To hate having big boobs?

[TheLolaMontez]

I have always had a large-ish bosom, I was a 32E for a long time, on a small frame, I was a small size 10 I'd say, those were the days and then I had children (now onto my fourth pregnancy) DD1 is 16 months and I'm 19 weeks pregnant (DS1 was stillborn May '17 & had a miscarriage this year in Jan).

My boobs are now enormous. Prior to this latest pregnancy they were a 34GG/H and I'd be a 12/14 clothes size. I am now struggling to keep contained in my current comfortable bras

Sleeping is becoming a nightmare, I like to sleep on my front normally but I've got so much boob it's uncomfortable without scooping them up and rearranging them several times in the night. Last night I was awake far more than I was asleep as I was just so uncomfortable. I get back ache a lot too which is probably a combination of them and carrying toddler DD around plus pregnancy aches and pains.

I'm also at that stage of pregnancy where I don't quite have a full/obvious baby bump, just look a bit podgy. That teamed with enormous breasts is really making me look like a beach ball with legs and I have to say it's getting me down a little.
All my clothes look terrible, I have no shape, I'm just round. I'm finding most high street clothes I have to size up to accommodate my boobs so there is no shape to the rest of the garment because it's just too big. I feel as though I look very broad up top and out of proportion.

Finding bras big enough is also an absolute mission. I sometimes wish I could just nip in Primark and pick up a 2 pack for £10 instead of having to trawl through shops that stock the largest of sizes to find that either don't have my size or if they do it's £50 a bra

I'm seriously considering something surgical after we have finished having children as they are just getting out of hand literally.

Does any have any tips of where to shop for clothes that will make me look like a woman and not a ball with legs?

Just to add, DH is quite happy with their gargantuan size but agrees that my happiness more important and supports me in the idea of having them reduced/lifted if that's what I decide to do.

Finally, I know better than anyone how lucky I am to be pregnant with this baby and I am not knocking that at all - I am knocking the overly generous helping of boob I have been given

All tips, sympathy, ideas welcome

Oh they look good @Tortoiser and a great price too! Thank you very much

I feel your pain! I’ve always had big boobs but when I was pregnant it was ridiculous and just felt so not myself. It made breastfeeding so hard aswell :(

For bras I recommend Curvy Kate, they go up to big sizes, they’re really good quality and don’t cost too much! I’ve also found Asda is actually quite good aswell

I'm a 34FF and the size only bothers me because I have to up size in clothes then generally they are too big else where, what I'd love more than anything is an uplift and keep the size.

How are you managing to get a reduction? Ate you self funding?

Get measured and buy online where there are lots of websites with good prices. You can try on and return very easily.

I love Fantasie bras and rarely pay more than £18.

At a size 14 I'm a 34h my smallest natural adult size.
I currently wear and have been for a long time 38 J to 40k depending on the brand, I find panache to come up small.

You can do exercises to mitigate back pain, I spent my early twenties wanting a breast reduction but the best thing you can do is love, appreciate and accept them.

They may go down after breastfeeding and pregnancy, mine don't change much and don't go down much even with losing a couple of stone or a few. So my breast tissue is just me rather than weight gain, iyswim.

If you do decide a breast reduction is best do so after breastfeeding all your children, if thats what you also want to do.

Also if you are within bmi and have constant pain then the nhs may help. Although this may be one of the services that has been cut with austerity.

Good luck op.

I hate mine.
I am 5'1" with 36gg boobs.
I look ridiculous. And now I am 50s I look matronly. A life of neck and shoulder pain.

To be honest it never occurred to me that I could get it done on the NHS and I would be funding it myself (or would have planned to). DH often jokes that he will buy me one boob for my birthday and the other for Xmas

Mine haven't changed loads between pregnancies either, aside from getting larger - they seem to get bigger and never go back down!

I have always had big boobs but have had a lumpectomy on one followed by chemotherapy and radiotherapy. If I had had smaller boobs my lumpectomy could have been a mastectomy so it's not all bad. However I now have one huge one and one slightly smaller with a nipple appearing to indicate right! Even more difficult to find bras to fit me. How lovely it would be to buy a little slither of lace at M&S but I normally have to spend a fortune at a specialist lingerie shop.

Matronly is the right word - I feel the same, images of Miss Trunchbull spring to mind.
I'm currently 27 and I do feel like the large breasts and subsequent restrictive clothing ages me somewhat.

That sounds really tough @user1497787065 hopefully you're on the mend now?

I used to be curvy with a slim waist and have an hourglass figure but then in my forties, mine shrank and are now low and saggy and my waist expanded. Eurgh!
I can understand that having large boobs and a smaller waist makes finding tops to fit you quite hard because they'll likely fit your bust but then be baggy around your waist.
If you find a style of top that you like to wear, you could contact a local dressmaker to make a few tops for you. Once they have a working pattern/toile, it wouldn't be difficult to make several tops in different fabrics.
You could also think about learning to sew, if you don't sew already?

