AIBU to think she shouldn't of taken my old toys?

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So my mums sorting out her attic as she's moving house. 19 years worth of stuff.
So my aunt (her sister came round to help). When we was younger my aunt gave me and my sister all of my cousins old hand me down Disney toys which we loved and played with constantly for years. My cousins (her children) are around 5-6 years older than me and my sister so there was a little bit of an age gap but not huge.
Anyway enough drip feeding, I had asked my mum to put them toys aside because I now have a 20 month old son who loves Disney and would love the toys and appreciate them e.t.c. My aunt has taken ALL of the toys home with her saying they're were her kids' toys once. 1. My cousin is gay and married but I know for a fact they don't want children in the future or ever. 2.my other cousin does not want children either and 3. They're all like nearly 30 years old? They are just going to be sitting in an attic again waiting to be played with? Aibu to think realistically they should of gone to my son and we should of got to keep them as they was handed down to us in the first place? Sorry this post sounds so petty but I would of loved to see my little one play with the same toys I had so much fun with as a kid!

@totopoly In what way has OP not "expressed herself clearly"?

I've not seen one instance of her being misunderstood.

You are being ignorant of the simple fact that many users on the site come from different backgrounds. Some have learning needs. Some are using speak to text software etc. As a teacher, you should be more than aware that people having learning problems and no amount of education or reading is going to work for all.

Do you think that pointing mistakes to those who find it difficult is going to help? Nope. Instead, it's another 'punch in the face' for how they don't conform to societal 'norms'.

How is having a learning disorder, for example, a failure on the educational system?
How is having an accident later in life a failure on the education system?
How do I tell a friend who uses speech to text software, which of course messes up, and mishearing a word is displayed wrong, sometimes she misses these that her education failed her despite having a phd?

My friends learning disability is nothing to do with education. You're very ignorant @Totopoly.

If one of the pedants had said "It's should have, not should of!" that would have been unnecessary but easily ignored. What was unspeakable was a group of pedants not addressing the OP at all, but just sniggering at her between themselves.

I've not seen that behaviour since I was at school, and I defy any of the participants to defend it.

I don't know how they have the balls to be honest. I am sure during some part of my education I was taught it's unkind to put people down. We treat others with kindness and empathy, amongst other things. If this means my education failed or that I didn't read enough books, fuck it, I am proud that I was failed so much.

You have a point, Totopoly.

If I was posting and had difficulties with writing and particular with some words or dyslexic or English not being my 'mother tongue', I would say so at the start. I post on another forum where there are two people who make lots of mistakes, one has a sight problem and the other is dyslexic. Nobody criticises them because we all know about it and if a new person comes along and says, "What on earth does that mean?", another person will just say that the poster is dyslexic or whatever. Then the new person says, "Oh sorry, I didn't know", and it's not a problem.

The fact is that people who do have the difficulties outlined above and other issues, have frequently not been helped at school which is quite appalling! Some schools are very good and bend over backwards to help children who have those problems but an awful lot aren't.

I know somebody who cannot read except for a few easy words and their name and address. When he does try to write anything other than a Christmas card it's almost illegible. He has two sons, one of whom has the same problem; he was helped at school but not as much as he needed. I think adult illiterate people, if they know the alphabet and the sounds of letters, could start off writing words phonetically; shorthand is based on phonetics so it's not difficult to do and at least an illiterate person would be able to communicate. However, I'm going off the point.

Most of us have absolutely no excuse for writing ungrammatically. It's an insult to the people they are addressing. Everyone makes mistakes when they are writing but that isn't the same as a perfectly 'normal' person constantly repeating the same errors over and over. They are just lazy!

Ignoring the inevitable shite.... Some of you need to have a word with yourselves. It's getting boring now...

They're all like nearly 30 years old? They are just going to be sitting in an attic again waiting to be played with?

Nah, those things are going on eBay. Sorry OP.

My mum gave all my kids old toys to my sister’s kids, that is fair enough, of course it is. But my sister refused to give them back even though some of them had sentimental value for me. They are just sitting in her loft. So I think I am siding with your aunt a bit here, although I would have wanted your DS to play with them first and then the sentimental ones given back.

@Totopoly everything the OP has said has been easy to understand her problem has been communicated. What part of her post are you struggling to understand?

If a close friend was writing a formal letter or job application I would gently correct their grammar IF asked for help. The pedants here have been horrible. Publicly commenting I see a grammar problem but I will pretend I can't see it and offer no comment on the actual post is not helpful to anyone, then others come along and do the same so it's a big in joke the OP is not part off is awful. It's a superior attitude trying to put someone down to make themselves feel better that is really wrong, and much worse communication that poor grammar.

Luckily the OP is awesome and doesn't seem to let the petty people get to her.

The Hyacinth Bucket brigade out in full force here, well done at holding your head high, OP.

What a bunch of shits - feeling so smug and superior while blind to the fact that their manners are terrible and they treat people like crap.

I'm so glad other people have been able to express more clearly why I think you are wrong @Totopoly. You really need to have a think about this, it's damaging. So what if someone can't punctuate? I'm probably the only person in my whole family who knows how to use an apostrophe. That doesn't mean that they're all disabled. I'd go into more detail but I get sidetracked if I bring up my background and it gets on people's nerves.

So @totopoly, you think that the behaviour at the beginning in if this thread, when you an be your fellow pendants sniggered together and mocked OP without ever addressing her, was excusable?

Well done OP I could never know how to handle bullying on MN but your reaction was a great example to all. Full of dignity

'Takes all sorts'.

Yes. Thankfully, some sorts are far superior to others, regardless of grammar. The OP has clearly demonstrated this.

Hi all,
We'd just like to say that we have deleted several post from this thread that we consider not to be in the spirit of Mumsnet.
Play the ball, not the man, or in this case help the MNer with her question, not her grammar.

And can I have the name of the forum so I can avoid it? No-one should have to post every time that they have some type of disorder. Instead, they should be free to post without dickheads constantly having a dig. It's childish and pathetic and I would be ashamed of myself if I did it.

Go and grab a book to edit, I've read many that have contained mistakes because well we are humans and we make mistakes.

I think it's weird to give someone something and then ask for it 30 years later unless it was made clear at the time that it was a loan. But I might be in the minority to think that.

My aunt gave me a dress 20 years ago when I became a teenager. It used to be hers and she outgrew it.

It’s my favourite dress and I still wear it to my main events. It looks gorgeous.

She had children much later than my mum and her daughter is 10. She asked me to give the dress back so she can give it to her daughter.

I felt a bit conflicted but didn’t think it was fair and still pretending to forget about it because it’s actually not a style for a 10 year old as it’s a sexy evening dress and I still really want to wear it :S.

Sometimes I think I’m unreasonable but other times I think you just can’t take a gift back as it was never given to me to “borrow”. It was given away to me to take.. it could’ve easily gone to someone else and never seen again.

I donno I also think it’s weird to ask for toys back but there isn’t much u can do about it.