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Original poster

I know who was BU and it ain't me ...

56 replies

scarbados · 31/10/2019 11:44

I posted a few months ago about a couple of CF houseguests and got told I was BU to myself for letting them get away with being CFs.

She's a longish term friend and he's her idiot, manchild of a partner. They were meant to be staying again this weekend and arrived about 20 minutes ago. He walked in and swert his hand over the sofa, checking for cat hairs because last time he was here, the poor darling got hair on his coat and had to brush it down.

I reminded him it's MY flat and the cat lives here. Added that I will not stop the cat sleeping on the sofa if he wants to and that if I can deal with the resulting hairs every day, he can cope for 2 days. Also suggested that if he wants cat-free lodgings, the town is full of hotels and B&Bs where there will be no cat hair but no free lodgings or breakfast either.

They've gone in search of a hotel room. And it's gonna fucking cost them because there's a goth event going on up the road in Whitby and nearly every bed between here and there will be booked.

Go, me!

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AryaStarkWolf · 31/10/2019 11:46

Good for you but why even agree to let them stay in the first place if they're always ungrateful and rude?

SmileyGiraffe · 31/10/2019 11:46

What a fucking result!

KnickerBockerAndrew · 31/10/2019 11:47

You agreed that they could stay and you immediately suggested they leave because he checked for cat hair before he sat down?!
Why did you agree to have them back if you didn't want them?

highheelsandweathercocks · 31/10/2019 11:49

Fucking legend.

highheelsandweathercocks · 31/10/2019 11:50

@KnickerBockerAndrew
OP suggested that if they wanted cat free lodgings, they could look elsewhere. It's her home, she refuses to be pushed around in it.

MrsMaiselsMuff · 31/10/2019 11:52

I have a cat, it's allowed where it wants, but I still wipe things down to make sure guests aren't covered in cat hairs.

Sounds like you were looking for trouble. You shouldn't have invited them to stay in the first place.

Original poster
scarbados · 31/10/2019 11:53

@KnickerBockerAndrew I didn't suggest they leave. I offered a choice - stay in my home free of charge and accept our way of living here, or find somewhere else. They made the choice.

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Majorcollywobble · 31/10/2019 11:55

Served them right imo . Sounds like you are living in one of my favourite places . Stand by to repel all boarders when you’re so near the seaside !

SmileCheese · 31/10/2019 11:56

Whilst not unreasonable to want them to stay in a hotel why on earth didn't you just tell them to do that instead of agreeing to let them stay when you already knew they were rubbish house guests? I don't see why you put yourself in the same situation and expected different results. It would have been easier all round to suggest a hotel from the start.

insanepizza · 31/10/2019 12:01

I remember your previous thread, without it I may have thought you were being unreasonable.

Not sure why you agreed to them coming again so soon though!

MyKingdomForBrie · 31/10/2019 12:03

Why on earth did you let them come back?! Well done for standing up for yourself this time though.

hotdogwoof · 31/10/2019 12:07

I remember your other thread.

I'm glad you told the CF. What a pair of wankers.

PanchoBarnes · 31/10/2019 12:14

Good job, you!
I recall your earlier thread.
I do love a great update! 👍 🐱

MorticiaAddamsIsMyStyleGuru · 31/10/2019 12:21

I remember your thread. They deserved it. Well done you 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

whiteroseredrose · 31/10/2019 12:42

Well done!

Grobagsforever · 31/10/2019 12:44

Remember last thread. Well done!!!

Billben · 31/10/2019 13:02

Remember the last thread. Good for you. Let the ungrateful buggers pay through their nose for a hotel. Hope they find something and not just come back to yours when they realise how much it’s gonna cost them 🤞

FizzyGreenWater · 31/10/2019 13:08

Sounds like you were looking for trouble.

You clearly don't remember the last thread Grin I do!

They are both absolute cheeky bellends and thoroughly deserved being told that due to previous bad behaviour they weren't welcome. This is even better though. Good one OP.

Witchinaditch · 31/10/2019 13:25

I remember your thread! Why on earth did you have them back? But good for you!!! Well done OP

sueelleker · 31/10/2019 13:44

Did you invite them this time, or did they invite themselves?

Lunde · 31/10/2019 13:51

I remember your last thread where they were texting through their breakfast order and demanding you move your cat - they are CFs - good riddance is what I say

Original poster
scarbados · 31/10/2019 13:53

@sueelleker She contacted me about 6 weeks ago and we had a conversation about how I felt they treated me as a free hotel and didn't appreciate that this is my home and they (he, especially) make me feel like the visitor. She promised she'd have a word with him but then he swanned in and made me feel I was a host on Four In A Bed and about to get a poor review!

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Lunde · 31/10/2019 13:54

OP's previous thread for those that are confused
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3568101-AIBU-or-is-this-friend-being-ultra-picky

insanepizza · 31/10/2019 13:56

@scarbados well he can trot on to review some other poor hotelier! At least with air B and B you also get to review the people staying!

Sparklypurpleunicornsaremyfav · 31/10/2019 14:11

After I read this I went and read your last one, I thought that was going to be the last time they stayed?
I'm not surprised you told them we're to go, did she say anything?