Neighbour coughing outside
Beagled · 09/11/2019 00:42
One of my neighbours (attached) is a heavy smoker with a very nasty smokers cough. Every time he has a smoke he coughs his guts up outside my bedroom window. He’s out there every 30-45 minutes rain or shine, hacking away outside. And it’s every bloody night throughout the night. He’s outside now coughing away at 12.30 am. Would I be unreasonable to pop my head out and politely say something? I can’t sleep. I do have my window open year round, but even with it shut you can hear it. He makes no attempt to be quiet, it’s a proper mouth open, lung clearing cough with lots of spitting and flem 🤢 and is often out there at 2/3/4 am
AIBU and just tired and grumpy?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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BaronessBomburst · 09/11/2019 00:49
I'd ask him to either die quietly or to clear off and die somewhere else.
I'm not sure it's the politest response though.
Beagled · 09/11/2019 00:50
Very similar to my first planned response 😂
Cauliflowerhead · 09/11/2019 00:53
Oh Chris I’d be eating what BaronessBomburst suggested!
Doingtheboxerbeat · 09/11/2019 00:58
Awww, poor guy. I'm sure at this point, he isn't having any fun at all. If I absolutely had to say something, I would be sympathetic and try and offer help. Having a go or offering help is probably going to get the same response though .
Me150267 · 09/11/2019 01:03
This disgusts me, we have a man walking past regularly that we call spit and stick. Very sorry he is unwell but my dh actually had to tell him to eff off as it was revolting.
Beagled · 09/11/2019 01:04
Nothing worse than someone hacking up greenies outside your house. I’d never dream of it 🤢
Beagled · 09/11/2019 01:08
I do get that, and if it was any other noise I’d have said something months ago. But imagine every 45 minutes getting woken up by that noise. It’s a form of torture
RightEarlobeBreath · 09/11/2019 01:13
Yanbu. I have a neighbour who does similar. I drown it out by sleeping with white noise on. I did consider bringing it up with them but tbh I’ve had such bad neighbours before, the sound of her hacking away is infinitely more liveable! Good luck with your one though!
1forAll74 · 09/11/2019 01:34
At least he is not smoking in bed,and maybe setting his bed on fire,and burning his house down. I don't suppose it will change him if you complain, but it sounds grim and horrible though.
Jux · 09/11/2019 01:45
I'll bet he has no idea how loud coughing is. He needs to hold a hanky over his mouth with both hands to dull the sound. He could just put hs hands over his mouth but if he's actually producing phlegm then he won't want it in his hands.
My brother' the same. I have told him to cover his mouth with his hands when coughing. Particularly necessary as he's only ever with us for meals, so there's food about too. He doesn't actually cough anything up afaik, though he might be swallowing it........
OneHanded · 09/11/2019 01:48
I think I’d easily have popped me head out before now to say and I don’t think I’m aloud in that! DO IT.
OneHanded · 09/11/2019 01:48
Beagled · 09/11/2019 01:57
Only reason I haven’t said anything yet is because he can’t help coughing and I don’t want to cause issues. But it’s grim and not fair. To make it worse I’ve just heard him peeing in the garden 🤦🏼♀️
JimPickens · 09/11/2019 02:04
He's grim! He absolutely can 'help coughing', he's been sent outside to do it. It's gross, stop it in it's tracks.
Beagled · 09/11/2019 02:06
It’s a shared house so he isn’t allowed to smoke inside
Whatsnewpussyhat · 09/11/2019 02:12
He coughs when he's had a fag so he could stop it by quitting fucking smoking.
Freespirit67 · 03/12/2021 00:39
I have the same problem he's a fucking tit and on top of coughing he's in and his back gate slamming it all day,,some people are so dam ignorant they need to be told to fuck off ,I've told him about the gate next it will be the coughing prick prick fucking prick rant over
PixieLaLa · 03/12/2021 03:21
Omg how dare they cough in their garden and come in and out of their own gate! Madness
CheeseMmmm · 03/12/2021 04:08
I used to have smokers cough it's not something you can control.
And it's painful, horrible. When bad you sometimes nearly throw up.
Packed it in years ago (sadly lockdown I started again).
Anyway op have you mentioned it when see him?
I mean he's not likely to stop smoking as often as he does she the cough won't go away. At point he's at, well he's already in a bad way and will only get worse. He probably knows it.
If you know him and are friendly/ amiable just say oh been meaning to mention, any chance you could go not so close to bedroom window? Wake up when you pop out there.
Hopefully job done.
CheeseMmmm · 03/12/2021 04:11
Peeing in the garden?
And a v loud pisser. He must be doing that against something to make it really noisy. Not sure a chat will help now :/
Justilou1 · 03/12/2021 04:14
Can you yell out the window “Get some Nicolettes and maybe we’ll both get some sleep!!!”
Llioed · 03/12/2021 04:17
Shared house? Do you share with him? Or do you live in a separate property? Regardless, could you put a complaint in to whoever owns the property your neighbour lives in? How long have you/him lived there in the shared property/separate houses? Did this start when he (or you) moved in?
Either way - a complaint is needed. This may be the kick up the backside for him to sort his health out, as such as stop smoking, therefore stop coughing outside your bedroom window.
ThesecondLEM · 03/12/2021 04:24
Well he sounds like he's finishing himself off with the smoking so I guess it will be a temporary annoyance.
Acrasia · 03/12/2021 04:54
Llioed · 03/12/2021 05:26
Why do people do this?? Bring up old threads back…?!
I’ve replied to a zombie thread 🤦♀️
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