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Original poster

To give them their poxy bottle of wine back?

144 replies

Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 03:37

New NDN are having a massive party. Still going on - very noisy.

They came round a week ago with a note about it and a bottle of wine. DP thought it was lovely. I was deeply suspicious and I’ve been proved right. Grin

The DC are going to be up in two hours (they don’t know about the clocks) and I feel slightly deranged.

I want to give their poxy bottle of cheap white back to them.

(I won’t. I just felt like a rant. But FFS).

OP posts:
luckylorca · 29/10/2019 01:21

I find that stomping round the house, slamming doors, playing loud music and turning my ear-shatteringly noisy juicer on at around 7 am and then again at regular intervals during the morning (while the poor seats have their hangovers in bed!) really helps to make me feel a bit better and redress the (noise) balance a little bit!

😁

luckylorca · 29/10/2019 01:28

Poor seats?!! I meant poor darlings!

WhinyWa · 29/10/2019 01:36

It's not smug at all. I'm renting. Im pointing out that they don't owe you anything because they can just leave The end of the day without much issue like having to try and sell or disclose neighbour disputes.

Lovemenorca · 29/10/2019 05:41

I find that stomping round the house, slamming doors, playing loud music and turning my ear-shatteringly noisy juicer on at around 7 am and then again at regular intervals during the morning (while the poor seats have their hangovers in bed!) really helps to make me feel a bit better and redress the (noise) balance a little bit!

And piss off other totally innocent neighbours too

Ziraphale · 29/10/2019 07:24

I think you need to find a way to report this to the landlord, or to the company who lets the place out. If it's fairly recently let, you might be able to find the estate agent / middle man person by googling for the old rental listing?

Nanny0gg · 29/10/2019 08:29

But personally I wouldn’t call the police on my new neighbours after one party as I wouldn’t want to sour relations

But the new neighbours already have!!!

They clearly didn't give a toss about the neighbours so why would the neighbours want a relationship anyway?

5am is beyond anti-social. I'd be murderous and I don't have small children.

browneyes77 · 29/10/2019 09:07

But personally I wouldn’t call the police on my new neighbours after one party as I wouldn’t want to sour relations

But the new neighbours already have!!!

They clearly didn't give a toss about the neighbours so why would the neighbours want a relationship anyway?

5am is beyond anti-social. I'd be murderous and I don't have small children.

THIS ^^^

thecatsthecats · 29/10/2019 09:29

I disagree with those going on about a "one off" - because a one off doesn't really change OP's Sunday.

We turn things down at 11, off at 12, chatting after (end terrace, and chatting is usually confined to the few left in the rooms that don't adjoin the next house).

There are these places called 'clubs' for people who want to party later than that.

Original poster
Rainatnight · 29/10/2019 10:42

That’s very much my view, Nanny. They soured the relationship and clearly don’t give a toss about us.

Ah well. Will move on!

OP posts:
curlilox · 29/10/2019 13:02

When our ndn had a big party and kept everyone in the road awake until after 3 am, another neighbour banged on their door at 7am when she was going out to work and woke them all up!

Maz54 · 29/10/2019 14:28

Every time my neighbours went away for weekend their eldest son would have an extremely loud party and when I stuck my head out the window to complain once I had to close it again because I was getting high on whatever it was they were smoking!! I used to complain to parents but it didn't stop. My retaliation would be to wait until the morning when I knew he was having a lie in having partied to the early hours. I would then phone the house phone (withheld number of course), and just let it ring for a while. Sometimes I would let him drop off again and repeat action. Made me feel better for disturbing his sleep.

WalksWithDinosaurs · 29/10/2019 14:30

@MaitlandGirl, Ha Ha, that's brilliant!!

Hairsprayqueeen · 29/10/2019 14:32

Where are folk getting the info that it's a police issue and/for illegal ?

browneyes77 · 29/10/2019 15:13

Where are folk getting the info that it's a police issue and/for illegal ?

My guess would be that noise nuisance is classed as Anti Social Behaviour - which the police can intervene in as per the Anti Social Behaviour Act.

Doesn’t mean the police will attend, as often they don’t bother and being so stretched they always tell you to speak to the local authority first. Generally I think it has to be consistent noise before the police, LA etc will even intervene. (So happening regularly).

There is a myth that it’s against the law to have noise before of after certain times of the day. It’s not the time of the noise that I believe constitutes a nuisance, but the severity and regularity of it.

I’m no expert. I’ve just had noisy neighbours for years and have read everything I can to see what I can do about it. Fuck all appears to be the main answer!

Booksandwine80 · 29/10/2019 15:53

Why would you call the police? It’s not a police issue Confused

Frankola · 29/10/2019 19:53

I'd just be passive aggressive and start smashing pots and pans at 6am. Followed by vigorous hoovering at 6.30.

Then perhaps top it off by turning up mr tumble and encouraging your kids to shout along when he comes on cbeebies at 7...

Elliebelli · 31/10/2019 12:34

Oh yes, Beijing Opera is a great one, and one that I employ.

I have had lots of noise nuisance from my neighbours above. Over the years talking, remonstrating and begging has been pointless. Now I go for instant karma approach.

Beijing opera with speakers just under their bedroom floor for 5 continuous hours into the early hours of the morning or heavy metal full blast in daytime (again speakers just below their ceiling) works a treat.

I have found the only thing that works is “fight fire with fire”. Once you begin to impact on their life, the way they impact on yours it tends to get much better results and at the very least makes you feel empowered rather than helpless. And I say this after years and years of noise problems inflicted on me from my neighbours until I started the above approach.

browneyes77 · 31/10/2019 13:05

I have found the only thing that works is “fight fire with fire”. Once you begin to impact on their life, the way they impact on yours it tends to get much better results and at the very least makes you feel empowered rather than helpless. And I say this after years and years of noise problems inflicted on me from my neighbours until I started the above approach.

I do tend to agree with this after having the same problems myself.

Live in a first floor flat and I had one neighbour who lived below who was always blasting his music out.

One day he had it full blast. Sounded like the band themselves were performing a live concert in my living room.

So I grabbed my stereo speakers and lay them on the floor (so facing down into his flat below). I popped on a bit of Prodigy, Smack My Bitch Up at full pelt through his ceiling (had a dance around to it too). Turned it off 5 minutes later and his music had been switched off and I could hear him moaning and then he went out.

He didn’t do it again after that. Mission accomplished GrinGrin

cannockcandy · 06/11/2019 12:27

I experienced this years ago.
I'd just had a serious operation which went wrong and ended with me being resuscitated. When I finally got back home all I wanted to do was rest.
My upstairs neighbours had form for making way too much noise into the early hours. I'd already put in a complaint to the council at the time and had a decibel meter and all that.
This night I knocked on their door at 12 asking them to please turn down the stereo and explained why.
They chose to turn the music up! Come 3am I was furious. I walked up to their flat, knocked, no answer. So I tried opening the door. Walked in, walked over to the stereo and turned it down. Then told the tenant that if the noise continued then the stereo would go out the effing window. Explained again why I needed the noise to stop, which made quite a few of his guests to give him abuse. Finished up with screaming at him that I would destroy him if he continued lol
Not my finest moment but I was in agony and hadn't slept in a week.

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