To ignore the parcel deliveries?

[BJsHair]

Next door keeps getting parcels delivered when they’re not home to receive them. This means parcel man knocks on our door to leave them here. This means I have to stop eating my lunch, control the dogs (who are now going mental) answer the door in my prison trousers and then have parcels stuck all over my house.

We don’t even get on with these neighbours!!

AIBU to just stop answering the door unless I’m expecting something? It’s only going to get worse with Christmas coming up

[Angiemum24]

I wouldn’t bother. If you don’t even get on with them then they can go whistle.

[evian76]

That’s quite annoying. Maybe ask you neighbour nicely to leave instructions to leave the parcels in a safe place? You can state this on Amazon

[dustyparadeground]

YANBU in our street everyone is either a "consultant" or "in" teaching and it feels like everyone is always out. I actually do work from home and am now sick of the amazon guy and the woman who seems to deliver for everybody else. I now ignore the doorbell unless I'm expecting something

[Chocolateislife88]

I’d just have a word with your neighbour and explain it’s difficult taking them with the dogs and maybe there’s a safe space they can have them left instead or they can get them delivered at their work/when they are in. I don’t think it’s unreasonable. In our building neighbours have my name down to receive parcels when they aren’t in but it’s reciprocal and they asked me before they did that.

[Dadtwoone]

When the driver says he has a parcel for next door, just say, you have the wrong f%&king house then, and close the door

[Auberjean]

I stopped taking parcels for one ex neighbour, who was a prolific shopper, after they had a vast telly delivered to me, then complained that I didn't answer the door to them when they got home. This was as I was standing at their door later, in a dressing gown, and had just explained I was sleeping as I was unwell . I refused the post deliverer after that, but thankfully they moved.

I do still take in quite a lot of parcels for other, and it's ok. But I do find it odd that people order quite so much when they aren't going to be there.

[Everydayishistorytomorrow]

YABU to think they purposely choose to have parcels delivered at times they're not in. YAABU to think the 'expect' you to take them in. You are assuming. I don't answer my door for any reason as I choose not to, it's my house. I don't see the problem. I have loads of attempted parcel deliveries when I'm at work. I have a note on my front door saying do not leave with neighbours, leave a calling card.

[manicmij]

Get one of those doorbells that allow you to see who is at the door from your phone. Also enables you to speak to whoever is there. Once you identify a delivery person just ignore.

[tilligan]

Take the battery out of the Bell....just make sure your own parcels are all “click and collect”!

[CNMStudent]

The delivery people soon understand those parcels you will or will not take.
You might install 'Ring' then you don't have to answer anyone at the door you can speak to them on your phone and leave instructions- even in your 'prison' trousers'!

[Tinkobell]

Are you on day-release with a tag / curfew OP? If so, I totally get it. Just tell the courier your probation officer says a big fat no. Hope you get early release soon...in the meantime, head down and keep your nose clean. 😉

[deepflatflyer]

I've just discovered Motherland and absolutely love Julia when she starts working from home 'I'm not a fucking doorman'. I've recently refused several deliveries for the cheeky fucker NDN I don't like. Makes me feel a bit sorry for the delivery person though as it probably causes them hassle. It would be easier to just not answer the door but I don't mind taking in the occasional parcel for other neighbours and it's given me the chance to get to know some of them. (Oh and does anyone else make a note of their full name and then stalk them on Facebook?)

[Ellyess]

yanbu! Same happens to me. Apparently the evil woman next door has told Amazon to deliver to me! Yet when the poor delivery Man accidentally put my parcel through her large letterbox and came and told me, she denied having it even though he wrote a chit saying he'd delivered it to her, and wouldn't hand it over! It was a present I ordered for someone too. Never got it or was reimbursed.
Just tell the delivery people you can't trust the neighbour and therefore cannot take in their stuff. It's a hell of a cheek. I assume she didn't ask before telling the company/amazon to leave them with you?

[SunshineAngel]

This annoys me so, so much.
We live in a shoebox house, and have literally one square of carpet in the hallway before the stairs start, with the living room door on the other side. The sofa is just after the door, so if someone wants us to take a parcel in, it has to come into the living room, and basically become a part of the family.
We found out last week that next door have actually put us as their "safe place"! They went away for 2 weeks and had things delivered, and we had 6 parcels. The guy knocked again and we said sorry, enough is enough, we can't take it in. At which point he argued that he had to leave it here, because it was the safe place. Bollocks!

We now have a sign on the door saying "Please only knock if you have been invited, or if you are delivering something to this address that we have ordered".

I WFM and it sounds stupid but knocks at the door pull me out of "the zone" which is annoying, then invariably they'll have to knock on later to get it back off me.

I wouldn't mind the odd thing, but I swear it was happening at least 4 times a week, sometimes more than once in a day, and they're both out all day! Don't get things delivered then, or do click & collect!

