Sorry about the long post!
So, my boyfriend and I have been together 18 months and we're about to move in together. We both work fulltime, but I have two early finshes a week. He's an avid cyclist and spends hours on a Saturday cycling with his friends. However this means that he only has one full day to get household stuff done - meal prep, washing, cleaning etc. But this one day is our only full day together a week. We live about 30 minutes drive away from each other, so every night, bar Wednesdays as I have a dance class, one of us will drive to the others and spend the night. Which has been ok up until about two months ago when it's started to become really tiresome for us both, as we feel like we're rushing around all the time.
Mondays are my early finish so I finish work, do the weekly shop, get home and do some house work and then it's time to go to his so we can have dinner and go to the gym together. I get to his after he arrives home and everything seems fine until I start getting stuff out for dinner. I was thinking kievs with veg and new potatoes but he got pissed because he wanted something "healthy". And by healthy he means me making a shepherds pie, lasagne or bolognaise from scratch. Keep in mind, I have been to work and have not stopped to even have lunch today so the last thing i want to be doing is spending ages in the kitchen cooking a lasagne or such like. This isn't the first time he's got shitty because I want to do something quick and easy with minimal washing up, as even though I wash as I go along I still have to help him tidy up after dinner. On a few occasions he's kicked up a fuss that I've not been at his house with dinner on the way before he gets in from cycling and I've been pissed off with him then and told him so. I dont mind cooking and usually when I have time I will make a real effort and try out a new recipe or make a fancy dinner, but I feel he expects this every time it's my turn to cook. 4 out of 7 days to be exact and nearly all of those days I make something from scratch.
It's starting to really upset me that he expects me to go all out making dinner each time it's my turn to cook, when I've been at work too and I have a house that needs cleaning and tidying and other day to day chores. He's constantly going on that I have two early finishes a week and he doesn't, so therefore he's busier than me so I should be more active in planning dinner etc. AIBU to be slightly pissed about this?