To expect an apology

[Moremilkplease]

My child was in the care of a family member whilst I was away and there was an incident in which his face got scratched badly by accident. It was a deep scratch that bled a lot at the time and has taken days to heal. AIBU to expect an apology from the person that did it just because I think it's the decent thing to do? I know it was an accident but if I accidentally hurt someone elses child in my care I would call the person and say sorry this is what happened and it was an accident. Instead I've had silence from the person and had to hear what happened from someone else. I'm hurt that they havent had the decency to say anything to me.
So AIBU to be upset and would you apologise if you accidentally hurt someone elses child?

I am surprised by the answers on this thread and OP I think YANBU. I would feel the same as you. If I scratched a child by mistake then I would be mortified and would message the parents to apologise. I wouldn't just rely on whoever was looking after them to explain what happened. Not saying anything just comes across as though he doesn't care that he's hurt your ds.

The only thing I can think is that BIL was annoyed by your ds's behaviour

@Cheeseandwin5

Give it a rest will you. The OP said she thinks its an accident and not done maliciously. I know you feel that the BIL is to blame no matter what but try to see the facts. He wasn't there to look after the 5 year old but the baby.

Is there a reason why you’re trying to police the thread? @Another addressed a post to me and I responded. Feel free to give your opinion but don’t try and shut people up. And where did I say ‘the BIL is to blame no matter what’? So sick of people twisting other people’s posts. I told OP she was NBU, why do you think your opinion is worth more?

yes but OP knows her instincts. YOU don’t.

OP has a bad relationship with her sister. And doesnt like her partner. People can just not like people with it's being their instincts telling them something is off.

It's a bizarre conclusion you have jumped to. Given what OP has actually said.

Just to clarify, your DC was in the care of your mother. It was your BIL who accidentally scratched your DC in an attempt to stop their baby being injured. Is that correct? You’re looking for your DSIS to apologise? If this is the case, YABU.

Do you know if BIL apologised to DC at the time? Did your DM apologise to you for what happened on her watch? If an apology is wanted to you, it would be from either of them, not your DSIS. (Specifically over looking your DC behaviour whether they were overly rambunctious or not.)