Not to give the children a lift home?

[damnilovejam]

I work quite a long way from home, full time. DS had arranged to go trampolining after school with his friends tonight. I told DS to let his friends know that I was happy to collect them all when I finished work and to drop them all back home after trampolining.

They were going to walk to the trampolining place, but at 4pm, whilst I was still at work, it transpired that one of the parents had offered to drive their child and one other. My son asked for a lift and the message back via the son was that she "isn't a fucking taxi". We live a two minute drive from her house. Fine, I booked an actual taxi to get DS to the trampolining centre on his own.

AIBU to tell DS I will not give the other boys a lift home now and that they will need to call their own parents to collect them?!

The boys are 12-13, for context.

Don't you dare give them a lift!!

I wouldn't.

So she was driving there anyway, with space in her car and wouldn't give your son a lift? I would absolutely not be taking her son home, and explaining to the mum exactly why not. With use of quotation.

YANBU, if that is verbatim then fuck them. She can sort her own kids out.

fuck them. What an absolute fucker

Send the exact same message back.

I wouldn’t! I would pass the same message back via DS

How rude. I'd drive off after picking up my son and say I'm not a fucking taxi

No way would I offer a lift

assuming your son asked politely, this woman is well rude! I'm increasingly shocked at the behaviour of some people.

It may be petty but I would not provide a lift to the boy who left your ds to get a taxi by himself. How mean of him. Let him/his mother (since we don’t know if the response came from the mother directly) - deal with the consequences of their actions.

I'd pick them all up as agreed. I wouldn't sink to her level.

However, I wouldn't be offering to give a lift to any of them again in future.

What a f*ckin LIBERTY !

Don’t you DARE think of driving his friends back home !

That b*tch better have her cab money ready !

I’d slow down a bit.

This was a second hand message and these are your son’s friends, he doesn’t need a falling out.

I’d go and pick them up and maybe try and get more detail about what actually happened and why.

There’s also a good argument for giving someone the benefit of the doubt for a first offence.

But it’s the boys who will miss out, and could damage their friendship with your son. I would probably do it, but make it clear that it wouldn’t happen again.

No way! The other mother had no such qualms about her sheer rudeness impacting the friendship, so why should you? Absolutely send the same message back.

I was expecting to say Yabu however after reading Yanbu.

My son same age went out to a local event last week had to be picked up after half an hour as he got injured. I still despite not knowing the other child ensured he wasn’t left alone . Why would you exclude one child

This is the conversation... I've crossed out the name of the other boy who was offered a lift, and my son's name.

I’d sooner lop off an arm than pick the lads up my son had been spoken too like that. BUT I’d tell the parents myself and not leave my son to relay the message

I wouldn't lower myself and i would stick to the original plan.

There's no need to further the issue, it may show the other ridiculous parent how adults should behave

How rude. She sounds like a right one!!

Saying, I'm do

I'm So sorry Ben I can't fit you in because I've already got Tom Sam and Jim.

Is totally different to saying I'm not a taxi!

Is there any history here? Could the other parent feel that they’re always giving your child a lift with nothing in return?

If the situation is exactly as you say it is, with no backstory- I’d love to say that I wouldn’t give the lift I had promised. But I probably would as I’d. E worried about the boys getting home- and would try to talk to her on drop off.

Hang on a second, those messages are much milder!

History - I've taken this boy out for a meal once before, for my son's birthday. Picked him up and dropped him off, never met the parents. I paid for dinner, of course. They sent their son with a birthday card with money in it that time, which was nice of them to do. That's the only history.