To spend babies first Christmas " just us"

[bubs80]

Sorry another Christmas one ...

Baby will be 10 months old I want to spend the day with baby and my partner.

Partners mum ,my mom and my sibling were initially coming and cooking which was nice. Then partners mum asked if she could bring along her sibling and wife. We feel this is too many adults and we barely know the sibling and wife so don't want to spend Christmas Day with them. ( for context we have only seen them once this year when I was pregnant )

Now partners mum suggests the three of them eating at her house and then they come and visit . I feel she has missed the point entirely of us saying we want a quiet Christmas as them visiting eating or not is still them visiting ..

What do I do ? Just say no we are having Christmas on our own ? Cancel my own mum too to save awkwardness.

she had originally said she would actually cook dinner for us which was going to be so lovely
Why did she invite them. I see your point. It was careless if her, can your DH ask her why she changed the plans.
Unless she can go back to the original best leave the visit until the next day.
Or if you want to invite her for an hour alone in the morning to see DGC. Tell her to bring the dinner she promised in tin foil

"Why did she invite them?"
I bet they asked what she was doing. Invited her to theirs but she wanted to be with OP/DH and the baby. Blurted it out as a solution/thought it wouldn't be a problem as she'd already volunteered to cook. Human error. Trying to please everyone as is the curse of the middle aged woman. Not to hijack or hurt OP. Has adapted her idea seeing as it won't work for OP. Still wants to see OP/DH and baby on Christmas so suggests something very low key. Still not ok.

OP you're being unreasonable. Your MIL is compromising on what she actually wants, which is to cook you dinner and hang out with the baby. Events have overtaken that. You could compromise a bit too

She's not asking you to cook for 7 or host Xmas day. She wants to pop in for a cup of tea.

Why not make someone else happy as your Christmas gift to them. You can hang around in your PJs and watch telly and potter about with the baby on boxing day and any other day off ever

Me, dp and dd do our own thing Christmas day and see in laws boxing day for a few reasons
They do lunch, we live an hour and a half away, we would have to leave as soon as dd opened presents and not fair on her or us to rush Christmas day. Plus with drive home it's a 3hr round trip
We avoid BIL, he a tool

Since we started doing this, our Christmas has been relaxed and stress free

It's your house and you don't have to have people over. Your allowed to have the Christmas you want.
Suggest boxing day at either place or even out for dinner