To ignore the parcel deliveries?

[BJsHair]

Next door keeps getting parcels delivered when they’re not home to receive them. This means parcel man knocks on our door to leave them here. This means I have to stop eating my lunch, control the dogs (who are now going mental) answer the door in my prison trousers and then have parcels stuck all over my house.

We don’t even get on with these neighbours!!

AIBU to just stop answering the door unless I’m expecting something? It’s only going to get worse with Christmas coming up

[escapade1234]

I think if you work you should have the parcel delivered to your place of work or a friend and not rely on your neighbours. Unless you have an agreement with them, it’s very rude to be ordering online all the time knowing full well you won’t be there to accept the delivery.

[Ellyess]

Therarestone. It's fine when you have nice neighbours and nobody takes advantage or treats you like their servant. We used to be just like you before the awful woman moved in. People would happily take each other's parcels and mostly still do. But this couple are away most weekends, working all week and get sometimes 5 or 6 parcels a week and often they are big parcels. She never says thank you either. It became a terrible imposition.

[Ellyess]

bluebeck In my case I can say that I did it till I reached a breaking point and realised they were treating me like sht and basically taking advantage. I imagine that OP is at breaking point and wants to share her feelings and get some commiseration perhaps and maybe some advice on how to deal with it. Just refusing to take in the parcels still means you have to go to the door and I can tell you when it's just you as the only adult in the house, you can bet you are on the loo/bath when the door bell rings or poss feeding the baby or doing something awkward. I am often on the phone. You can't tell if it's for you until you go to the door either so not answering is not going to work.

[Ellyess]

escapade1234
Thanks. Absolutely right.

[MaybeitsMaybelline]

Not this old chestnut again. How many threads get started over this same tedious topic. Don’t answer, refuse to take them in.

[DebMG]

My 3 jack Russells hear the postman four doors away, in fact the mum dog Kizzie sits in the hall staring psychotically at the door sometimes before he's around, we have a cage but she still gets the mail she's a loon. On the subject of others parcels maybe accept the neighbours that you do not like and make them wait !!! shout "i'm in the bath" or turn all the lights off and go and read or something relaxing whilst your neighbour becomes further agitated,then maybe she/he will appreciate you a bit more.

[Funguy]

Are you in prison? Because maybe he parcels have files and ropes in..

[Rachel1874]

You can say no.. I did when I had new neighbours because I had never met them so wouldn't know who I was giving it too.

[DebMG]

you could have a peep inside maybe its an ann \summers !!

[3unda3]

YANBU

We have a neighbor who regularly orders expensive items and isn't around for them. Once she had 3 large TVs delivered in 3 days! I refused each one. I had a toddler and no way was I risking him breaking them. She wasn't happy and huffed when she was told by another neighbor that they'd tried our house first but no way was I risking it!

Another neighbor does it occasionally so I started messaging her each time to say that she had missed another parcel again. Now she is usualy in when they come. I don't mind the odd small one for her but I'm not a depot and I won't be treated as one

[sallyedmondson]

Sewinginscotland
Have you read "Eats shoots and leaves"?
The position of a comma would have saved me the vision of a postman carrying a naked baby.

[chrisie16]

I think prison trousers look like Jesus catchers. In the 'posh' world, harem pants. Whatever. Room to squat.

[Kate0902900908]

We live in apartments. We are number 1. Husband works from home and at one point on the run up to Christmas last year we had ...
2 fully built adult sized bikes
2 large microwave sized boxes
5 small parcels
& 9 small envelop type packages in our hall way.

Had to stop it all it was like a parcel shop and then it’s the hours of neighbours coming between 17:00 and 22:00!!! Every night absolute joke!
Only do it for next door now because she does it for us

[CokeAndCrispsAndDip]

My neighbours work full time. I'm a SAHM. I must take between 1 and 5 parcels a week for them. Its really started to piss me off as they constantly order stuff knowing I'm around most of the time to take them in. Then a silver lining... my doorbell broke. I'm not replacing it all my family and friends know so they just knock or walk in.

[PrtScn]

Joggers/tracksuit bottoms, now forever known as prison trousers, are my go to clothing of choice when I am home. Usually paired with one of OH's old t-shirts. Super comfy and doesn't matter if you get food all over them :0)

[angelfacecuti75]

I think prison trousers are obviously trousers that the op wears to work...I'm presuming she's a prison officer...

[Betty777]

It may not be the neighbours' fault? I feel bad that one of our neighbours who works from home seems to often be accepting my parcels, but I've certainly not suggested they should specifically go there.

There are about 4 big delivery companies that do our street most days (I noticed this when on mat leave, when I was taking everyone else's parcels) Most online shopping places dont' let you know the delivery method until after it's ordered. Some of those drivers certainly automatically take things to that neighbour, but the others don't. In central London my local DPD driver delivers approx 400 packages a day, so I can see that they would sensibly go straight to who they know will be home...

[Bluntness100]

I was watching a program tonight (the investigator on Netflix, well worth a watch) and there was men in a prison in grey joggers. Made me think of this thread. 🤣

[Barney60]

I just say, very sorry I cant accept it!

[nuxe1984]

Most delivery services offer alternative options such as collection at a local point.

Maybe next time you take in a parcel you could suggest that they use this service as "you won't be at home to take receipt of the parcels as much in the future and would hate for them to be left on the doorstep where they could be stolen" ...

[DamnYouAutocucumber]

We once took in a package for neighbours, the delivery driver didn't bring it to the door until after we'd agreed to take it and it was huge. Then it sat there for 2 weeks. We started to get a bit worried after a while, but didn't have any phone numbers to check for their wellbeing.

Turned out to be an exercise bike, as we found out when they returned from their holiday.

What kind of idiot orders an exercise bike when they're going to be away for 2 weeks??

I am more picky about who I take parcels for now.

[browneyes77]

I work from home and my one neighbour always asks the Postie to deliver to me if they’re not going to be in. However they did ask first and didn’t just assume I’d take them and I have made it clear that if I’m working and interviewing someone (I do recruitment) I can’t just get up and answer the door to take in their parcel mid interview, so I may not always be able to take them. Which they perfectly understand and have no problem with.

But I would be pissed off if someone just ‘assumed’ I’d take their parcels without even bothering to ask me.

I don’t mind helping out, but have the decency to ask first.

If they haven’t asked you if you’ll take them, then no I don’t think you’re unreasonable to not answer the door. If they can’t be bothered to ask you, why should be bothered to assist?

[browneyes77]

There are about 4 big delivery companies that do our street most days (I noticed this when on mat leave, when I was taking everyone else's parcels) Most online shopping places dont' let you know the delivery method until after it's ordered. Some of those drivers certainly automatically take things to that neighbour, but the others don't. In central London my local DPD driver delivers approx 400 packages a day, so I can see that they would sensibly go straight to who they know will be home...

DPD text you to tell you the time they’ll be delivering and give you the option to rearrange delivery if you’re not going to be in.

All the other big delivery companies by me put a card through your door to say they attempted delivery and to contact them to rearrange if not in.


Although with Hermes, I am lucky that our regular driver is great and often delivers to my mom round the corner. So if I’m not in he asked if he could leave it with my mom instead, which he always does if he can’t fit it through the letterbox.

[turncornmeal]

No def not, just last week I took an executive decision to say no to all neighbourhood parcels with the exception of one particular couple. Fam ended up running round like Santa's elves delivering parcels to lazy neighbours and it's not even December, had enough and said NO!