I'm a shit mother

[Organicmamahope]

I just lost my temper at bedtime with my 4 year old. He wasn't doing anything wrong really except refusing to go to bed, clean teeth. Use the bathroom etc. Usual toddler stuff. I was just exhausted after a very long day. Afterwards he said he didn't like me and was scared of me. I just can't do this parenting stuff anymore. I am a shit shit mother. I give everything and it's still not enough.

Just breathe, those years are so difficult esp when you’re tired. Do you have family support nearby?

No support, none really....

It sounds difficult. Maybe turn it in to a competition? ‘Last one up the stairs is a mouldy banana’ used to work for my dd. ‘Last one to have sparkly teeth is..’ you have to join in too.

He was being baigjty, you shouted. He didn't like it. Good. Job done!

Everyone gets like this when they're exhausted. You're not a bad mother at all.
Of course you need support!

Maybe their dad could do more? Sounds like he's not doing anything.