To ignore the parcel deliveries?

[BJsHair]

Next door keeps getting parcels delivered when they’re not home to receive them. This means parcel man knocks on our door to leave them here. This means I have to stop eating my lunch, control the dogs (who are now going mental) answer the door in my prison trousers and then have parcels stuck all over my house.

We don’t even get on with these neighbours!!

AIBU to just stop answering the door unless I’m expecting something? It’s only going to get worse with Christmas coming up

Splash out a couple of quid on a sign from ebay saying you do not accept parcels for neighbours and then enjoy your undisturbed day in your prison trousers.

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Dogs are on their teritory protection is what they do, if the neighbours had a problem they would complain but alas they dont !!

I reckon the dogs are going mad not because of the delivery man - they don't like the prison trousers!

I got fed up with accepting deliveries for next door, (tiny terraced houses, no hallway). They were often in no hurry to collect them so I had to climb over them by the front door. I was sure the son was in, bunking off college, and couldn't be bothered to get up to open their door. This was proved when I refused their parcels. His mother told me that she knew I'd refused, the son had heard me!

Yep, I guess if it's bothering you that much, refuse the parcel and let your neighbours know that is what you have decided, then it puts the problem back where it belongs

I have the same problem. My neighbours order loads of stuff and I get the knock at the door. But what is most frustrating is that even if they're home they ignore the postie or courier and don't open the door! They take days to collect stuff so I usually end up like some sort of nosey rosey neighbour and stalk the house until I see them and then I swoop down with their parcel. I have started refusing to accept parcels and generally the couriers are ok with that!

I totally get this and was wondering what to do myself . I’m getting at least one everyday now and I have a really nervous rescue dog that gets stressed out by strangers at the door .
Neighbours always come to collect just as we are eating tea aswell . Really annoying, door going several times a day because all the delivery drivers know I’m home .
I just feel bad about saying no .

@Ellyess Your neighbours sound horrendous. Have you got anyone that can help you sort things out so they can’t keep trying to intimidate you? They are awful for behaving that way. It is heartbreaking that they have made you feel so low.

Dont answer the door! Neighbour and I used to take in each others parcels but I used to have to take the parcels to my neighbour as they never came round to collect. I asked one time if the delivery guy forgot a card as we had had the parcel for few days. My neighbour was pretty catty to me so now I dont answer the door to a delivery guy when I'm not expecting anything. People are cheeky fuckers. We have a box in the garden and leave a note on the front door asking them to pop the parcel on there. No thefts so far

I occasionally take in parcels for neighbours (I live in a block of 9 flats), but I only keep them until I need to leave the flat myself. If they've not been collected before I leave, I'll just deposit the parcel outside the correct number.

Maybe people would get on better with neighbours if they were more 'neighbourly'.

Refusing to take parcels in for working people, is not very neighbourly really, unless the said neighbours have been a nuisance to you

They can pick up from tons of places ..local newsagents and supermarkets. ... don’t worry so much and just say no to the driver ...no explanation needed ..

I’m also a “working person” ... what I don’t want is to come home from work and then have to sort out other people’s parcels!

We have a lovely couple of retired sisters on our road who happily act as the unofficial post office and take in everyone’s parcels. I still do click and collect whenever it’s an option as I don’t want to take advantage of their kindness! So many people order things without even pausing to think about when it could feasibly be delivered - in short, they assume people like the OP will fix any potential problem for them.

are prison trousers, what I call 'round the house trousers' ? Clothes not really fit to go out in..... but comfy

Im clearly one of the minority - id happily take parcels in for my neighbours. What comes around goes around. If i am able to help i would - saves them a trip to a depot
I do have a dog and yes i may be unacceptable in lounge trousers but so what.

Id just be kind..... and surprisingly people are kind to me in return.

Its your house though - do what you want - and your life do what you feel is right (within reason).

Don't answer. When I order things myself I always specify that the parcel is to be delivered to my house and if no one answers leave a note so I can collect from the post office. I hate when the courier ignores that option and goes knocking on neighbours I don't know. If its not delivered to me I always ask for another delivery... its not my neighbours business to receive or even check on what I order.

Stop doing it. We have students round by us, and I won’t take any parcels for them. I do for one elderly neighbour, but they are few and far between. The reason I give is I don’t want to be responsible for them. If you don’t get on with these neighbours, then even more reason not to do it. You don’t want them accusing you of damaging/ stealing something. There’s being helpful, but you’re being taken advantage of. They know they’re never in so they should make other arrangements.

YANBU I would refuse to take in any parcels for anyone, unless it was specifically arranged for me beforehand.

I really don't understand this custom in the UK though, of just dumping the parcels with whoever is home nextdoor. In Australia, that is illegal. Here, either the person the parcel is for must sign for it, OR they are left a card in their mail box that says Australia Post called with a parcel, no one was home, parcel can be picked up from your local post office during the hours of such and such, and can be held at the PO for say one one month, ID required. Normally you need to show Driver's licence or ID like that, if they don't know you. But the parcel Must ONLY be given to the actual recipient. It is illegal for the delivery person to give the parcel to anyone but the house number/recipient. It is not allowed to leave a parcel with some random person next door - for obvious reasons such as theft, fraud etc. So leaving a parcel with the NDNs is not even a legal option here.

PinkJam. Thank you, your kindness makes a difference. I don't have any family near enough. The other neighbours don't want to know - well one didn't and I don't want to ask the others after that. Mind you, the one I asked I have learned since is not a nice man either!
When she threatened me I asked my Solicitor to read out the relevant bit of my deeds to make sure I was compliant - I was. My Solicitor urged me to go to the Police so I did. They have listed the neighbours as aggressive and think it is hate crime and that they are trying to push me out. It doesn't help though because I have to live here all the time and they are banging on the wall in a most horrendously scary way nearly every day.
Thank you for caring. It makes such a difference when people care!

SarahNade. Australia is so sensible! Recently I found a parcel to me shoved under my little van (I don't drive a car as I use the van for my mobility scooter/powered wheelchair). The parcel was not from the Post Office but from a delivery company.

redmonkeys. I said before, I used to take in any and every parcel and had no trouble until the bad neighbours arrived and had so many parcels and didn't collect them and weren't in when I took them round. It works with decent and friendly people but I think the OP has a problem like I did - horrible people who are taking advantage and making her life a misery.

amispeakingenglish. Sounds like all my clothes these days!

Or you rent a parcel locker (like a giant PO Box) and it gets redirected there to pick up at your leisure.

OP they can only be prison pants if they are those pale Grey joggers,
For the full effect they need to be paired with a forest green jumper with black ballpoint pen homemade tatts well at least where I grew up. (Red, yellow and blue are gang colours) and work gangs wear Hot pink coveralls.

When we lived in the city, we hired a parcel delivery address near my office. It’s a relatively cheap and easy solution, though picking up a couple of very large wedding gifts presented some challenges. Your neighbors have options other than you providing a parcel acceptance service.