Aibu to not go? Re birthday party

[Raisingwildanimals]

DD has been invited to her first ever school friend birthday party. It’s this afternoon and I had planned to go to the shops to pick up a card and small gift on the way to the party. It’s been one of those weeks where I’ve barely had time to wee let alone nip to the shops. Problem being, I’ve just double checked my bank and I’ve got 37p so not enough to buy anything (pay day is tomorrow so not an issue in regards to anything else) I don’t want to seem rude by not getting a gift for this girl so I’d rather not go. DD isn’t that bothered and swears she doesn’t know the girl anyway as it’s a big class. Wibu to go to the party with no gift or card or wib even more u to not go to the party?

Hope you go. I've had parents turn up without a gift before and it doesn't bother me. I was just happy their child cane to my child's birthday celebration and her a bit of cake to take home.

Apologise, say you left it at home and get something for DD to take into school next week.

Hope she has fun!

Please do let your daughter go to the party.

If you can't find or borrow any money, when you pick your daughter up, just say you forgot and will give tomorrow. That happens sometimes, nobody thinks anything of it - and if it is Tuesday before the gift is given, no one will think anything of that either.

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I’ve genuinely forgotten the gift before and given it at school after, could you try that approach?

Go. Make a card and say you’ll. bring the present to school (just say no time to get). Much ruder not to go then not to bring a gift. Children can get a reputation for not turning up to parties and then stop being invited, def happened in my kids’ school. Try to be inclusive, kid doesn't turn up a couple of times, not invited again.

It would be horrible to miss the party for this reason - very unfair on both children and the organising parent. Just tell a lie and say you forgot to buy one and will bring it next week.

Ive had kids come to my dc’s parties without a present more than once - I genuinely couldn’t care less - the party is about spending time with their friends not getting stuff.
I won’t be inviting the new girl again who just didn’t turn up after her mum had said she was coming. Apparently her grandparents turned up and wanted to take her shopping. It’s rude when I’ve spent £12 on her place, plus a party bag.

Go and say you left it by the door. Will bring in to school. It's fine. Your not invited for the present!

I hope you're not replying because you've gone.

Get your daughter make a card and turn up. I hosted dd2's 5th birthday/1st class party last week & am falling over presents & wouldn't have a clue who gave what.
I would hate for someone not to go because of that.

Definitely go.
Far more important than presents.
Make a card.
Re-gifting a toy/book your dd doesn’t play with is perfectly fine.
Enjoy the party!

Firstly I would agree with 'left present at home excuse ' because they woyld have catered for her
But ...this should be a wake up call that
A you need an emergency fund
B Its one thing to only have 37p in your account and be aware of it , its worrying that you had no idea until you checked your bank
Odd day to get paid btw

Do go and I hope your DD has a good time.

DS2 had a whole-class party a few years ago and four children whose parents had accepted the invite didn’t turn up. I never found out why for any of them. One of them had even had their own party the week before and the mum had said to me that they were looking forward to DS’s the following week. They didn’t come and she never mentioned it again (I saw her in the playground the following day!). It really is quite rude to just not go.

A handmade card and a small present at a later date if you can afford it sounds lovely.

@Raisingwildanimals what did you decide to do?

Tissue paper, couple of bath bombs or bubble bath from the bathroom and a card.
My dd's have a £3 limit on gifts and usually get something simple. Goes down well!

In that situation I would definitely go and just mention to the mum that you will drop the gift into school. You don't even need to say you forgot. You can say busy/crazy week if you feel you must but I wouldn't feel I had to give a reason. Just say you'll drop present in during the week. Which is absolutely fine.

Bummer being broke though and understand why you could feel disinclined. Better to go and make the effort than be a no show which personally I feel would be a bit infra dig. I did that once , rang to apologise but didn't feel good about it.

Sorry for the late reply everyone. We did make it to the party, I gave the ‘oops I left the present on the kitchen side’ excuse and there were no problems. After reading your replies it was the most obvious thing to do but sometimes it hard to see the most obvious answer when you’re in the situation. Thanks all

@raisingwildanimals great result. Glad all had a good time.

God we forget the gift and attached card most parties as in the chaos of getting out the house one child or another doesn't bring it having insisted they carry it. I just take it into school in the week and suspect most parents wouldn’t even notice.

I'm so glad you went. I hope your DD enjoyed it.

I haven’t forgotten a present for a bday party I just dropped it in a few days later, no drama a and no one batted an eyelid.

I have*

A Mum 'forgot' the present at my DS's party last and it never materialised. Absolutely didn't care. People are strapped for cash these days and personally I would hate for DS's friends not to attend just because of a absent present. I would just go to the party...

They shouldn't automatically expect a gift. Just say you forgot it though and will bring it around when you can.

I’d go and say oh bother I left the present behind and take in to school another day.