To hate having big boobs?

[TheLolaMontez]

I have always had a large-ish bosom, I was a 32E for a long time, on a small frame, I was a small size 10 I'd say, those were the days and then I had children (now onto my fourth pregnancy) DD1 is 16 months and I'm 19 weeks pregnant (DS1 was stillborn May '17 & had a miscarriage this year in Jan).

My boobs are now enormous. Prior to this latest pregnancy they were a 34GG/H and I'd be a 12/14 clothes size. I am now struggling to keep contained in my current comfortable bras

Sleeping is becoming a nightmare, I like to sleep on my front normally but I've got so much boob it's uncomfortable without scooping them up and rearranging them several times in the night. Last night I was awake far more than I was asleep as I was just so uncomfortable. I get back ache a lot too which is probably a combination of them and carrying toddler DD around plus pregnancy aches and pains.

I'm also at that stage of pregnancy where I don't quite have a full/obvious baby bump, just look a bit podgy. That teamed with enormous breasts is really making me look like a beach ball with legs and I have to say it's getting me down a little.
All my clothes look terrible, I have no shape, I'm just round. I'm finding most high street clothes I have to size up to accommodate my boobs so there is no shape to the rest of the garment because it's just too big. I feel as though I look very broad up top and out of proportion.

Finding bras big enough is also an absolute mission. I sometimes wish I could just nip in Primark and pick up a 2 pack for £10 instead of having to trawl through shops that stock the largest of sizes to find that either don't have my size or if they do it's £50 a bra

I'm seriously considering something surgical after we have finished having children as they are just getting out of hand literally.

Does any have any tips of where to shop for clothes that will make me look like a woman and not a ball with legs?

Just to add, DH is quite happy with their gargantuan size but agrees that my happiness more important and supports me in the idea of having them reduced/lifted if that's what I decide to do.

Finally, I know better than anyone how lucky I am to be pregnant with this baby and I am not knocking that at all - I am knocking the overly generous helping of boob I have been given

All tips, sympathy, ideas welcome

Mine's big, but not that big. I feel your pain. If I win the Lotto, reduction is the first thing. If you can afford it, go for it!

Mine are naturally small and when I was pregnant/bf and they got bigger I hated it!! Felt so aware of them all the time, like they weren't part of my body but something heavy and uncomfortable stuck on. So I don't envy you and absolutely agree do what you need to to be happy and comfortable!

I was fine being a 32e

Now 34gg it’s far too big they look matron like (to me they do) have always had to be careful what tops I wear to flatter my boobs now more so

When I was pregnant they didn’t get that much bigger and produced very little milk certainly not enough what the point in them being so big

I have bought a few tops from bravissimo the blouses allow for big boobs and have a few nice wrap-over tops (they never usually fit) but some of the stuff is frumpy

I would love a reduction I asked my GP she said it would be an option as I haven’t had any back problems (which is true, good posture and always a good fitting bra)

Bravissimo do clothes & bras for big boobed ladies:

https://www.bravissimo.com/collections/all-clothing/

Triumph & Freya bras are best imo. They are expensive but it's important to have a well fitting bra.

I am now back down to 32K but at one stage (pregnancy and breastfeeding) was so big that I had to get made to measure bras (Optimeasure).

I get my bras from Bravissimo -now I don't live near a store I order them online -they have a great returns system and encourage you to take multiple sizes if you're not sure and send back the ones which don't fit (or all of them as I have done before) and you can phone them up for advice on fittings.

I used to consider surgery but DH worries about the risks of unneccessary surgery. I have suffered with back problems but have worked on my posture and a good supportive bra help. I have learned to choose clothing well -no buttons on tops! I can choose clothes which show off my breasts or which tone them down (although that usually just makes me look fat).

Some of the Bravissimo clothes can work well but I find the tops too low cut for me (so my bra ends up showing) so I either sew them up or add in a bit of material.

Also for night time wear a soft (not underwired bra). Bravissimo do nightwear with integrated bras (not in my size though -realise I sound like I'm advertising them!) Saves rearranging them!

I am a 34E but went up to a 36F when pregnant. They were ridiculous. They've gone back down now but it is hard to find clothes that fit comfortably as nothing gets round the boobs well.

I am now struggling to keep contained in my current comfortable bras

This stands out to me. You need to get fitted again.

Thank you all for your help and sympathy! 😩
I just wish I looked dainty sometimes instead of a huge boob I'm sure things will improve when I've also had this little one too and I have some form of a waist again.

I had a look on the bravissimo website last night at clothes, I think I'll go have a look today, there's one not too far away. Some of their prices were a bit but I suppose if that's what I have to pay to look like less of a round object then that's what I'll have to do.

I caught DH spying on me earlier and he commented on my "shape" and how nice my waist looks, which made me feel a little bit better perhaps I'm not so round after all.

Also, there are loads of bras sub £50 in your size. Bravissimo or Debenhams will have the biggest range, followed by John Lewis and M&S (just don't get measured there). Once you've found a style that suits, look at online sites who sell them far cheaper. I rarely pay more than £20 for mine.

I'm a 34K and feel your pain. They never shift even when I lose weight smallest they've gone is 34H. I'm getting a reduction after feeding DC3 due in the new year and I can't bloody wait. I get a trapped nerve in my shoulder causing numbness in my fingers and yes bras cost a fortune!

You're probably right there @MrsMaiselsMuff - May also do that on the bravissimo trip today

these are good for sleeping in.

Brastop.com is much cheaper than bravissimo and carries more brands like curvy Kate, Freya etc
They often have great sales and discounts.
I’d highly recommend...

Thanks for all the recommendations too - I'll definitely have a look! Those bras do look comfy @OwlinaTree

My DM is the same and wishes she's had a reduction years ago.

She now has almost like built in dipps on shoulders where the straps support and her back is always aching.

I'd see how you feel a year down the line and if you still feel the same go for it.

Mine are 30J

Definitely consider a reduction when you've had your baby and they've settled down. I'm a dd and it is hard to get comfy on your front. My sister is the same size as you and I know it can be such a pain, literally.

My best friends older sister had a reduction and lift, hers are now a 30E (I think) so still a considerable size. I think I I would like mine lifting too, so they're back where they started and less around my middle

They don't look too bad (when naked) as they're pretty engorged at the moment so have a nice amount of "volume" but when they deflate they don't look as good as at all, rather sock-like.

I’m similar size wise as you OP - was a size 10 with 32e boobs but now a size 12/14 with 34 gg/h boobs.
When I was pregnant I got a lady round from local company who measured me and fitted maternity bras in large sizes. Cost about the same as bravissiomo but with the benefit of having a good pregnancy / feeding bra range.

I’m also a tinny sleeper and found one of those body length pregnancy pillows invaluable for a good night’s sleep.

*tummy not tinny

I'm sorry it's so hard it must be uncomfortable.

On the other hand isn't it a shame that in this day and age you can't donate some boob to the needy. Like me 😂

You are quite welcome to mine @earlynightneeded

@TheLolaMontez I’m a 32G and this is my current bra.
www.brastop.com/search/go?w=curvy%20kate%20ellace&af=prodtype:bras

(Curvy Kate Ellace from Brastop in case the link doesn’t work)
It’s really comfortable and gives me a good shape. Plus it’s currently on sale at Brastop for way less than £50.