[Jack80]

You can refuse to take them we did when we didn't speak to another neighbour or ask them to try another neighbour or never answer the door

[Vivianebrookskoviak]

Just say no especially if you don't get on with them. I know the tricks parcel delivery guys use to convince people into taking in parcels but a firm NO over and over if need be is what it takes and just closing the door. Be careful if you have a porch they don't leave it there anyway without your permission, I've heard of that being done.

[Ellyess]

HunterHearstHelmsley
Just sending sympathy to you for having horrible neighbours. I'd never had bad neighbours in my life till now. I moved a lot and always had such lovely neighbours. Then suddenly I got this horrific woman next door and her father who used to visit who used to lean over my fence, which he broke, and try and pull up my shrubs which were nowhere near the fence. He broke my gate and shouted at me in my garden. Completely mad. I went round to talk politely to her about it, thinking maybe he was ill (my background/profession made me think this may be so) and she immediately flew into a great rage before I spoke, shouting at me, yelling all sorts of abuse and lies and being offensive and sarcastic and - well - simply crazy! So I try to avoid her and her 7ft, 10 ton husband. But they keep damaging my things. It's just hell.
I do hope you don't have people like this. But it's horrible having neighbours who you hate. Poor you!

[NemophilistRebel]

It gets worse this time of year with Christmas ordering so I totally get where you’re coming from

It annoys me as having young cat that tried to escape the front door it means I have to put him in his box each time the door goes.

I haven’t said no yet but luckily for me it’s only about once a week tops

I’m really careful with anything I order that if I’m not in to receive it that they can leave it in a safe place or deliver to husbands work if not

[sophe]

I say, no I can't anymore. Had a horrible dispute over a misdirected parcel and am not getting involved with any one else's parcels ever again. The driver will quite understand.

[NemophilistRebel]

Nightmare neighbours are the worst.
One the first day we got the keys to our house one of our cars was keyed.
Then someone kept parking on our driver (not in front, actually on it).
Then we spotted one of them walking down the side of our house to have w peek in our back garden.
Then another one decided to put a home insurance claim in against us for a damp issue he had in the whole of his downstairs saying that it was caused by us.
This was all within the first month of us being there!

[Ellyess]

SunshineAngel
I know! I really sympathise! With everything! It happened to me repeatedly with massive parcels. And you don't have to take the parcel because they put your name down! That's bollocks! But Amazon are really horrible to their Staff so he might have been scared. I suppose you could put a note through the neighbour's door saying they need to take you off their safe place list, but if they are as unreasonable and selfish as my neighbours, its best to avoid them.
If someone leaves a parcel in your porch or on your premises you don't have to take it to the proper addressee. Indeed you can even claim you thought they had given it to you! Or be like my neighbour and say you haven't got it! Even though the delivery man told me he'd given it to her by mistake and even though I had just given her a parcel left with me....

[bluebeck]

Can you explain why you keep answering the door and taking these deliveries in if you don't want to?

I don't get it.

[Elsie1966]

Yanbu just refuse to take anymore parcels, delivery driver will choose another neighbour

[Therarestone]

People work and can't really control when a parcel is going to arrive. Unless they are having parcels sent to your address...

I take parcels for neighbours all the time, they do for me on occasion.

It's part of being a good neighbour. We teach our kids to be kind but often don't show that same behaviour towards each other.

[Ellyess]

NemophilistRebel. God how I feel for you! It's the reverse for me. Our houses, built 1950s, have the gable end right up to edge of our property one side so each house has a wall only reachable by going onto next door and deeds state you must let neighbour come and inspect, maintain.. with reasonable request/time... On the side where I can see my nice neighbour's wall, there is a path from my back gate to garden by the wall and you can see a gully and the damp course and air brick of neighbour's house. Deeds say nothing must impede damp course or air brick and nothing to be grown in the gully. I always check my nice neighbour's gully when I go along the path.
My house has wet rot under the whole main part. The floor has to be taken up. Terrible expense. It's caused because my evil neighbours have my gable wall by their path and are growing ivy illegally up the wall and filling the gully above the damp course and blocking the air brick. I actually am getting old and am a widow (was widowed young) and am disabled and I'm very scared of these neighbours because the huge fat woman (sorry but she kind of uses her size to bear down menacingly on me, e.g. won't move aside for my disab. scooter) threatened me not once but many times.
They planted this year about 6 leylandii which are already over 7ft high and higher than the fence, which they put in close together right up against the fence just by my patio doors, about two feet away from my window. The law says they have to keep them below a certain height. They are so dangerous to me and keep damaging my things and have thrown chocolate over the fence for the dogs - the dogs are very good by the way and no problem to anyone.
I sometimes wish I was dead because of the misery they cause but I need to look after my little rescued dogs.