AIBu To think I can’t just walk out of hospital to suit my employer

[Blueberrydreams]

I am a carer
We are a small team of 4 caring for one lady. Her family employ us. One member of staff left six months ago and they decided not to replace her and they have no bank staff even thought it’s been recommended to them on many occasions by the agency that takes care of all the HR. She needs someone 24/7 though a day a week that is family members the staff all work around 40 hours a week.
One of the staff is on long term sick and we have been really stretched and struggling. again no move to get bank staff.

I was admitted to hospital 2 weeks ago with a bad infection. I thought I was better and went back to work last night.

The sister of the lady said how they had struggled to cope without me last week and she nearly had a breakdown.
Anyway fast forward to tonight and about 4pm collapsed in pain and am now in hospital on antibiotic drip and morphine pump.

My partner rang the sister and told her I would not be for night shift and why. The sister was lovely with my partner but then sent me a text saying I needed to come in later in the night once the hospital had controlled my pain as I am needed and she wants me in 6am at the latest to help with the morning routine
I am currently on a ward in immense pain, weeing blood and just want to ignore it or text something back rude

Well good god I am sorry you are dealing with that on top of illness. Hope the morphine kicks in soon.

Have you posted about this job before? It looks familiar

Honestly I’d just leave it’s for them to find cover not you

Cheeky bitch!! Tell her to fuck off. Plenty of carers jobs out there.

Don't go in. Quit and look for a new job.

No not posted before about this thought I have named changed in case recognised through this and any previous posts.
My SIL likes to snoop on here
To think though even if I did go in after having so much morphine I couldn’t work anyway

You've posted about them before haven't you?

Well then in that case.
The person you replaced was told to walk away from these batshit people.
Send a text handing in your notice.

Of course you can't go in.

Text back - I am too ill to come in.

Then put them out of your mind.

Of course you are not being unreasonable. There is no better reason to quit your job, it sounds like it has not been the first time they have been horrendously unreasonable.

Being unwell yourself, requiring inpatient care, you clearly are in no fit state to safely look after anyone else. And it is extremely unfair on you to so much as suggest this.

I hope you are feeling better soon.

And if it is you but don't want to stay.
What the fuck is wrong with you woman?
You have been advised time and time again to leave.
Tell her to stick the job so far up her arse, that hopefully, she will get a helpful arm where her mouth should be.

Goodness me! you shouldn't be even thinking about work and how awful for her to put you in this dilemma- text her back- tell her you are in hospital, you are not returning to work until you are fit and well- surely an reasonable person would see that! get well soon OP - sorry you have to put up with this crap

Just don't reply.
She knows you can't go in.
Don't engage when you are in pain or on drugs to control pain.

However, keep the messages, as if you do quite you can show constructive dismissal.

Don't make any decision about quitting your job, at the moment.

You are too ill to work just now, end of.

In fact, I would be asking us to come up with some creative quit texts.
Can always blame it on the morphine 😂

That’s a ridiculous text. Of course you can’t go in. Once you are at home, you’ll probably still need recovery time but it sounds like this family will pressure you to work through that.

Of course you should ignore it. Or just reply that you’re too ill to come in. Don’t be pressured into going back until you’re better! In fact with that attitude I wouldn’t go back at all.

Didn’t want to read and run.I used to work in care - running small care company. Commitment of care workers is extraordinary but sometimes important for your own health (and also safety of person you care for ) to draw a line and say no. It was maybe the one useful thing I did as a manager! Say no and look after yourself. Sometimes needs tough love - they need another person and bank staff back up. Current rota isn’t sustainable. And you need to get healthy. Don’t be rude but either ignore or get partner to text no. And look after yourself - you sound very caring

sister, that text proper made me laugh. Like I am going to go work when I am medically unable to. Who knows when I'm fully fit, the agency might ask me to come back.

Are you employed by them or self-employed?

I really thought I had read this before!

Deffo read about this employment set up before, just didn’t involve you being in hospital that time.

Just get a new job.

I really thought I had read this before

Me too Lookingsparkly ffswhatnext. Hope you feel better soon Blueberrydreams. You are clearly not well enough to work.

Is she on glue?

I am employed. I have read something on here similar before but it was not me
Anyway going to get some sleep now or try morphine kicking in and I won’t be able to type soon as am feeling out of it.
Will update tomorrow

@Milkywayfan well said. @Blueberrydreams hope you feel better soon.