Another mum that I know has sent her sick child into school.

[Aaarrgghhh]

Okay, so my kid and her kid play at each other’s houses once a week or so. Anyway, she told me her kid couldn’t come to mine one day as she was unwell, being sick with a tummy bug. That’s okay, it happens and I message back saying something along the lines of, that’s okay don’t worry about it I hope she feels better soon. Anyway, 48 hours after last vomit is the rule, so why was her kid in school?

It’s annoyed me because I’m sick and tired of my kids being unwell because of stupid parents like this. A cold or a cough is fair enough, if we kept our kids off for that they may never been in school, but a bug? Come on now, it’s ridiculous to send a child in to infect everyone else. Here’s why it pisses me off so much, I have a kid with a suppressed immune system, bugs aren’t good for her and depending on how bad it is she could end up in hospital, this mum knows this because I make everyone aware so they don’t bring things like bugs to my home.

Would I be unreasonable to tell the school that the child wasn’t kept off for the appropriate amount of time? I feel petty thinking about it but it’s really annoyed me and my kid isn’t the only kid in the world to have a weakened immune system, plenty of kids at the school will as well. I think this wouldn’t be as big of a deal if she didn’t annoy me in general with other things, this is like a straw that broke the camels back so to speak.

For clarity, it’s my elder child that plays with her kid outside of school and it’s my younger one that has the weakened immune system, I don’t want my elder kid bringing home bugs to her sister because of silliness like this.

Maybe it was an excuse.
Maybe she didn't want to take her kids to your house, because you're not much of a friend.

YABU. If my child was sick on Sunday morning, but fine on Sunday afternoon and again fine all day on Monday, of course I would send him to school on Tuesday!

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles You’re grand. I’d love a hobby but mental health and general tiredness won’t allow for it lol. I’d probably argue that mumsnet is my hobby disregarding how unhealthy that is.

Aridane Don’t you think I’m better placed to know the terminology used and for what where I live? She said tummy bug, she also mentioned it being safer to stay home with her. What else am I meant to incur from that? Why would anyone use the word bug when it isn’t a bug? That makes no sense.

hazell42 But I haven’t claimed to be her friend. I know her purely because my child and hers are inseparable at school and so over the summer holidays I reached out to allow them to see each other while school was off, we’ve carried this on even when they went back, the girls enjoy it. Do I have to be friends with someone to facilitate this?

OP I've been sympathetic, but if you use the term "reached out" again my milk of human kindness will run out No one should use it ever, but especially not about play dates (I don't even like that expression either )

Apologies for the term then. What can I say? I got in contact with her regarding the girls meeting up through the holidays?

I’m not fussed on the term play dates myself but it gets the point across with most people knowing what it means.

I'm only joking but you can just say "contacted"

Good point, contacted works lol.

I dunno. My five year old was sick twice about 11pm on Monday night. No diarrhoea, no temperature. I kept her off on Tuesday for safety and she was absolutely fine. Bouncing around the place, hungry, bored, totally normal. Damn right I sent her to school today.

The 48h rule is unenforceable and a bit ridiculous in most cases.

OP you are taking your child out of school for non illness (annoying for school) yet think you can be judge and jury when it comes to someone else being off school. How hypocritical of you. (I bet you ask the teacher for work too🤦‍♀️).

so if she was up all Saturday night/early Sunday morning then Tuesday is 48 hours as its likely it stopped by Sunday morning. She said it was safer due to this rule

Teachermaths What? I don’t understand your post. I’m not complaining about a child being off school, I’d rather the child was off school, that’s the point of this thread. My child is going to be off school because she has to fly with us for her sisters appointment. They happen a few times a year and we don’t have anyone that can look after her so she comes with us.

Cut to the end:

Many moons ago, I sent my socially not confident son to a local winter 'scout' camp, aged 9 or 10, with his Cub group.

He wasn't whooping to go, but he never whooped about anything, so was okay with it. Went, fully togged up, Friday evening for a camp due to end Sunday lunchtime.

My son is not a huge complainer, and doesn't tend to quit once he's actually doing something.

So, Friday night was the coldest night of the year 😬 -8. At 4pm, next day, we get a call, can our son speak to us? Yes, of course. How are you, darling? Him: I'm not sure I'm liking this; us: What's up? Him: I just aren't liking it. Okay, do you want to come home? Him: yes.... Can you put us back to the leader? (not known to us). Leader: Yeah, we've had several leave, today, saying they don't feel well, see you in a bit.

Son home at 6 or 7pm; subdued but okay.

2am, wild hammering on our bedroom door, him redecorating the walls and carpet with vomit. Let's leave aside why he didn't head straight to the bathroom... 🙄

Transpired a woman I sort of knew in Scouts (Cubs) was having her new luvverboy over that weekend for the first time, so sent her son to the scout camp, despite him having had Noro for 24 hours.

50% of the camp got it....

I am so annoyed right now. I’ve just been to collect my kid and the mum who this post is about had put a post on Facebook saying how the wee girl was being sick and up most of the night coughing etc. This lasted over the weekend.

She was posting on Facebook in the early hours of the morning because she was up because the wee one was unwell, fair enough I commented hoping she would be better soon. Anyway, cut to five minutes ago and my kid tells me that her friend threw up today in class, all over her seat and herself. I’m not mad at the girl in fact, I’m really pissed off for her. She was clearly unwell hadn’t had much sleep due to being up coughing and vomiting she should have been at home resting and not in school. I didn’t say anything to the school last time because in hindsight posters on here were right, I didn’t know 100% the facts and her kid was probably well enough for school but this is too far.

Now I’m thinking I was correct when I first posted this and I’m considering complaining to the school because this is not on.

From other parents that have kids in the nursery part they have been sent home a letter about keeping kids off for 48 hours after last vomit because clearly parents aren’t doing this. Would I be unreasonable to complain now or should I let it drop again?

Or instead of complaining to the school would I be better off talking to the mum? I really do want some advice on this and put straight if I’m over reacting again.

Bare in mind I have a kid at home that has a deliberately suppressed immune system and at the moment she is just getting over the worst of a cold and we have an appointment to fly to soon and getting a bug now could land her in hospital.

I decided I’d at least message the mum about it first. That went well, she showed her true colours and before I could even respond she had me blocked. Doesn’t worry me at all, at least I don’t have to talk to her anymore. I’m so annoyed that this is something she clearly doesn’t care about and will send her sick child into school. Poor kid, that’s no way to live.