How long have you been together? If you're a new couple, you're still learning about each other; you will have been brought up on different values of politeness; and one person's "normal" can be another's "rude and patronising". If these little irritations keep happening, and they keep jarring every time, then I think that it is a good idea to point them out tactfully; otherwise resentment and seething can breed, and later he'd be saying "but you never said you minded!".
I have some sympathy, because I used to have little peeves about choices of words like this, especially when DP and I had not been together long. Here are some bits of dialogue we used to have, all in our first year together:
Him: I should have made you buy milk.
Me: Asked me to buy milk. Nobody makes me do anything!
Him: Why haven't you laid the table yet?
Me: Because you haven't asked me to.
It turns out that was his way of asking me to, I stamped on that quickly.
Him: Would you check such and such when you go?
Me: (Cheerfully) Don't expect me to remember.
He found that one objectionable, because it implied I would make no effort to remember. I listened, and I changed my usual reply to "I'll do my best to remember". Harmony all round. 
After a good few years together, it's now rare that we call each other out on things like this, because we've learned each other's ways of liking to be treated; however, we believe that communication is key. We usually wait for such irritations to become recurring, though, otherwise it could turn into "she always micromanages everything I say". When we do decide to point out something like this, we choose the moment carefully; usually not immediately after it has happened.
I sometimes object to some of the things my mum says, simply because of the way she says them. She would say "I'm hoping you'll take that enormous terracotta plant pot with you, because I'm not using it any more." Although it's kindly meant, I object to this very loaded way of putting it: it means that I can't refuse the request without "dashing her hope".
Part of this was that I used to be a people-pleaser, incapable of standing up for myself, and I would agree to all sorts of things I really shouldn't have agreed to, like Adrian Mole; so now I'm keen to prove that I'm not going to be manipulated in small ways, and to me that means not automatically agreeing to something, if I'm asked in the "wrong" way.