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Original poster

To give them their poxy bottle of wine back?

144 replies

Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 03:37

New NDN are having a massive party. Still going on - very noisy.

They came round a week ago with a note about it and a bottle of wine. DP thought it was lovely. I was deeply suspicious and I’ve been proved right. Grin

The DC are going to be up in two hours (they don’t know about the clocks) and I feel slightly deranged.

I want to give their poxy bottle of cheap white back to them.

(I won’t. I just felt like a rant. But FFS).

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Lovemenorca · 27/10/2019 06:53

All the inconsiderate suggestions are also going to bother other neighbours.

If a one off, let it go
If a frequent occurrence, contact your council environmental dept and write to your neighbour explaining how it is negatively impacting your life

Coldemort · 27/10/2019 06:54

It's Halloween, you were pre-warned and presumably didn't object. It's once a year FFS.

pictish · 27/10/2019 07:04

If it’s an isolated event, I think you should have let it slide.

Chloe84 · 27/10/2019 07:06

@Coldemort it will be Christmas parties next. Halloween is not the only occasion you know 🙄

Janella · 27/10/2019 07:07

Definitely do some repairs with hammer on the adjoining wall today!

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Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 07:07

I don’t think any of the super cool people on this thread have ever lived next to anything like this. We were pre-warned and told it would be winding down around midnight. And we don’t know yet that this is once a year.

And we started off polite, with texts and calls from 3. They made no difference.

But anyone who’s cool with it can come help look after a one year old and a three year old today cos I’ve had an hour’s sleep and don’t think I’ll be much use!

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Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 07:08

And I don’t really buy Hallowe’en as an excuse...it’s not celebrating the end of WW2. It was just an excuse for a load of posh kids to get dressed up.

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Coffeeandtv1983 · 27/10/2019 07:10

Some very generous people here who would be happy to kept up all night.

JavaQ · 27/10/2019 07:11

Can you report an emergency gas leak at their address??!!

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Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 07:13

Exactly, Coffee Hmm

In the interests of clarity, I’m not going to do any of the revenge things suggested here! Grin

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Bluerussian · 27/10/2019 07:14

Some people moved two doors away from us just over two years ago, they did the same - left us bottle of plonk and a note, also invited to their housewarming (didn't go). Yes it was noisy and seemed to go on forever, DJ in back garden BUT it was a one off. Other parties they've had have been for their children and don't go on so long.

I think your neighbours were being very nice leaving you a bottle and the party is surely over now and there will be nothing like it again for a while.

wowfudge · 27/10/2019 07:15

Aw go on - the Chinese opera suggestion was genius. Added to their hangovers, it would be quite something.

makingmammaries · 27/10/2019 07:16

Repairs on the party wall sound like a good idea, actually. And wouldn’t your DCs like a dog, OP?

IDontLikeZombies · 27/10/2019 07:16

I'm right with you, no one has a right to keep their neighbours up until mental o'clock. Its a house party not the opening night of the new branch of Ministry of Sound.

Greyhound22 · 27/10/2019 07:17

It's totally not on OP. If they have parties like this for Halloween what else do they have parties for? They sound like seasoned party throwers I'm afraid.

I'm pretty laid back and totally go with the odd party here or there from neighbours (but we're detached so it's not the same disturbance wise) but would expect everything wound up by 1am at the latest. Music thumping through a shared wall until nearly 4am with small children next door. You just can't do it. It's not acceptable. What a way to impress your new neighbours.

SnorkMaiden81 · 27/10/2019 07:17

I think if you texted first and asked (can you be sure they saw it?) then you were probably right to go round.
You were wound up and frustrated.

I might be tempted to pop round one day this week and just explain your position....children etc. But then I'm a walkover.

Neighbourly feuds can be awful and should be minimised at all costs though imo.

Auramigraine · 27/10/2019 07:17

Poor you OP hopefully it was a one off.......
Did they stop the music when you went round?

loutypips · 27/10/2019 07:18

I'm staying in a hotel at the moment and the noisy cow in the next room was on the phone till 1am. After banging on the wall a couple of times I think she got the hint! Annoyingly I couldn't even understand as I don't even know what language it was Wink

CandiceSucksCandy · 27/10/2019 07:19

Develop an interest in kabuki drumming. Give the kids saucepans and spoons to join in with.

ChickenyChick · 27/10/2019 07:19

They sound selfish wankers

I’d be ringing/knocking their door at 7am to give them their wine back, saying it was insulting

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Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 07:19

Yes, they definitely saw the texts, they replied.

Aura, no, they didn’t. The music went on till 5.

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Rainatnight · 27/10/2019 07:21

wowfudge I love my neighbours on the other side and we get on brilliantly! Don’t think they deserve it Grin

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ThatMuppetShow · 27/10/2019 07:22

Absolutely unacceptable.

A "one-off"party loud until midnight at a push is vaguely possible - rude, entitled and not even legal, but you can just about let it go
Until 3am? They were absolutely taking the piss. No one will reasonably expect that their neighbours put up with noise through the night, of course they know they are a nuisance and they don't care.

The law is that you can make reasonable noise, and cut it down after 11.

I would have a word with them, and report to the council. You can have a party and stop the noise after 11pm!

There are places to hire if you want to throw a bigger party - and funnily enough there are rules about them. When you decide to move into a property surrounded by other people, you accept to follow the rules. Bunch of twats, I hope it genuinely was a one-off OP.

ThomasShelbysBunnet · 27/10/2019 07:24

Years ago on old neighbours had repeated parties every weekend. One Saturday morning after fuck all sleep I put a CD on full volume underneath their bedroom and took the baby out for a walk for an hour.
They were slightly more considerate after that.

Birdsfoottrefoil · 27/10/2019 07:24

I assume those people happy to be kept up all night would also be happy to be operated on by a doctor who has been kept up all night (having done on call the night before) or driven in a taxi or be on a plane where the aircraft controller has been kept up all night...