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Is liam Payne co parenting?

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Upordown · 26/10/2019 23:17

Happy to be flamed but when you are wealthy, yet admit you don't see your baby/young child for weeks, you are not co parenting? Everyone has their own priorities and ambitions, but at least one parent needs to prioritise ambitions around their child? I'm not saying it's always the mum, but don't you are not parenting if you see your child once a month or so...

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neonglow · 27/10/2019 01:08

Would we say the same about a 26-year-old woman not stepping up to care for her two-year-old.. ‘oh she’s just a child herself, not ready as she’s only young’ etc Confused

kateandme · 27/10/2019 01:58

what pisses me off is if this was a "celeb" the public hate on.imagine if it was prince harry right now! or another one the public and press like to vilify they would be right on his ass for this being vile to him.yet lovely liam will still be adored.

EmeraldShamrock · 27/10/2019 02:18

He hasn't put the time in to bond. He is a dickhead, many men and women have DC young, they cope on grow up. he is not 16
I bet Cheryl is an amazing DM to bear.

TerfTalk · 27/10/2019 04:07

That reminds me, how did the conspiracy theory surrounding a Louis and his baby turn out? Wasn't there rumors that the baby was fake? I remember some colorful threads a few years back!

Dongdingdong · 27/10/2019 06:05

@StillCoughingandLaughing Except he was not 14.

Yes he was @jennymanara. He first auditioned on the X Factor in 2008 when he was 14 and Cheryl was a judge.

Dongdingdong · 27/10/2019 06:08

I think Cheryl seems like a great mum - I really respect the fact she has kept her baby completely out of the spotlight, unlike those celebs who plaster their kids all over Hello/OK magazine to make a few bob. I’m sure Bear will appreciate it when he’s older.

I’m amazed that she hasn’t been pictured out and about with him even once - it’s quite a feat!

NabooThatsWho · 27/10/2019 06:19

No time for his son, but plenty of time for his 19 year old girlfriend 🤦🏻‍♀️ Priorities and all that.

Lowlandlucky · 27/10/2019 07:03

She got what she wanted and planned for

SleepingStandingUp · 27/10/2019 07:10

If all she wanted was a sperm donor, I'm sure there are easier ways of doing it that a 2 1/2 year relationship!

FavouriteSoul · 27/10/2019 07:14

@TerfTalk

The fake baby is now almost 4 and a dead ringer for his One Direction dad, so I think the fake baby believers have had to bite the bullet and accept the reality that their idol actually had sexual intercourse with a woman and has a real live child.

I remember those 'Mum Direction' threads, they were CRAZY. I wonder where all the posters went? I say all the posters, I'm hoping there were only a handful, it's scary to think there maybe dozens of middle-aged women, lusting after a defunct boyband Grin

TheFatberg · 27/10/2019 07:17

I don't think Liam is young to have a child but I do think he's developed differently than most young people his age because of being in 1D and not really having normal teenage experiences. He talked on a podcast recently about seeing a therapist and said that he realised he didn't know what made him happy. I guess maybe he thought settling down and having a family is what he needed to do then realised he wanted to continue to be in the public eye and travel a lot.

None of this excuses him having minimal contact with his child though, and maybe if he's having therapy he might realise what responsibilities come with being a father.

Boysey45 · 27/10/2019 07:19

Shes chosen some really crap men, Cheryl.
At least she has plenty of money as well and isn't reliant on him. I'd just forget about him if I was her.

Worriedmum1511 · 27/10/2019 07:21

I'm 26. I have a nearly 5 year old and a just 3 year old. There are millions of parents at 26 who are perfectly old enough and mature enough. Him being young and immature is bull.

SleepingStandingUp · 27/10/2019 07:23

@Boysey45 but it isn't just about her, it's about Bear growing up with a guy who is meant to be his Daddy but is too busy being "famous"

DawnOfTheDeadleg · 27/10/2019 07:26

Yes, he's quite the deadbeat. It was a weird setup. I think it was one of those where a woman is ready for a baby and therefore considers the man she is with to be suitable fatherhood material on that basis.

rwalker · 27/10/2019 07:27

In this case I think it's a setup that suits them both .The kids loved, cherished and will want for nothing .

Nquartz · 27/10/2019 07:30

@Venger

Actually saw this in action for the first time I can recall on Friday. Halloween activity with DD, the woman running it looked around the room, spotted the only dad & said well done. For what?! Bringing his child to an activity just like the 20 women in the room FFS 🤬

Potnoodledoo · 27/10/2019 07:31

Hes saying this to the press about not seeing his son.The same son that will be able to read all about it in a few years.

Hes not a great dad,hes a crap one.

GunpowderGelatine · 27/10/2019 07:31

She got what she wanted and planned for

Jesus wept this site has some dense people on it sometimes. And, apparently, a lot of Cheryl's close friends Hmm

Look even if she did think "O want a baby and here my latest fix who'll surely give me one" Liam was a big boy, knew about contraception and sex results in babies sometimes, presumably he was happy to get his dick wet so don't feel too sorry that he has had to endure such a horrific experience such as being a father to a child he chose to have 🙄

Bluerussian · 27/10/2019 07:32

Well in fairness I remember at the time they got together they both very much wanted a child. Cheryl because she is naturally maternal and the time was right; Liam because he wanted someone of his own. Neither knew what it would be like when the baby arrived.

I don't know how often Liam sees his little boy but I feel sure he will try very hard to be a good father. Bonding can take time and it is heartrending when we read of someone who is having difficulties bonding with their child. I can remember reading Laurence Fox was the same with his first one and he shared it in print (got some stick too but that's how it goes). They did bond eventually though.

As time goes on Liam will be spending more time with his son. It's hard when you're the non resident parent. He is 26 now, more of a man than a boy.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 27/10/2019 07:32

Thank god someone else thinks this, thought it was just me and my sister. You are rich and your kid isn’t in school, you are able to see your child more you just aren’t bothering!

Iamnotagoddess · 27/10/2019 07:36

Is she actually into men?

There are a lot of rumours about her and another lady.

ItStartedWithAKiss241 · 27/10/2019 07:44

@StillCoughingandLaughing Reguarding your op about it being strange we all accept her relationship with someone she knew as a child, I also find this for Peter Andre and Emily! They seem happy and a lovely family, but he’s friends with her father and watching her grow up I assume. I’m not sure I would be pleased if one of my friends dated my son/daughter when they are older x

SimonJT · 27/10/2019 07:44

I doubt it, while it isn’t an excuse you have to consider the industry they both work in.

My now ex is in the same industry, when I unexpectantly had to take on my sisters son we worked out that in a 6 month period we would only be able to spend 12 days together due to his schedule, and it not being suitable to drag a fairly traumatised almost two year old around the world. This was with me not working, so I was always available on days that worked for him.

But if we both had similar schedules it would have been impossible to even have 17 days together. It’s also something they would have been well aware of before becoming parents, neither will be surprised about the issue of schedules etc.

The same can also be said for a parent in the forces, shipping, cruising, research academic etc.

diddl · 27/10/2019 07:49

People who say that they both have what they want.

Do they really think that he was happy to become a father & never really see the child?

If Cheryl was so desperate for a child, why not use a donor rather than a guy who wouldn't be involved?