To ignore the parcel deliveries?

[BJsHair]

Next door keeps getting parcels delivered when they’re not home to receive them. This means parcel man knocks on our door to leave them here. This means I have to stop eating my lunch, control the dogs (who are now going mental) answer the door in my prison trousers and then have parcels stuck all over my house.

We don’t even get on with these neighbours!!

AIBU to just stop answering the door unless I’m expecting something? It’s only going to get worse with Christmas coming up

[vintanner]

I am in the process of creating a notice for the door that says...

• No junk mail
• No charity bags
• No menus
• No flyers
• No salespeople
• No mail/parcels for other people

My husband is disabled and usually takes to his bed during the afternoon and doesn't need disturbing and we also have a dog but she suffers fits if she's been sleeping and made jump by the door.

The small sign we have on our door isn't doing the trick now, so maybe an A4 laminated one will.

We've got a package which had been sitting in the living room for four days now and no-one has been to collect and they are only 2 doors away, I've tried to deliver it to them but as they say, the lights were on but no-one was (apparently) home. It is even worse when not one of our neighbours will take anything in for us.

Trouble is when we open the door to take delivery of our things the guy usually has something for someone who isn't in and it's not his fault.

[nevermorelenore]

I work from home and our old house had a big bay window so if you walked past you could see me at my desk. It meant I became the bloody drop off point for every Hermes, Yodel and Royal Mail delivery package on the street. If I didn’t answer the door, they’d bang on the window and scare the shit out of me. It’s so distracting to have to stop mid-sentence to get parcels and if I refused them the couriers would get really arsey. I know they’re poorly paid and fed up but come on!

When we moved to our new place I made sure I could put my desk somewhere hidden so I could safely ignore them. This Xmas my house won’t look like an amazon hub.

[Havingtwinsat40]

We've taken a couple of parcels in nd my partner had to carry them to their door because they wouldn't come for them. They've turned into arseholes. Partying, banging on the walls etc so next time any come I'm telling them to ram them up their ass. Christmas or not!!

[Teddybear27]

You don't have to take a neighbour's parcel if you don't want to particularly if they haven't asked you just don't answer or say I'm going out for the rest of the day. The neighbours will soon get the message. Every day is a bit excessive especially if they can't return the favour.

[Sarell1967]

YANBO. Just tell the delivery person to put it on their records that you dont take in for x, y and z. I had a lady who snubbed me in the street and would send her husband around a few days after delivery. In the end i thought sod it.

[Diddybags2]

Maybe she just got out of prison, has adopted 2 of the guard dogs that she bonded with during her incarceration and spends all her money on dog food so can't afford new trousers.

[user1485851222]

My postman knows if I am in, I will accept anyones parcels.. I don't deliver them, he puts card thru their door, so up to them to knock on my door to collect. I don't mind as I would appreciate my neighbours taking my items in. Better than having to go to delivery office to collect... no biggie in my world....

[chaosmaker]

I ddn't get on with neighbours and told the postman I would only accept parcels for one of my neighbours. So much easier and then didn't have to have the useless ones turning up on my door. Also asked that they didn't deliver my parcels to them either. Much preferred to pick them up from the sorting office myself :)

[Purpleartichoke]

When we lived in the city, we hired a parcel delivery address near my office. It’s a relatively cheap and easy solution, though picking up a couple of very large wedding gifts presented some challenges. Your neighbors have options other than you providing a parcel acceptance service.

[Mypathtriedtokillme]

Or you rent a parcel locker (like a giant PO Box) and it gets redirected there to pick up at your leisure.

OP they can only be prison pants if they are those pale Grey joggers,
For the full effect they need to be paired with a forest green jumper with black ballpoint pen homemade tatts well at least where I grew up. (Red, yellow and blue are gang colours) and work gangs wear Hot pink coveralls.

[Ellyess]

amispeakingenglish. Sounds like all my clothes these days!

[Ellyess]

redmonkeys. I said before, I used to take in any and every parcel and had no trouble until the bad neighbours arrived and had so many parcels and didn't collect them and weren't in when I took them round. It works with decent and friendly people but I think the OP has a problem like I did - horrible people who are taking advantage and making her life a misery.

