Will A&E call social services??

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This morning I propped my 4 week old daughter up on some pillows right next to me while I got dressed. She lunged forward a bit and rolled off the bed and knocked her head on the bedside cabinet. I know this is my fault, I should never have propped her up, I’d just given her a bottle and as she has reflux she often vomits a lot so I didn’t want to lay her flat, honestly I never even considered she’d be able to lean forward enough that she’d fall forward at this age.

I’ve brought her to A&E, she seems totally fine but I wanted to be on the safe side as she’s so small, and they’re keeping her in overnight just in case.

They questioned me about how she managed to fall as she’s non mobile and I explained that I’d (stupidly) propped her up with some pillows to avoid her reflux causing her any pain and vomiting and she lunged forward and I just didn’t catch her quickly enough. They’ve said that they’ll have to inform our health visitor and ‘everyone’ to make sure there are no concerns.. are they going to call social services??

Rationally I know social services aren’t anything to be worried about if you have nothing to hide, but I so scared. What if they take her and her sister away? What if they don’t believe it was an accident? I’m sat in the A&E waiting room on the edge of tears absolutely terrified, and I’m too scared to ask anyone.

Please don’t have a go at me for propping her up, I stupidly though I was doing what best for her so she wouldn’t be in pain and it just made everything worse.

I've had a follow up from social services after a trip to a and e, the incident happened while child was elsewhere though, they were really nice and I told the truth. I had heard every single a and e trip by any child is listed for social services anyway, so they can check repeat offenders?

OP you'll be fine, social services wouldnt take a baby from you for that. If they call you just be honest and remember a zillion of us have been in your position and out kids have had multiple bumps etc!

I work in the multi agency safeguarding hub for our council. If the hospital staff contact SS, they’d get a call back. At that point we could give brief info like if you were on our systems.
If they then wanted to fill in a form to get us to investigate we’d plan to gather information about the baby from GP, police etc.
Even at that point, even if we found other concerns it would be up to the person referring you to signpost you to early help eg domestic violence charities if that was the home situation.
If everything is like you said in your OP I’m confident you’d have nothing to worry about.
This is just for the area I work in

Update - we’re all home!

The consultant phoned social services yesterday afternoon and as social said we were not known to them and the consultant on shift yesterday had zero concerns that they would close the case. Reading the report and seeing ‘no cause for concern’ at the bottom was easily the best moment ever.

Social services called me when I was on my way home to confirm everything that had happened, explained they had no worries but they could happily offer support if needed.

Thank you so much for all of your support and advice, it’s definitely been one of the most stressful few days of my life but I’m so glad it’s over now!

I'm so glad to read your last update! Be kind to your self today and enjoy snuggles with them both

That's great news OP, thanks for updating. Enjoy your day today!

Lovely news OP! Enjoy a peaceful, snuggly day today, you all deserve it.

Lovely update.

What a shock for you but it's over now.

I am so delighted for you! That was exactly the right result.

So happy to hear that xxx

Pleased it's all sorted - yes, one big reason they call social services is just to check if the family of a child who's had an accident is known to them, so if they're not they won't think anything of it. And tbh even if they are, that doesn't mean a child is going to be taken away, just that they might want to offer more support.