To ask what would you do?

[Magazian]

Yesterday I took my 3 week old to the gp as he had a slight cold, fever and was vomiting. They said it could just be a cold but to take him to be checked out at A&E so I did and they said it was probably a viral infection but they would keep him in to monitor him overnight.

So I tried to phone boyfriend (babies dad) and he didn't answer. But when I tried again his phone was off.

This morning he messaged asking why i kept calling him. I told him and he said he was busy helping his friend (who he knows fancies him and has tried to make a move on him multiple times) with an assignment.

Would you be suspicious about this? Or is it just hormones? And wwyd?

You deserve someone who will put a 3 week old before a crush and for turning his phone off with a sick newborn, he proved he doesn't deserve either of you!

Please listen to the posters here and on your previous thread.
You and your baby deserve so much more than what he is currently barely able to give you both.
I’m pleased that there is nothing seriously wrong with your baby and I wish you both the best.

There was no bloody assignment.
Oh so he'd rather go to college than see his ill baby?
Fully custody?! MIL is having a laugh isn't she?
Not only would he rather go to college than see his baby he'd also rather get his little dick wet.

Get well rid OP. You and baby will be better off without this waste of space. Scum.

Sorry op he was obviously to young to bring a child in the world. It takes 2 I know that although 17 is very young. He sounds like he has a thing for the assignment girl as he would have been there for you and your baby. If I was you I would sort times when he can see the baby and end this ridiculous relationship.

I'm not sure how to end it as if he has been cheating he would probably lie anyway. He said he's coming over later to see me and son.

you don't need an excuse such as cheating. He ignored you and DS when he was admitted to hospital. that would be enough for me.

Sorry but it doesn't sound like he's even remotely interested in being a Dad or concerned about you. He would have picked up straight away, not questioned you about why you 'kept' calling him.

Shitty.

Sorry, but I think you might be better off without him, whether he's cheating or not. Enjoy your baby.

@magazian you end it by saying that you do not want to be with someone who does not put your child as a priority!
IMO cheating isn't even the issue here!

Absolutely not hormones!
Even if he isn’t cheating he sounds like a complete waste of space.

He’s nowhere near mature enough to be a father. Sorry but that seems to be the size of it. 17 is very very young but males just seem to take longer to grow up. Have you support from your own family?

It doesn't matter if he's cheating. He's not being a dad at all if he's not available to you on the phone, and doesn't bother visiting his son or anything when his son's ill. He knew his son had been his hosp, but he deliberately turned his phone off. You could've been phoning to say anything. It's awful of him :(

He sounds like an absolute waste of space.

@Magazian

I'm not sure how to end it

Tell him you don't want to go out with him any more.

Say to him that he is not welcome over tonight as your baby has just came out of hospital. Also do not show him any emotion keep it low. You will feel better as he may start hindering your good perent skills. Even worse you might feel like you have to perant him also. So just keep him at a distance. It is a very good reason to end a relationship you have to be there for your child alway's. He should of been there with you. His baby was in hospital do not question yourself. It could get worse.

Yes I've got support from family. I've told him that son has just came out of hospital but he said I can't stop him from seeing son.

Tell him he needs to sort out formal contact as it's not working for you.

Even if you do end up having set days but out of court.

Yes you can stop him from rocking up to see a poorly baby. You just sat no, it’s not a good time to visit.

You also say no to Christmas and no, he doesn’t get to take your baby to his family on Boxing Day. Your baby is very young and needs to be with you.

Tell boyfriend you’re not interested in being in a relationship any more. You are too busy looking after your new born. You will sort out access when YOU are ready.

Have you registered him? If not, I'd think carefully about putting him on the BC.

What I would do is tell him I don’t want to see him anymore, come up with a contact arrangement that suited me, and tell him the only way you will negotiate with him is via a court appointed mediator.

He’ll either shit himself and step up as a dad, or fuck off, win-win.

You don’t need him, you’re just used to the little turd. Put your son first.

*by see him I mean as a couple, you will obviously cross paths at handover, should he bother to turn up to it

He came round today and said I can't stop him from seeing son. And to give him another chance as he was busy yesterday so wasn't answering his phone.

Stop listening to him and speak to your parents. Get some proper advice.

You don't owe him another chance.

Just keep on saying you don't want to prevent access, just that you want set days.

He sees son every other day and has him for a few hours on a Saturday whilst I have some time to myself and he stays over on a Saturday night and we spend Sunday together.

He also asked if he could move in with me so he could help more with son.

OP you have a 3 week old baby and you can't rely on him. You're already doing this on your own and now you suspect he's cheating. You deserve so much better.