CoatZilla and the Barbour Boy- The Second Saga

[LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut]

Hey everyone!

Bloody hell, in all my years of MNing I've never had a response like this, I was really helped by loads of your replies, and loads made me giggle (Roast Potatoes!!) and loads made good points.

I'm sorry I can't reply to specific posts but seriously there's so many.

or for everyone who replied and is sticking with me.

So on to the update.....

CoatZilla, henceforth to be known as CZ, text again last night....

Here it is word for word.
mate, your obviously upset and that was never my intention. I'm sorry that we argued, I honestly didn't see the conversation going that way when I brought it up. I think it's better we let the dust settle for tonight in honesty. Probably best to have a calm conversation tomorrow evening?

My reply....
Yeah tomorrow evening much better I think

And she didn't come back last night (good!)

So she's made a mistake anyway......cos Dad was actually out last night ! So we'll all be sitting there when she comes back.

My plan is, to write a list of bullet points for tonight of things she definitely said, so I can't forget and she can't back out of it or claim she didn't say it (I also remembered another bit in the fucking row- where she went "Oh, so a fucking ghost did it?" in that tone of voice- fucking horrible)

Also to sit calmly and let her explain to my lovely Dad and DP that she thinks they might have maliciously cut her coat.

Then see what she says!

TBH unless she fucking grovels on her knees (not likely after that fucking last text- minimization or what??) I'm going to be asking her to pack her stuff.

I'm not being "spurred on by hysterical posters"

I have read all the replies, some have opened my eyes, some have been excusing, some have told me not to rock the friendship boat....overall I have taken a middle(ish) ground.....but tbh it's clear she is
a) weird/horrible enough to think that of her oldest friend and her family
b) fucking vicious in a row
c) now backtracking massively

So....thoughts???

And again for the troll hunters in the back......my username currently is always "LanaKanesomething", and I've had various other names going back years.....so bloody well report me and see what MN has to say, yeah?

If OP were a troll MN would have been removed the thread

Sorry. That amused me.

Is this any good Jackie?

There was a Mumsnetter called Lana
Whose friend's coat was chewed (like a piranha!)
The owner, Coatzilla
Then threatened to kill 'er
So Lana told her to fuck off and live with Barbourboy if that's the attitude she was going to take, the ungrateful cow! *

*Possibly the last line needs a little work.

I'll get me coat!

Would that be your ^deliberately snipped coat jackie*

@AdobeWanKenobi I’m glad that my forgetting to delete a word before I posted amused you so. Glad I could help you feel all clever for a moment.

Brill Shaden
The last line scans just fine, can't see any holes in it.

jackie

A sort of Unfinished Thre . . . Anonymous, Wisdomous?

@IAmPrettyWisdomous I'm still not over there being no conclusion to the "villagers" business

Hi everyone, just popping our heads round the door to let you know that OP is genuine and has been a member of the site for years, so if the troll hunting could stop that would be lovely!

My limerick

There was a woman called Lana
Who's friend was a little bananas
She threw accusations
Causing frustrations
Then flounced like a poor Pollyanna

@SchadenfiendeUnmortified Haha, exactly as such. It can be a warm place for all those to vent their frustration for never getting that final update, a safe haven for all too invested. What truly happened? Was it all fake? Did we not mean anything to them? How could they do this?

I must admit the potential dramatics such a thread could bring would be hilarious.

Of course you can mention positive threads too, speak to members who were involved with some of the classic threads that reached a satisfactory conclusion

It almost seems as if MN is in need of such a place judging by some reactions.

@GorgonzolaTombola What was that thread about?

I'm guessing that OP felt bad about what she posted about someone who she considers to be a good friend, and whose dad is friends with her dad. They've probably talked and it's blown over. She won't feel able to say that here, because she'll be accused of being a doormat.

She may never come back, so we may never know, but it appears to me to be the likeliest scenario.

Maybe someone has shown the friend this thread?

If OP has let it blow over I would not consider her a doormat - some things just get blown out of proportion and then resolve when people actually get together and talk to each other - this can't be a bad thing.

@IAmPrettyWisdomous

No, your faith in MN amused me. I didn't even notice you failing to delete a word. I await your apology for leaping to conclusions.

@IAmPrettyWisdomous Someone got a letter through their door signed "from the villagers" making some odd demands. There was a mystery litter dumper, who was eventually identified and sorted out but the strange things kept happening. Eventually someone messed with the outside area of the poster's house, quite minor things but managed to stay out of the view of the CCTV she had which was obviously very weird. She then suddenly said that the situation had got serious and vanished.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3287869-Oooo-I-received-an-anonymous-letter-this-morning-from-THE-VILLAGERS

I agree with you, @Tistheseason17 I don't think it would make her a doormat at all. The fact is that we only ever here the OP's side of any story here. It's never as black and white as a lot of posters seem to think.

Also, sadly, there is a tendency for some here to forget that this isn't a soap opera where we can expect massive fall outs. It's about OP's real life.

@GorgonzolaTombola and lets not forget she of the 300 pregnancy tests, all taken in different parts of the home that run for about a month until she over egged the pudding with surprise twins...

She won't feel able to say that here, because she'll be accused of being a doormat.

Yep, although given the fact that it appears they are quite skint and keeping the friend there is actually putting a strain on the family finances, that the friend has told her/she knows some of the others look down on her and her family, the friend had made it clear to the OP that she slags her and her family off to others and that the friend doesn't invite the OP out with all these so-called friends (who unsurprisingly haven't opened their homes up for the friend to live with them for next to nothing), she is indeed a doormat.

You'd think it would have occurred to the adults in the family that they need to put the child in the situation first over an adult with a good job and give her marching orders because they cannot afford to keep her in Barbour coats and a busy social life.

@GorgonzolaTombola Okay, be honest with me, is that thread going to piss me off irrationally? 😂 Sounds like so much drama!

Time this thread was removed,clearly the OP has no intention of returning.

@AdobeWanKenobi I wasn’t going to apologise and drop a sarcastic comment but it’s easy to misunderstand things on the internet. Apologies for misunderstanding your intention, it just happens so often when someone wants to undermine another over SPAG.

@IAmPrettyWisdomous I genuinely didn't notice, if I had then I'd have removed the mistake to avoid confusion.

It's been ONE DAY, give her a chance. It's a huge deal to fall out with a long time friend.

She will be back, I know it.