hurt my ankle and wrist. My pride was the most damaged thing. I’m fine now.

People around me just carried on walking or stares at me. Nobody checked to see if I was OK.

It makes me sad to think that the world we live in is so uncaring nowadays.

I always help. An old lady fell in Edinburgh snow and I ran over to help. It wasPrinces Street and really busy and not one other person helped or stopped . I have helped anyone I have ever seen falling and carried cases up/down steps for those less able. It’s called being a human being ffs.

My dad had a neurological condition and used to fall a lot, people used to think he was drunk or try to stand him up but he sometimes needed a few minutes.

I fell outside my local station a few years ago and split my head open. Many people hurried past but two lovely women missed there train to help me and drove me back home. I had to get stitches but those women were angels.

Aww, I would totally have stopped. Sorry you were unlucky in this case, and I hope you're ok

I always stop and help if someone falls. But a man fell in front of me a few months and when I asked if he was OK, did he need help, he looked at me as if I had spat on him. He was so completely outraged that I had spoken to him that I was really taken aback. He didn't even reply, except to snarl a bit. So I walked off and left him.

It wouldn't put me off helping in future but I did have a moment of thinking 'why bother'

Where do you live .
I've stopped my car and got out two/three time's before to help someone.
Today I asked an old man who paused walking for a very long time if he was ok.
It makes me feel great to know I have helped someone and there's always other people that stop and help too.
I've also had it reciprocated.

Depends where you are I’m afraid. I went for a walk for the first time after ditching the crutches from a broken leg. Had a bit of a limp still and had a ton of people asking if I was ok or needed help.

I fainted last yr (had minor surgery 3 weeks earlier and apparently that’s a common reaction). I was on a fairly busy train platform. Woke up on the floor 10 minutes later, completely ignored by those around me. I know the time difference cos I was checking the time when I felt myself falling.

I think it’s one of the worst things about our country. It’s very common here. I even read a comment about it in an Iranian book: the author’s friend said that living in iran sucks and the author replied yes but in the west if you collapse they just step over you. So true.

I always help as I remember being assaulted on a bus aged 15 and none of the adults helped me. I vowed that would never be me.

I've intervened when a man was beating his partner - 200 other people stood and watched.

I also go and help people that have fallen over - sometimes me going encourages others.

People can be very self involved. Once I dealt with a lady collapsed in a supermarket aisle. Managers were standing at the entrance, stopping people from coming down the aisle, both to give me space to work and to allow the lady some dignity. One woman got very persistent about how she just needed one thing from the aisle (it was crisps so hardly essential) and the manager ended up up shouting at her to have some compassion and just go the other way (I’m editing, his language was a lot more colourful). It appears he shamed her into decent behaviour because she didn’t come back!

On the positive side, my Nan fell over in town once. Before DM could blink staff from a nearby boots came flying out the shop with a chair and first aid kit, at least four people stopped to help and two teenage boys whipped out their phones to call an ambulance.

Unfortunately it’s just the luck of the draw, sometimes you find the really decent people other times it’s the arseholes.

I just cannot imagine stepping over someone collapsed at a railway station or onboard a train. Or anywhere.

I used to work in a public place. At 7 months pregnant I tripped and fell down the stairs. Not one person stopped to see if I was alright. And I calculate 50 people must have stepped over me. I generally think people are decent at heart but I'll never forget that.

Depends where you live in the UK. We used to live in Surrey- it was shocking if any of them ever displayed empathy like helping someone up. Also lived in another county to the west - same there. Now we live down south in a super chilled county for a decade and it's lovely - people are friendly, warm, and kind. Cannot believe the difference.

If I see someone fall or something I always ask if they are ok, or help them. I think you were unlucky OP.
It doesn't matter to me if no one else stops, but if lots of other people wer helping then I probably wouldn't get involved.
I hope it heals up soon

About 18 years ago I was in a local l shopping center, as I passed seating I noticed a woman half lying on a chair. I did stop to look at her but there were people sitting near her so went on.
Passed her again about half an hour later and she hasn't moved. I had the DDs who were young so parked them near a shop and approached the woman. Another woman, who had been standing talking to a security guard, stopped me saying not to bother, she was a nurse and knew a drunk when she saw one. I ignored her and the closer I got to the woman it was obvious she had died.
All those people around her and nobody checked on her. It was horrible.

Mum's dog pulled her over when she saw a cat, mum hit the ground face first and shattered her knee cap, her face was covered in blood and she couldn't get up. 6 feet away a group of builders were having a smoke break by their van, not one of them went to her aid. A passing motorist stopped and helped her, 70 years old, lying on the floor covered in blood and they didn't help her. This was a year ago and it still makes me feel sick and angry

I fell on a main road once and cars drove around me. When I got up and staggered to the side of the road I could feel blood running down my face so I went into a local shop to get some tissues. The lady behind the counter looked horrified but that was because blood was dripping on her clean floor! She charged me for the small pack of tissues by the way and was tutting as she cleaned the floor. I ended up in hospital having stitches and ended up with a whopper of a black eye. Human kindness eh!

I will always check people are okay and teach my son to do the same. I also ask people in wheelchairs or who are struggling if they need help. I give not one hoot if I embarrass anyone at least I am bothered.

I fell over once and a woman tutted at me she stepped around me!

On the other hand though I once tried to help a woman up when she had fallen over and she was clearly embarrassed and told me she was fine and to go away.

I fell over a few months ago and a number of people stopped to offer help and check I was ok. I’m in a big city too.