To ask if separation can sometimes be better for children?

[Noneedtoberudedear]

Because I really think DH and I are reaching the end of the road...

We have toddler twins and our relationship has gone steadily downhill since they were born. I don’t want them brought up by two fighting parents and we’ve both agreed that separating is probably for the best.

Has anyone separated and found it improved things for them and their children? I feel so scared right now. I honestly don’t know what the future will hold for us all and how I will cope

Letting him know you'd heard what he said to the relate woman wasn't very kind. Even if you heard by accident surely the idea is the conversation is private. I'm not surprised he was upset at that.

It does sound like he resents having the children becuase he now isn't your number one priority. This is a manchild attitude to have. How does he think he will find parenting them alone any easier?!

@Teachermaths Perhaps it wasn’t my finest moment. I just couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Well it definitely will be easier for him. He won’t have to spend as much time with them, so less responsibility.

Why could you not believe it? You've discussed splitting up. Surely Co parenting will be part of that?

You make it sound like he does very little now with them. Perhaps when he has them alone he will realise how hard it is.

Because we’d spoken about it as a last resort and in my mind the counselling is/was a way to try and avoid it happening. Yet he was clearly telling the counsellor that splitting was the outcome he was hoping for.

To be fair he does admit having them is hard. He’ll always say he doesn’t know how I manage them alone all day. I just hope we can work something out in the babies best interests. I’m hoping the counselling can help me be a little less protective of them.

Hello
I know this thread is 10 months old but wondered how you are all doing and did you seperate?
I'm in a similar situation.