[Ellyess]

SarahNade. Australia is so sensible! Recently I found a parcel to me shoved under my little van (I don't drive a car as I use the van for my mobility scooter/powered wheelchair). The parcel was not from the Post Office but from a delivery company.

[Ellyess]

PinkJam. Thank you, your kindness makes a difference. I don't have any family near enough. The other neighbours don't want to know - well one didn't and I don't want to ask the others after that. Mind you, the one I asked I have learned since is not a nice man either!
When she threatened me I asked my Solicitor to read out the relevant bit of my deeds to make sure I was compliant - I was. My Solicitor urged me to go to the Police so I did. They have listed the neighbours as aggressive and think it is hate crime and that they are trying to push me out. It doesn't help though because I have to live here all the time and they are banging on the wall in a most horrendously scary way nearly every day.
Thank you for caring. It makes such a difference when people care!

[SarahNade]

YANBU I would refuse to take in any parcels for anyone, unless it was specifically arranged for me beforehand.

I really don't understand this custom in the UK though, of just dumping the parcels with whoever is home nextdoor. In Australia, that is illegal. Here, either the person the parcel is for must sign for it, OR they are left a card in their mail box that says Australia Post called with a parcel, no one was home, parcel can be picked up from your local post office during the hours of such and such, and can be held at the PO for say one one month, ID required. Normally you need to show Driver's licence or ID like that, if they don't know you. But the parcel Must ONLY be given to the actual recipient. It is illegal for the delivery person to give the parcel to anyone but the house number/recipient. It is not allowed to leave a parcel with some random person next door - for obvious reasons such as theft, fraud etc. So leaving a parcel with the NDNs is not even a legal option here.

[endlessstrife]

Stop doing it. We have students round by us, and I won’t take any parcels for them. I do for one elderly neighbour, but they are few and far between. The reason I give is I don’t want to be responsible for them. If you don’t get on with these neighbours, then even more reason not to do it. You don’t want them accusing you of damaging/ stealing something. There’s being helpful, but you’re being taken advantage of. They know they’re never in so they should make other arrangements.

[Nindaelita]

Don't answer. When I order things myself I always specify that the parcel is to be delivered to my house and if no one answers leave a note so I can collect from the post office. I hate when the courier ignores that option and goes knocking on neighbours I don't know. If its not delivered to me I always ask for another delivery... its not my neighbours business to receive or even check on what I order.

[redmonkeys]

Im clearly one of the minority - id happily take parcels in for my neighbours. What comes around goes around. If i am able to help i would - saves them a trip to a depot
I do have a dog and yes i may be unacceptable in lounge trousers but so what.

Id just be kind..... and surprisingly people are kind to me in return.

Its your house though - do what you want - and your life do what you feel is right (within reason).

[amispeakingenglish]

are prison trousers, what I call 'round the house trousers' ? Clothes not really fit to go out in..... but comfy

[CoffeeWithMyOxygen]

We have a lovely couple of retired sisters on our road who happily act as the unofficial post office and take in everyone’s parcels. I still do click and collect whenever it’s an option as I don’t want to take advantage of their kindness! So many people order things without even pausing to think about when it could feasibly be delivered - in short, they assume people like the OP will fix any potential problem for them.

[BJsHair]

I’m also a “working person” ... what I don’t want is to come home from work and then have to sort out other people’s parcels!

[Ferret27]

They can pick up from tons of places ..local newsagents and supermarkets. ... don’t worry so much and just say no to the driver ...no explanation needed ..

[80daysaroundtheworld]

Maybe people would get on better with neighbours if they were more 'neighbourly'.

Refusing to take parcels in for working people, is not very neighbourly really, unless the said neighbours have been a nuisance to you

[zingally]

I occasionally take in parcels for neighbours (I live in a block of 9 flats), but I only keep them until I need to leave the flat myself. If they've not been collected before I leave, I'll just deposit the parcel outside the correct number.

[skidley]

Dont answer the door! Neighbour and I used to take in each others parcels but I used to have to take the parcels to my neighbour as they never came round to collect. I asked one time if the delivery guy forgot a card as we had had the parcel for few days. My neighbour was pretty catty to me so now I dont answer the door to a delivery guy when I'm not expecting anything. People are cheeky fuckers. We have a box in the garden and leave a note on the front door asking them to pop the parcel on there. No thefts so far