Do you think people reveal their true selves when drunk?

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I've got a mate who is confidant, sensible and well balanced when sober and a self-loathing, paranoid mess when they've had a skinfull. DP thinks this is her real self and she needs help and l'm more inclined to think people say any old stuff when they are plastered.

If you try to raise any of the things she says after the event she laughs it off ...

I do drink, but I do think it does depend on what I drink.
Wine gets messy but other spirits seem ok.

I agree with your Dp
Especially as alcohol removes inhibitions. So whilst I don't get drunk if I have had a little to much I just get intensely sleepy which is me to a T. Nothing else, no aggression etc. Just really want to sleep.

I'm a really happy drunk, outgoing and friendly

sober me avoids people.

I rarely get properly drunk, when I do I’m apparently a heightened version of sober me, smiley, fairly confident and chatty. However if I’m in a bad mood and have a big night out I’m a miserable git all night who just props the bar up.

I can tolerate SIL when I'm drunk, never when I'm sober. Therefore I don't think drink brings out the real me 😂

Tequila drunk is never a good thing.
If my friend were regularly drinking to the point of their character or behaviour changing then I would worry they should stop drinking TBH.

I don’t think it’s quite as simple as drunk you being the “real you” (and what is “real you” after all, anyway? We all adapt our personalities depending on the situation we’re in at any given time, but all of those personalities are “you”.) At a chemical level, alcohol affects the prefrontal cortex of the brain  and hampers with your ability to reason. It causes the release of chemicals and hormones which are also released in people who are seriously sleep deprived: plenty of people say weird stuff when sleep deprived and mostly we don’t see it as representing what they really think. Alcohol also messes with your serotonin levels - so whilst your friend’s depressive outbursts when drunk could be an indicator of what she’s really feeling, they could also just be the result of her serotonin levels tanking.

Yes. Nothing comes out when someone's drunk that wasn't already in there. Alcohol isn't cruel, rude, murderous or angry, but some people are. Alcohol just disinhibits people.

So the real me is very very sleepy and likely to doze off within seconds of sitting down?

Sounds about right

I think alcohol can heighten moods. Eg if you’re in a happy place in life you might become louder and more excitable when drunk. If a bit low it can enhance sad feelings. Had an angry day? Getting drunk might make you aggressive

I don't really agree with your husband unless it's every time.

Alcohol can take you differently, depends on how tired you are, your mood, how much you've eaten, so many things.

I've been happy smiley drunk, I've been belligerent annoyed drunk (I'm not permanently pissed) and everything in between, they are all me. Our moods vary.

I believe that people shouldnt be defined by their worst thoughts or actions. I do think alcohol brings out these darkest parts of some people, but i dont want to judge them based on that. I think its what we do with those thoughts and that side of the personality. So if somebody controls them and is a good person when sober, that means more to me than their worst when they are drunk.

No I don't. I become 'best friends' with people I actively dislike when drunk and have said ridiculous lies to agree with people after a few. I'm not generally a people pleaser and am more opinionated sober. I also realise when sober that I am tone deaf and my singing is borderline offensive. Drunk me thinks she can rival Beyoncé in both moves and voice.

A bit of both i think. I'm more likely to say something I've been suppressing when ive had a few drinks, but thats the lack of inhibitions. However my personality doesn't change. Unless i drink red wine. Red wine makes me vicious and punchy (have never punched a person but definitely a few walls/doors). I no longer drink red wine for this reason.

I'm absolutely full of shite when drunk. So no, it's not true

Alcohol is a DRUG - it alters your mind. Would you presume your friend was showing her true self after she’d popped a Molly or two?

Alcohol is a drug. Every single drug affects different people differently. So how can there be a rule such as it shows our true selves?
Personally I think it just enhances whatever mood I'd be feeling anyway. So if I'm upset then I'd me more likely to cry, but otherwise I feel happier

There are only three things that tell the truth, small children, leggings and drunk people.

People show their true colours when they’re pissed IMO.

Alcohol lowers inhibitions, so impulse control goes out the window. So doing and saying things you may fantasise about but self control prevents you from doing.

I dont think so, I chat absolute rubbish when steaming.

That said it can really ramp up whatever mood I am in. I know not to drink when I'm sad for example because il cry at songs but normal me wouldn't or talk about random sad shit. Stuff like that.

She had some work disaster that made her late to the thing so she didn't get a chance to eat before and then got sick drunk and had to leave early. She was probably feeling a bit embaressed and annoyed at herself and it all got magnified by the booze ... l suspect our well-meaning choruses of "You ok, hun?" didn't help much either!

Until recently I would have agreed with your husband but recently I have changed my mind.

My mum is a prime example. She's very amiable and agreeable when she's sober. When she is drunk she would pick a fight with the Dalai Lama. And win.

My best male friend is a horribly depressed, angry, sometimes slightly cruel,drunk. The rest of the time, fun, interesting, sensitive. 98% of the time he isn't drunk and so I choose to focus more on that side of him. And avoid boozy nights out with him. He knows he is a shit when drunk tho.

I can be quite a belligerent soul when drink's been taken though, so....

I love drunk me. She's funny, cheerful, confident and everyone's friend.

Sober me is quiet, shy and avoids people

People have often told sober me how funny drunk me is.

Sober me overthinks and is riddled with anxiety, Drunk me couldn't give a shit (she's not nasty though - not to my knowledge)

Sober me wishes she could be more like drunk me, but doesn't have the guts or knowledge of what to say/do.

I hid my depression from everyone unless I was plastered and then it came out, so I stopped drinking. It wasn't every time, it depended on how well I could control my mind at the time. I think there CAN be some truth in it but its very individual.

Definitely don't agree. It's not magic truth juice . It affects your brain and changes mood. In some people this can bring on anxiety, depressive mood, paranoia, aggression etc in varying degrees.

It no more reveals the real you than any other mind altering substance.