Husband refusing sex because he wants to build his legs up......

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He needs energy for the gym. Having sex makes his legs weak and he is trying to build them up. He has been a regular gym goer for years and is already quite built up.

WIB an idiot to fall for this?

I'm wondering if he actually knows that she's tracking his location? I think that's potentially controlling behaviour.

What if you go on top what's his answer for that one? If he still objects the. Sorry but he doesn't want sex for some reason. I guess next step is finding out the reason

He clearly just doesn't want sex with you. How bizarre. You need an open and Frank discussion.
Could be be shagging someone in the gym?

I found the more sporty they got, the more they felt they could get the young fit 20 something gym bunnys, poor deluded fools that they were.

If he doesn't want it, he doesn't want it. Men aren't up for it all the time. I've said no on quite a few occasions. I'd refuse tonight if my wife asked, I just want to have a sleep.

As suggested he’s either taking steroids so making excuses not to have sex because he’s having erectile issues or his head has been turned or he’s gone off you.

The staying up on his phone after you’ve gone to bed is a bit of a red flag. Does he have kik or other messenger services on his phone?

Where's the location tracker? His car? Phone? If it's his phone he could leave it at work and meet somebody at lunchtime or after work before retrieving and going home.
If it's his car he has ample opportunity

Sorry but he's definitely cheating and getting it else where

Tracking his location is seriously weird and Orwellian, that should stop.

It sounds as though you have had marriage problems for some time so the gym is probably another excuse to get out of intimacy. Maybe he’s cheating, maybe he’s just checked out of the marriage but either way it doesn’t sound great. He could possibly be watching porn if he’s staying up a lot later than you.

People are allowed to not want sex! However it sounds like this is a symptom of other issues in the marriage & you guys have intimacy issues generally. So of course him not wanting sex with you & him putting new efforts in his personal appearance lately does speak to a possible other woman. If it’s happening it’ll likely be at the gym. Do you even want to shag him considering you have to ask for a goodnight kiss? It sounds like the sex would be awkward if you don’t even like kissing each other.