Pre dc- 32DD
After dc1- 32F
After dc2- 32K
14 years later- 32H/34H

I’m a size 14. I hate them! I have to buy clothes in a size 16-18 to fit them in. So ‘nice, smart’ dresses etc are out of the question.

I hate the way men look at them.

I hate the way WOMEN grab them to ‘see if they are real’ yep that’s happened on more than 4 occasions. Once a group of men witnessed it, and intervened, and had the women thrown out of the pub, they told the manager ‘if that was a man doing it, it would be sexual assault, this is no different’.

I hate feeling uncomfortable in bed, and no longer being able to sleep on my tummy

I hate sweating under them in the summer (I know that sounds gross but it’s a fact), and sometimes getting a sweat rash (hint:- the cream for external thrush and athletes foot works for this, as it’s the same sort of fungal infection, my pharmacist told me that)

I hate being accused of ‘showing them off’ when wearing a v neck top- trust me they look bigger and twice as bad if I’m in a round neck, and a high neck is out of the question.

I hate not being able to run, even with the most supportive sports bra on, they still bounce like two water melons on my chest

I hate spending a fortune on bras! I know we use more material, but it’s so unfair! (All mine are Curvy Kate, I own about 35 now after a clear out- but they are ace! Look on eBay for end of line styles, anything between £14-£25)

I hate the neck and shoulder pain I get with them.

So yes I feel you’re pain, they really are an annoyance! I thought after dc2 they would go down, but they stayed big unfortunately.

Thanks Lola. Yes that was twelve years ago and I'm absolutely fine. Just felt the need to highlight a 'benefit' of big boobs.

I'm a 34g/gg and hate hate hate them. I have scarred sides from my underwrires even though they're expensive properly fitted bras. I get back and shoulder pain. They make me look huge even though I'm a size 12 in jeans, I have to buy 16-18 tops. I hate that I have to pay quadruple what smaller chested people pay for bras and swimwear.
Of course because it's a female problem it's classed as cosmetic if you want to sort them surgically.
Pepperberry do clothes to accommodate large busts. Curvy Kate are good as others have said for bras and swimwear too.
There's a factory bra shop that does Panache and Fantasie brands cheap if you're near the midlands.

I had a reduction 13 years ago and it easy one of the best decisions I ever made. It was incredibly painful, and I have had many surgeries for different things, but it was really worth it.

Yes NHS no longer funds breast reduction unless you can demonstrate extreme pain. According to my GP this means multiple GP visits, phsio appointments over a number of years and evidence of back pain (not sure how you evidence that?). They do still fund breast removal if you are a young girl who decides they should be a man of course 😠

I'm sorry you've been reared that way @Theresnobslikeshowbs that's horrid. I don't know why people think they're entitled to grab someone else's body. Just astounding ignorance.

I know what you mean about the underboob sweat, this summer was a killer for me with that!

I also agree about the high neck lines, mine just look ridiculously large and out of proportion.

When I exercise I have to wear at least two bras - one normal one and a sports bra on top to try to keep them vaguely still but it doesn't always work and I have to stop because it's too uncomfortable.

I've often wondered how much they weigh, they've got
to be a fair weight.

Treated 🤦🏻‍♀️ apologies @Theresnobslikeshowbs*

I am a 36HH cup and getting the right bra makes a world of difference to how clothes fit and comfort. This will temporarily help until you have finished with pregnancy and are back to your normal weight ready to make a decision.

With the right bra straps should not dig into shoulders as the band does the bulk of the support, boobs should be separated with no ugly mono boob or sweaty cleavage and the bridge between should be flush with your rib cage. The cup should be deep enough to take in the full boob with no overflowing, armpit bulge or folding. Keep trying different band/cup size/styles to find the perfect fit, order loads of sizes to try out at home then send back. When I eventually found the right bras for me (in my mid 40's!) it was such a relief, it stopped my shoulder and back pain and made clothes sit much nicer.

Hmm re: surgery, I just think of the pain and subsequent numbness my Csec scar has & REALLY wouldn't want that on my boobs.

I'm sticking with exercise & good bras 🤷‍♀️

ilovetofu you are right about the numbness, but the under breast rashes, back, neck and shoulder ache were all fine after the surgery.

It's a big decision to make but I definitely benefited health wise

I agree with Broken Wing the right fitting bra shouldn't cause discomfort on the shoulder straps as the band should do the supporting. My bra digs a bit after a long day around my middle but I don't think it's the wrong size I think it's just because I've got hot, eaten, and generally it digs a bit like a pair of jeans after 16 hours wear.

YANBU
I’m a 34G and I don’t like it. Finding clothes is more difficult. I do buy quite a few things, especially day dresses from Bravissimo.

@Findumdum1 I had an nhs reduction last week - they do offer them.

You have to fulfill strict criteria: bmi 26, 500g minimum off each breast, non smoker.

I was a 32gg/h

Happy to answer questions!

Another vote for Brastop website here. Great prices.

@FuckyNel how do feel after your op? And is the criteria that your BMI must be under 26?