Not to give the children a lift home?

[damnilovejam]

I work quite a long way from home, full time. DS had arranged to go trampolining after school with his friends tonight. I told DS to let his friends know that I was happy to collect them all when I finished work and to drop them all back home after trampolining.

They were going to walk to the trampolining place, but at 4pm, whilst I was still at work, it transpired that one of the parents had offered to drive their child and one other. My son asked for a lift and the message back via the son was that she "isn't a fucking taxi". We live a two minute drive from her house. Fine, I booked an actual taxi to get DS to the trampolining centre on his own.

AIBU to tell DS I will not give the other boys a lift home now and that they will need to call their own parents to collect them?!

The boys are 12-13, for context.

Not a fuck would I be giving those kids a lift home. Absolutely not a fuck. How rude.

I would say don't take it out on the kids. The mum sounds like a nightmare, but the kids don't deserve to be let down if you had organised and agreed a lift via your DS. He may feel awkward with his mates if you don't do the lift as you had agreed.

It's the mum who is out of order, not your son's friends.

I would be the bigger person and take the boys home, but I would show the mum that text and tell her that's the last time you're helping her out.

can't see the messages, is it only me?

I can’t see the messages either....

Nor me.

I'd drop them all home , but never invite him out again.

I would give them all a lift. The best way to counter her rudeness is with politeness.

I feel sorry for the son having to deal with a parent like that. Imagine having to admit to you mate this is what you mum said.

Did the mum know you'd offered to drop all the boys home?

Still rude tho, her and the friends

She's very rude but I still would give them a lift as it's not their fault one of their mums is a knob

I can’t see the massages but I would take the kids home this time.

I think I'd be inclined to text the mum and say "understand we're all sorting out our own pick ups - just double checking as don't want [her son] to be left behind when I collect".

I can't see message either and I really really want to

That's awful OP. You can see the Message on the app for those unable to view it.

Just be careful you're not being taken for a ride here (excuse the pun), you've not heard it from the horses mouth. I'd be tempted to still take them all home but be completely up front and direct to the mum. Ask her if she did say that, if not she needs to be talking to her son. If it was her, then hopefully she'll be embarrassed enough not to be so fucking rude in future

I wouldn't punish the kids for their parents shitty behaviour at least you know you're better than them

Can't see the message if it actually exists

I like the idea of texting the cowbag other mum and saying "just to check we're arranging our own transport home then" and see what happens.

You can see the Message on the app for those unable to view it.

And for those with black and white televisions, the red ball is to the left of the green.

I'd have given them a lift back on this occasion, as promised. I wouldn't give them a lift again though.

I've read your op several times as I was just like wtf?! Do you've pre arranged to take her child home, she arranges to take her child and another (not yours) to the place then complains about your child asking for a lift there? Fucking unbelievable! Yes don't give them a lift home. Or ever again! I'm actually amazed!

That other mum would blush beetroots if she knew her son had repeated what she said (I hope anyway!) However, I'd give the boy a lift home. It'll show that mum that you're a responsible parent and (hopefully, again!) show up her shitty actions.

She's very rude but I still would give them a lift as it's not their fault one of their mums is a knob

^this. Yes YWBU to not give them a lift home as arranged. You said they were going to walk to the place. She chose to give a lift to her prescious DS and one other, her DS sent a rude message-not her, yours was going to walk originally so why book a taxi for them?
Give them a lift home as planned.
If yours was going to walk in the first place him not getting a lift is neither here nor there, regardless of a rude message from his friend NOT directly from his mum- or have I read that wrong?

Message synopsis:

Other boy: idk I don't think i can take you
OPs son: I can't come then
OPS: ?
OPS: quick I got to get changed if I am
Other boy: I cant take you - sad face
OPS: Why?
OPS You taking (blank)
Other boy: i said to my mum can I take (blank) aswell she said i'm not a fucking taxi

They were going to walk in a group. I was happy with that but then the other parent decided to take her son and one other (they were meeting some other children there who were getting a lift with another parent anyway).

I wasn't happy for DS to walk alone so that's why I booked a cab rather than letting him walk as originally planned. I don't have her mobile number but I wish I did!

All resolved anyway as I got there to collect and the other children had arranged lifts with their parents as they wanted to stay out past 8.