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Do people get treated differently if they wear make up

164 replies

Mamalicious16 · 27/10/2019 17:30

I don't often wear make up but my friends do. Out shopping and ( it seemed to me but maybe I'm just a bit sensitive today) they seemed to be served quicker in shops/ a bar we went in and the cafe. Aibu or do people get treated differently if they wear make up?

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B9ddy · 30/10/2019 06:27

No its about how you act
I have been in a wheelchair and a business suit and peoples attitudes are judgemental until i speak
If makeup gives you confidence you present differently
But wear the white mask and groucho eyebrows and you will be silently ridiculed anyway

Loopytiles · 30/10/2019 07:28

It’s really not about how the woman wearing or not wearing make up acts.

Many people do treat women differently based on this.

Loopytiles · 30/10/2019 07:34

Or if you want gentler stuff about moving on, perhaps

John Lennon - Watching the Wheels

bob dylan - like a rolling stone, it ain’t me babe

Rolling stones - satisfaction

Loopytiles · 30/10/2019 07:34

Ha ha wrong thread Grin

emilybrontescorsett · 30/10/2019 07:46

I do think people judge based on appearance.
I would much rather speak to a man in a well fitting suit, clean smart shoes, crisp shirt and clean looking than one in a grey trackie with dirty hair and trainers.
It's just the first impression and what we associate it with.
The grubby tracksuit and trainers no matter how much they cost do not spell professional and trustworthy to me.
Obviously it depends upon the situation but we are talking about work environments here, not social relaxing occassions.
Years ago I remember an acquaintance who worked in the financial sector in the city telling me that she did far more business deals when she had had her nails manicured, wasn't suffering from a break out of spots, and had freshly washed and blow-dried hair.

Localocal · 30/10/2019 10:31

I think it depends on the situation. As a stay at home mum I don't think I was treated differently for not wearing makeup when going about my business. But I worked in media sales before that and I wouldn't have dreamed of going to meet a client without makeup. That would have been perceived as too casual - like a man turning up to a meeting in a suit but no tie. I think the paint is literally a formality - it creates a barrier between you and the person you are meeting that gives everyone a sense of safety and propriety.

DustyMaiden · 30/10/2019 10:39

I worked in a 7 -Eleven wearing a T-shirt and pony tail no make up. I worked with an area manager for three weeks opening a new store.

A couple of weeks later I visited the head office, suited and booted and made up. I worked with the same area manager. He was obviously very attracted to me. He treated me completely differently and still doesn’t know we are the same person.

JaneJeffer · 30/10/2019 11:03

I like your playlist Loopy Grin

ConFusion360 · 30/10/2019 11:26

I just can't stand the feel of it on my face.

Wheat2Harvest · 30/10/2019 11:53

I never wear makeup but always take care over my appearance - good haircut and clothes and so on. I used to wear makeup but realised I preferred to be without and can honestly say that it has made no difference to how I am served in shops.

GrapefruitGin · 30/10/2019 12:02

Absolutely not. How ridiculous. If you’re feeling invisible it’s probably because you’re acting that way. I have quite a ‘glam’ job so my hair and makeup are always done for work, on my days off I generally wear my hair slicked back and give my skin a break with no makeup. I’m still a confident, kind and open person so I am not treated differently no matter if I’m glammed up or not. I went out for dinner last night with no makeup and a bun, leggings and a slouchy jumper but still received the same lovely service as I do when I’m ‘dolled up’. It’s not how you look, it’s how you feel about yourself.

Jodie626 · 30/10/2019 15:32

Its not the makeup. It's how attractive you are. When I make an effort I get treated better. Of course make up makes people look better. When I had anorexia and lost a lot of weight, strangers and close people treated me so much better because I looked great despite wanting to kill myself on the inside. People are terrible like that. Looks are incredibly important to how you are perceived. It's a shame but its true.

GrapefruitGin · 30/10/2019 19:34

Its not the makeup. It's how attractive you are.

What a load of rubbish.

ConFusion360 · 31/10/2019 07:22

What a load of rubbish.

Perhaps not...

www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6?r=US&IR=T

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