To really dislike the instant online sharing generation?

[MsChatterbox]

For example. I'm at a small family barbecue. Return home and go onto instagram. Que lots of pictures and videos uploaded that I had no idea I was a part of (or my son, which I do not put online). Can't people enjoy something social without plastering it everywhere online? Or at least only upload themselves/friends that are aware?

Maybe I am being unreasonable and just need to adapt to how things are now. But I'm only 26. If I feel like this surely there are older generations that feel even more against it?

YANBU but....is the world we live in now.

People like to share. We are also being filmed all the time. For example, many of my neighbours have those ring doorbells so when I walk past their house its recorded.

Short of wearing a balaclava to events we are powerless!

This is the reality of the world now. Its only going to get worse. Every single thing is so SM focused, there is no escaping it.

I meant who I don't put online not which**

It just annoys me! I don't mind if they've asked for a picture. But I don't want a video of me scoffing a burger down online. I was once going through a friend's Facebook and found a picture of me going for a wee!!! (the shameful night out where you share the toilet with your friend). I just would never think to upload things of people they were clueless about - and definitely not modest in. Maybe if they are in the background it's fine but not being the main focus!

I agree with you. I don't see why everything needs to be posted online. Some people have no regards for others thoughts and feelings.

Some people post so many personal things on SM with regards to their DC without their DCs permission. DS is a teenager and chooses not to have social media so why would I then post everything on my SM about him.

I'm with you on that reboot. People are setting themselves up for identity theft online! My mum always tags me with location when we are out. It makes me uncomfortable that her whole friends lists knows where I am in that exact moment! OK now that makes me sounds paranoid. I'm just private!

I also have some people on Instagram that video random people's children saying "this kid is so cute!". Or film an adult making fun of their outfit. Why do people think that's OK?!

Well, fashions are always cyclical. I predict a big anti-digital trend some time in the coming years.

When you think about it, all the anxiety-making life performance is just a bit desperate and sad. Actual times with actual friends, not phoney play acting at life, will come back in the end.

YABU to think it's a generational thing. In my experience, middle-aged grannies are more likely to do this than anyone.

@bridget 🤣🤣🤣

Que?

You dislike a whole generation?

In my experience, middle-aged grannies are more likely to do this than anyone

Agreed.

YABU to dislike a whole generation.

It’s definitely not a generational thing. As you’ve said yourself your 26 and you dislike SM, I am 28 and barely post a thing and several of my friends don’t even have any SM, others use it for work.

DP family are obsessed with SM through all the generations

Personally my experience is the people who should be using it the most (millennials, gen z) actually shy away from it

@bridgetreilly This is my 64yo mother...

I don't put pictures of my son up online either. If I'm close to someone (like my mother) I ask for them to be taken down.

Why can't we just enjoy what we're doing without having to brag about it? I mean, I have a really cute son but I don't need to plaster him all over the place.

@myenormoustrumpet possibly meant cue

Generation was the wrong word. As then I would be saying I dislike my own generation.. I meant dislike the notion

The novelty will wear off. It’s just such a change for ordinary people, having such a voice. Many are not equipped for it and it will take 10-15 years for many to learn.

Yanbu

On Facebook you can change your settings so you only be tagged in things with your permission

@sewinginscotland yes! Plus people don't really care if you are at a restaurant. Then there's the times you are sitting around waiting for a friend to get the perfect picture to put on insta. I mean I share moments too. But usually just about myself and I always ask permission of other person if I've taken one with them in it!

@wanderlustgirl I have this setting! I'm so happy for it as it filters out all the random memes etc appearing on my timeline.

It’s just the way it is now. I quite like seeing what others are up to. And I like sharing stuff myself too.

I’m with you on this OP, and I’m 25, so definitely not a generational thing. My DHs grandmother is the worst for this. The amount of hideous photos of all of us there are on her Facebook is laughable, she takes photos of literally everything, doesn’t matter if it’s flattering or not. She posted the most unflattering photo of me on my wedding day.. on my actual wedding day. I presume sometime over the course of the meal 🙄
Anyway, I digress. It’s unnecessary. I have Facebook, Instagram and snapchat, and while I do post (and quite often too) life doesn’t stop for it, and anything I do post of other people is with their permission!

I'm with you OP - I loathe this. I was driving home from a social event the other week and an ex-colleague texted me to say, 'Just seen a photo of you looking great! How are you?'

I don't have FB. Or any other social media. I might have looked great (although I'm pretty sure I didn't). I was annoyed that a) someone took a photo of me I wasn't aware of and b) uploaded it to their FB page without my knowledge or permission and then c) clearly shared it with the world.

I don't choose to be on any social media. I certainly don't choose to be featuring on someone else's social media.

Yes, OP, I agree. I don't use social media and have no idea what pictures of me may have been bandied around online. In a way it doesn't really matter, I'm just a face in a crowd. But there's part of me that says 'Yes, but it's my bloody face, and I should get to decide where it appears!!'. It feels like a breach of confidentiality.