DP's strange choice of words

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A small thing, but it irritates me.
DP has an electric car that needs to be down the drive to charge. Last night I was home first, so put my petrol car down there, knowing he only has a short journey today.
This morning he says "Can you try to remember not to put your car down the drive?"
When I objected to the way he said it, he went out in a huff.
He also says things like "Did you manage to get some milk?"
Oh no, DP, I couldn't quite manage it, and I'll TRY to remember about the car but I might not
Is it me? or does this sound ok to you?

allows - typo

Those are not strange words to use at all. YABU

Genuinely can't see what is wrong with anything he said tbh. Maybe you just don't like him very much and are looking to pick fault?

It would annoy me too.

I think it’s the type of thing that pisses you off massively but doesn’t translate well in a post.

For example, last night, I was driving in the heavy rain, DH in the passenger seat was doing ‘Hang on, go after this car’ ‘Okay my way’ etc. I could have throttled him. I know how to drive MY car, and I would never pull out just on his say so. If I can’t see, I’ll wait. Little things, at the end of a trying day/week, are sometimes worse than a big, bad thing.

And I'd prefer "Did you get milk?"

You are being ridiculous. Seriously. You sound like hard work.

If he spoke to me like that I'd be forgetting not to park in the drive more often.

Do you like him?

When I don’t like someone, it doesn’t matter how they phrase things, it annoys me.

And if you don’t like him, do you think you could remember how to like him again?

If I ask my husband if he's managed to do something it's in acknowledgement of the fact that he's been busy and may not have had time. Really a very innocent question is how it's intended and received for both of us.

fgs tbh i wouldn't have given it a second thought. everyone takes a offence at trivial stuff unless there is a drip feed coming along.

Managing to get some milk is not about resilience FGS. It’s a polite way of asking. Are there some underlying issues here that mean you take what he says as an attack?

scary good point.

Can he not just get a longer cable for the car charge? So he can park behind you?

It would annoy me too that he gets to use your drive and you don't

Scarydinosaurs
That made me feel quite tearful.
I guess that means something.
Sometimes I think he doesn't like me much.

I won't drip feed, but you are right littlepaddypaws

This would piss me off too. I hate it when the announcement on the train says "do try to keep personal belongings with you" in deeply patronising tones.

It sounds perfectly normal. I'd say it to dh, he'd say it to me.
In fact I'd use it at other places to: at work to my colleague and she'd use it to me. "Did you manage to get the sheet sorted" "Oh no, I'm going to do it later." "Would you like me to do it?"

I'd probably use "Did you remember to..." rather than "Did you manage..." more often, but it's similar.
But with both me or dh, if the answer was "no" then we'd probably say "then I'll nip up to the shops/move the car" rather than wait until breakfast to find we'd no milk etc.

I think I'd be annoyed if you parked the car in the charging spot. It would be routine for me to charge it up every night so it was always full ... regardless of how far I planned to drive the following day.

daff the problem is while most people know what they need to do there are always those who lack the knowledge for dome reason or are just lacking in common sense and need to be told how to do something. it's not a reflection on the majority.
our recycle bins have labels on t the lids saying 'do not put recycling in bags, on recycling day there will always be some bins with carriers poking out of them,

Insane. What a world.

Sounds to me like he was trying to be polite.

It's not as if he said, "Don't park your effing car there" or "You stupid woman, you haven't got the milk".

I can't see the problem.

Both are quite patronising.

If you feel he doesn’t like you very much, what are you going to do about it? You need to do something. Maybe start with telling him that’s how you feel?!

DP uses 'manage' all the time, for everything.
Did you manage to ring the vets? Did you manage to email the electricity company? Did you manage to pick up the dog poo? or similar.
It's obviously just the way he speaks.

I presume there’s other issues going on here to make you feel this way. In your posts you admit your OH has a greater need to park in that space and that you parking elsewhere only means a short walk to your house. So the kind thing to do is to leave it free for your OH but you chose not to. I don’t think his choice of words is any worse than your lack of thoughtfulness.