Do people get treated differently if they wear make up

[Mamalicious16]

I don't often wear make up but my friends do. Out shopping and ( it seemed to me but maybe I'm just a bit sensitive today) they seemed to be served quicker in shops/ a bar we went in and the cafe. Aibu or do people get treated differently if they wear make up?

I do get treated better on the days I have made more of an effort, yes. So now every time I have to get the plane I wear nice clothes and bit of make up. Also if I need to shop for something important/expensive.

When I went shopping for a wedding dress I told my mother about this. She went the opposite way and looked a lot less put together than normally. A very worn t-shirt, leggings and sandals, that didn't look much better than flip flops. The shop, for some mysterious reason, decided that I would probably primarily be interested in dresses that looked like Disney dress up dresses. A looot of nylon there. Though, of course, they wanted +£300 for every one of them. Even though they looked like £10. My mum ended up sewing my dress and it was lovely. For fabrics worth of £100 I got a dress, that looked like some of the £800 dresses I had looked at (by myself, mind you. I am not a slow learner.)

Yes. Always noticed this,with makeup smiled at, kind random gestures, hotels/planes always some sort of upgraded service. Without makeup,I might as well be invisible.

Hmm, men don't seem to have this issue or be told they haven't made an effort if they don't paint their faces.

Only because on days when I am made up it’s because I mean business. Whether it’s work or not I’ll dial up everything; clothes, shoes, bag and make up. It makes me feel badass

Although he may not be wearing mascara I think it’s quite clear when DH goes to work he wears the equivalent of my outfit. Suit, tie, polished shoes, good watch, leather briefcase. On a Friday he wears jeans, jumper, trainer and a satchel.

I agree, I even notice a difference when I tell my acquaintances why I don't wear it! It's almost like I have taken off a worn out old coat. 😊

Aibu or do people get treated differently if they wear make up

Yes there are studies about this. Women who wear make-up are perceived to be more professional. In one off encounters a woman wearing making up in a professional setting is more likely to succeed in whatever is going on than one not wearing make up.

It sucks but its true.

I noticed a massive difference with how men treated me when I went from ginger hair to blonde. I got asked out by lots of guys, they held doors open for me I'd be served first at the bar even if there was a queue of people before me. It took me a while to twig what it must have been and I found it really odd and rather unsettling.

I'm now happily back to my natural ginger and thankfully appear to be invisible again.

Hmm, disappointingly, this is probably true. Not so much when I was younger but certainly now I'm older.

This sucks! I’ve found it with clothes too which is annoying. I love loose trousers but I get treated very different wearing a track suit than I do wearing smarter clothes. It’s very judgemental and shit! Hair is another one. Tidy hair down gets me treated better than a pony tail.

Try having grey hair and wearing no make up. I'm definitely invisible.

Yes, definitely. Even stronger effect now in middle age.

I don’t really find this but if I do wear make up in the day then it’s just mascara. Might add eyeliner if out you lunch say but never wear lipstick or eyeshadow anyway.

I definitely get treated better and more positively at work when I wear makeup.
But I also think it may be something to do with how it gives me confidence so my body language comes off as more approachable and lively. If I'm not wearing it it's because I feel particularly shit that day!

men don't seem to have this issue or be told they haven't made an effort if they don't paint their faces. I think they have their own version of it. Well shaved and groomed with neat hair and smart suit is the equivalent. At least we have more flexibility in what we can wear if we are well made up.

Actually I don’t think putting on that minimal make up (mascara) does make any difference to how I’m treated. I don’t feel invisible really.

I feel more confident wearing make up, so I think I act differently and therefore get treated differently ...

Definitely. But as another poster said my confidence is higher when wearing makeup to which helps.

men don't seem to have this issue or be told they haven't made an effort if they don't paint their faces

Men don’t look drastically different when they’ve made an effort. Not to sound like an aged aunt but the trend these days to wear so much make up means its a lot more noticeable when those same people go bare faced

Almost half of employers surveyed by beauty retailer Escentual.com confessed a woman's makeup would be a major factor in their decision to hire her, and women who didn't wear makeup to a job interview would be less likely to be hired.

Meanwhile 61 per cent of company executives admitted that not wearing makeup on a regular basis would have a negative impact on a woman's promotion prospects.

There are loads of similar surveys and studies out there.

honey.nine.com.au/you/makeup-work-office-job-dress-code/23f73cb2-6686-4e09-9d58-2780a77d752b

I think a lot of women feel more confident with their makeup and hair done.

Confidence can often lead to being served first/taken more notice of etc.

I think its more to do with if you made the effort then maybe you get the effort back?

Yanbu - I've noticed it more this last 5 years personally as I've developed a very visible change in appearance due to ill health. It's meant wearing makeup and looking groomed is not always possible for me so I feel very much invisible in queues or cafes etc or getting better treatment. It's a bit poo and I was sad about it at first but it's been a a real poke to look at my other attributes and I think it's made me a better person for it.
On the other hand, it must make me look friendly, unthreatening and approachable as I always get asked directions or advice.