To really dislike the instant online sharing generation?

[MsChatterbox]

For example. I'm at a small family barbecue. Return home and go onto instagram. Que lots of pictures and videos uploaded that I had no idea I was a part of (or my son, which I do not put online). Can't people enjoy something social without plastering it everywhere online? Or at least only upload themselves/friends that are aware?

Maybe I am being unreasonable and just need to adapt to how things are now. But I'm only 26. If I feel like this surely there are older generations that feel even more against it?

Yes it’s lame, attention seeking and needy.

YANBU. I completely agree with you, OP. People should at least ask permission before downloading images of others.

#blessed#friendsforeva#funinthesun 🤣🤣🤮🤮

Seems I'm definitely not alone in this annoyance!!

With regards to why I'm on it, as I stated I do share things. I'm not against sharing anything. I just don't take away from the moment and share instantly and also don't upload pictures and videos of people if they had no idea they were in them.

This is a picture I love and it reminds me to be in the moment.

YANBU OP
I don’t think it either. I don’t like seeing people experiencing a whole event through their phones rather than their eyes! I went to the Harry Potter studio tour recently and everyone was walking around with a phone in the air nearly the whole time. Selfie sticks were in abundance. Put the phone down and enjoy the bloody day FFS. One or two pics for posterity I get, but not hundreds and hundreds.

Mschatter I really like that pic. That lady at the front is so fucking cool!

This bothers me too. I have had a FB account since 2008. I don’t use it much. I keep in touch with a lot of my friends that I met whilst doing Camp America over 20 years ago but don’t post anything much day to day.

Went on a girls weekend a few weeks back. There were pictures uploaded of us in our pyjamas with a hangover looking like death warmed up, pics of us in the hot tub ( thanks for that ) and the worst was one of me eating curry looking like a pig and I had a horrible spot on my cheek. Really annoyed me!

I’m 41. I too have noticed that my older friends over share way more than younger ones. My 16yr old ds uses it now and again but prefers Instagram as that’s sort of the point of it, to post pictures.

I am not cut out for all of this. Have joined Twitter which is much better and have also found myself an amazing man on there

I can never imagine that anyone would be at all interested in what I was doing! I shouldn’t think much of this stuff is actually being looked at.

When people take photos at funerals and put them on Facebook 🤦🏼‍♀️

I hate over-sharing and tons of photos. My in-laws are terrible for it. They'll go for a day out, and there'll be 60 photos of it in FB, all just dumped on there as they're taken, so lots that are basically identical, blurry, or with someone pulling a weird face. They just don't ever stop and think "these photos are really dull" or "maybe Sarah doesn't want me to upload that photo with her adjusting her swimsuit in the background". They post photos of events where they've been clearly asked not to take photos/asked not to share the photos online". It's as if an event hasn't happened unless there are endless photos of it.

I finally unfollowed two of them recently. One had been to the beach, and posted over 50 photos of just the beach (not even a particularly nice beach), but somehow posted them in such a way that my timeline showed them all separately. The other just constantly posts photos of her kids, but always at least 10 at a time, which will be about 5 pixels different from each other. Like, just post the first one, we don't need 9 more exactly the same.

They're both in their late 30s/early 40s.

Yanbu. It’s so sad that people post things online thinking that everyone cares.
I don’t post because I like to be private but also because I don’t think any online ‘friends’ give a shit.
I’ve deleted my Facebook and Instagram and don’t miss it at all.

YANBU. When I was young I used to go raving. We partied and danced with abandon.

It felt hugely liberating.

I feel sad that a mass movement based on freedom of expression like that wouldn't get off the ground today as it'd all be recorded and all over Facebook, and people would be shamed for acting in ways people could make fun of.

I feel sad that younger generations are growing up with this level of policing from their peers. It must be very limiting.

Yes, I find it all a bit sad and can make a lot of people seem desperate for attention, to show how popular and in demand they are, or to show off what they have.

This is not about overstating online, which I agree it is rampant today.

This is about people not respecting your preferences and boundaries.

My friends and family know I don't like pictures of my kids online and they don't publish them. It is a matter of respect

When I graduated college, pre social media, i had a pic taken in full regalia. I hated and still hate that pic! So fake and pretentious.
I told my parents not to share that picture with anybody and to only display it at home if they wanted.
No way jose! They took several copies (old fashioned paper ones) of it, including the diploma and gave some to my grandparents and got displayed in the most prominent wall in their homes.
When I asked my parents why they did it and disregarded my request, they said "don't be silly, they are family and want to celebrate your accomplishment"

If people are going to overshare despite tour wishes, will happen anyway

There is a way to delete pictures from other people's profiles in fb and other platforms, just let them know you are the guardian of the minor in the picture and not the person who uploaded the picture. It will get removed

Overstating = oversharing

Hate smartphones

I agree with others that it isn't a generational thing but YANBU. I hate it too. I don't do social media and would rather others left me the hell out of it.

It isn't just family and friends that do this either. The worst offender from my perspective is my employer.

YABU to think it's a generational thing. In my experience, middle-aged grannies are more likely to do this than anyone
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Yep. Facebook.

On another note, Instagram now doesn't reveal to people how many likes your picture has gotten. I think this is a great movement and will stop people obsessing over the perfect picture and posting it at the perfect time with the perfect edit to get loads of validation from likes!

Like when your friends post photos, and then some random friend of their mum likes and comments on every one of them. “What a lovely fun time! x” “Beautiful pics love x”. They’re always called Jean or Sandra or Eileen and it feels weirdly intrusive and horribly claustrophobic. As if you lived in a tiny village with one pub and so had no choice but to conduct your entire social life in front of the church ladies.

Yanbu. It’s so intrusive. One time my child was crying lots about something and a family member kept taking photos of us!

There’s something kind of pathetic about needing to constantly post to instagram/facebook as well.

@MsChatterbox that's not true about not revealing likes, not sure where you got that from! Looking at it right now and can see how many likes my friends have

OP this is another reason we need a privacy law

Mum is 81. Her friends vary greatly in age but the main people she’s had to tell off about this stuff are her age. You need to walk in and say “no photos, no videos” and be ready to pop their phone in your water if someone ignores you. It’s fucking ridiculous.

I’ve not had to do this but what happens if you contact the platform and ask for the photo to be removed?

“ One time my child was crying lots about something and a family member kept taking photos of us!”

I’d have taken the phone and smashed it.

I’ve been off SM for a year now and every month that goes by, the weirder it seems that there was a time when I would a) document my life to nearly everyone I’ve ever known and b) know vaguely intimate details of nearly everyone I’ve ever known.

There is a life away from it and I’ve never been happier. Now I keep in touch with actual friends and don’t miss anyone else one bit!

Op I’m with you!