To think a man wouldn’t cheat on his pregnant wife?

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I’m just a few weeks pregnant with our second child. I don’t know if it’s hormones and I have no definite evidence but my spidey senses are telling me that maybe DH is having an affair with his female friend. Surely a man wouldn’t have an affair when his wife is pregnant? This is a planned pregnancy. I want to hear honest answers please.

Men who cheat are more likely to treat pregnancy as an excuse to do so rather than a reason not to.

Cross post - sorry.
Have you broached the subject?

Men who cheat will do so at any given opportunity, planned pregnancy or not. Doesn't mean your DH is one of them.

Why do you think that’s going to stop someone if they have the means and opportunity?

After years of infertility I got pregnant with a much wanted child at 18 weeks H walked out on us for ow 2 weeks before Christmas 16 years ago.
Unfortunately it happens. For me I was glad if it was going to happen it was better this way than when dc was aware of what was going happening.
Probably best to broach the subject with him. If man (or woman) is going to cheat they will irrespective of what else is going on in their lives.

I haven’t broached it with DH because I have nothing to go on.

I have been cheated on by an ex boyfriend in the past but I’m not generally a suspicious person.

I’ve never suspected DH before this woman.

What's making you suspect something?

Yes they do

Is there any way of looking into this? His phone? Is he where he says he is?

Why are you suspicious?

I know he likes her a great deal. She’s attractive. They seem very involved with each other. She knows every little detail of his life. He texts and calls her a lot. It’s not that really. It’s the look in his eyes when we discuss her. I know that sounds mad.

So what is their friendship like? How often do they meet/text/speak? How long have they known each other?

Cross post.

It doesn’t sound mad. I wouldn’t like it. Not him having a female friend but the level of intimacy and the glow when he talks about her.

They’ve known each other for a couple of years. They met at work but they don’t work together anymore.

Yes they would. BUT spidey senses not to be trusted when pregnant.

He goes to work and comes home again. No nights away. No missing evenings.

He might fancy her, doesn't mean he's cheating on you with her. I hope he isn't

How long have you and he been together?

Yes I think he probably fancies her but hasn’t had the opportunity to act on it.

Been with DH around 10 yrs.

Right. So this isn’t an old friend that pre-dates you and he. This is a sexy woman he met fairly recently at work, who he communicates with all the time and gets starry-eyed about.

Yeah. Nope.

No, she’s a relatively new friend.

There is currently a thread on this in Relationships. Awful.

Not saying your DH is but I had a friend at work who I found our recently cheated in his wife during the 3 pregnancies I've know him / his wife for.

Agree with Atrocious op. No chance I'd be happy with that.

I'd be telling DH to stop it immediately if it made me uncomfortable. It's very likely he at least fancies her which is disrespectful to you to carry on the closeness with her.