To ask what an acceptable sleep in time is?

[Cravingpies]

DH is having a lay in. He has one once a week and will usually spend the night playing on the PlayStation with mates until the early hours. He was playing until 1am this morning.

DD is 8 months and has a stomach bug (I slept on the floor in her room last night as I was the one dealing with her) so I called him for help at 6.30am just to help with her for a second. Then suggested he go back to bed which he did and is still asleep now.

It’s 10am and he is still in bed.

We need to do a food shop, need to take the dog, need to tidy, I need to wash DDs clothes and sheets from last night etc.

Not that it makes a difference but we both work although I only do 3 days. I don’t usually sleep in as I’m physically unable to so I don’t know what is an acceptable time to wake him?

I'd say now is fine, particularly if baby is unwell and you need a hand.

Why don’t you get cracking on the sheet cleaning etc?

Going shopping - wake him up, leave baby with him (presumably you weren’t thinking of taking out a vomiting child anyway) and you head out. Stopping for a coffee and cake whilst you’re at it.

Sorted.

Put the washing on now. Why would you delay that?

8 am

In relation to the washing, DD has just fallen asleep on me and I can’t get her to fall asleep anywhere else at the moment (not from lack of trying)

DD isn’t going anywhere but one of us needs to do the stuff that needs doing. Loving the idea of stopping for cake!

He’s been away all week in a hotel for work so I can usually multi task and I know he needs a rest too so I didn’t want to be too harsh

It used to be 10am but tbh we both seem to naturally wake 9-9.30 on lie in days these days, me even earlier. But 10 was the point I would send the kids in ha. Stomach bug is a different thing though, neither one of us would sleep in when DS was ill, especially if they weren't the one up in the night.

As the clocks have changed he's already had an extra hour so go wake him

Let it go then
Turn on tv and enjoy the cuddle
When baby wakes, go in and wake up Dh whilst you have a shower etc. Then you head out to do grocery shop (and cake stop), leaving dh with baby and to put a wash on and tidy up.
Get some easy treat food that requires minimal effort. Then take turns holding baby and tidying up.
Then all flake in front of tv

If there's an ill baby and stuff to be done and he's not been up with them then 7am

Depends - dh and I have a lay in each on a weekend and it's a little bit of a carte Blanche. I cherish my own lie in so I suppose that's why I'm content to continue with the arrangement.

I understand you aren't able to lay in, so could you just take a cuppa back to bed on "your mornings" and be off the clock til 10am?

I should add though - in our house whoever has the lie in does the night waking so in your house it'd have been dh dealing with the baby overnight.

YABVVU for using the term “lay in”. It’s a LIE in, unless your DH is a Burford Brown?

I can’t believe the posters who’ve said 7/8am either - that’s hardcore! Personally I think 11am is the latest acceptable time before it starts ruining the day a bit.

10am is fine.

Generally on the rare occasion that one of us has a lie in, we'll lie in until we wake up, but if there's things to do or you've got a sick child, get him up.

I'm the sleeper in our relationship, DP wakes up naturally at 9ish latest usually, if I've slept badly; I can sleep longer. But I'd feel bad getting up much beyond 9:30am in normal circumstances because you lose the morning

🤦‍♀️ @ Dongdingdong I know I’m sorry! When speaking I’d say lie in!

9am tbh 1am isn’t late anyway I’d expect to get up at normal time

@ BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz - I usually do get chill out mornings like getting up a bit later (half 8 wooo) and would take a bath but I’d tend to do something on my mornings off like take the dog or go to the shop etc.

Do laundry and tidying then wake him. Though if he went to bed at 1 waking him anytime from now is fine

@DDIJ

If it's a lie-in that has been agreed by both parties (and the other gets the SAME amount of lie-ins,) then he can lie in as long as he wants. If he wants to lie in til 2pm, then he should.

If I had been promised a lie-in, when our DC were very young, and DH had come and prodded me to wake me at 8.30am, I would have made sure I woke HIM at 8.30am when it was HIS turn. Even if he hadn't got in til 2am.

As I said, there IS no 'acceptable time.' It's subjective.

IMO though, 7.30am to 8.30am is NOT a 'lie-in,' and I can only surmise that the posters saying 7.30 to 8.30am is a lie-in are taking the piss.

All this said, sleeping in anytime after 11am would just be wasting the day. I am unlikely to sleep past 9.30am to 10 am, unless I have been up very late (like 2.30am to 3 am.)

@DDIJ I don't even get up at 7am in the week, it is NOT a lie in!

I think 10am is a reasonable time to wake someone if you need them. I'd leave him til about half 11 if you don't. But as your DD is unwell it seems like you need the help today.

@DDIJ who made you get up and dressed by 7 on a Sunday? And do you consider it a good thing?

The clocks have changed and going to bed at 1am isn’t that late - as it’s technically 12pm now he’ll have had 11 hours sleep which is more than enough!

What?!!! 8 am is a lie in our house since having kids 9 at an absolute push... there is no way I'd let DH sleep til 11! Especially with a poorly baby in the house and when you've had such a broken night.