AIBU to think she shouldn't of taken my old toys?

[unicornsandrainbows98]

So my mums sorting out her attic as she's moving house. 19 years worth of stuff.
So my aunt (her sister came round to help). When we was younger my aunt gave me and my sister all of my cousins old hand me down Disney toys which we loved and played with constantly for years. My cousins (her children) are around 5-6 years older than me and my sister so there was a little bit of an age gap but not huge.
Anyway enough drip feeding, I had asked my mum to put them toys aside because I now have a 20 month old son who loves Disney and would love the toys and appreciate them e.t.c. My aunt has taken ALL of the toys home with her saying they're were her kids' toys once. 1. My cousin is gay and married but I know for a fact they don't want children in the future or ever. 2.my other cousin does not want children either and 3. They're all like nearly 30 years old? They are just going to be sitting in an attic again waiting to be played with? Aibu to think realistically they should of gone to my son and we should of got to keep them as they was handed down to us in the first place? Sorry this post sounds so petty but I would of loved to see my little one play with the same toys I had so much fun with as a kid!

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MintyMabel

The policing of the policing of the grammar policing is surely derailing this thread too?

Yes, it is.

Well as far as I'm concerned, pointing out people are being dicks on an already derailed thread, serves far better purpose than 'teaching' a grown woman about correct use of grammar on a chat forum, when she hasn't asked anyone to.

If it stops just one person doing it in future, it's as job well done.

Oh, and mouse it’s “demonstrated beautifully”, no fucking comma

Thanks Johnny

Complaining about misuse of words and grammar in pedants' corner with anonymised examples is one thing - trying to humiliate someone who is asking for help or inviting an opinion is another. See how easy it is to make a mistake, mouse? Often it's because of an overzealous autocorrect (that's my story and I'm sticking to it), or typing on a phone or typing quickly. Whatever the cause it doesn't deserve a kicking.

@GeorgianaDovesHouse it's infinitely better to derail a thread in order to support the OP, than to derail it to mock her, don't you think?

I agree it's bad form to criticise someone else's grammar but - honestly - how many times has 'of' been used instead of 'have'? I was beginning to wonder if the op was doing it deliberately to wind people up. Surely everyone knows that writing is more formal than speaking (not that I know anyone who says, "Couldn't of", "Wouldn't of",.....or "Bored of" come to that (which should be 'bored with') which I haven't seen the op type but maybe she will now she's seen this). I think she's having a laugh.

I agree it's bad form to criticise someone else's grammar but - honestly - how many times has 'of' been used instead of 'have'? I was beginning to wonder if the op was doing it deliberately to wind people up.

Or perhaps she refused to bow down to control freaks?

It's up to the OP how she chooses to word her post looking for advice. If others don't like it, they don't have to advise her. They can choose instead to read something else, instead of trying to control how other people word things.

I have to consciously think sometimes when using have, same with some other words. Doesn't help if I say would've quickly in my mind it sounds like would of. Maybe the cos the h bit is silent, and my brain then just goes straight to f instead of v.
Who knows really, my brain baffles me all the time.

@Bluerussian
I wasn't having a laugh, this is how I write/talk and I'm not going to change that. You can understand what I'm saying so why does it matter to anyone

@Bluerussian, if someone thinks that the 've in would've/could've/should've is written as of, then of course they will use it every time. It would have been more indicative of a troll if she'd only used it some of the time, surely?

I never thought the op was a troll, saraclara, but couldn't believe someone would keep on making such errors - especially as op says she did well at English. I thought she may have carried on doing it deliberately for a laugh, it was so 'in your face'! She did say that is how she speaks though which I find odd, I've never heard anyone say 'of' instead of 'would' (I did once think I heard an actor in a drama series say, 'bored of', instead of, 'with' and the next day there was much criticism in the media so I had heard it).

Takes all sorts.

Ah well, s'pose it doesn't matter really.

Absolutely disgusted at the "pedant" bullshit I've read.
My best friend has learning disabilities and has awful grammar, that's the main reason she only lurks on this site and won't ever post. It's a fucking disgrace. Bunch of cunts!

The 'pedants' are indeed disgusting. I received hardly any formal education and I try my best not to let it show on here because of the way you're treated when people realise you're not a master in English language. I often have to Google words and re-read what I've written before posting to check for mistakes. OP I'm glad you haven't let them get to you.

Bluerussian I got good grades in English at school. My grammar wasn't great. I don't think there's enough emphasis on correct grammar in English at school. It doesn't seem to be something students for which students are marked down. My grammar was corrected at university.

I agree it would be far better for your ds to have them than just save them in the aunts attic, but I certainly wouldn't start a fuss over it. No point in falling out over something silly like this. You can easily buy your DS some lovely things and these days most children have too many toys if anything and you have to rotate them.

@Totopoly you're quite clearly a sheltered and uncultured idiot.

Omg! Pedants need to focus on the issue. Not correct grammar.

@unicornsandrainbows98 it sounds like your aunt is one of those people who are not used to others saying no.
They may be just toys, but what's the point in having them if no one can play with them? People never cease to amaze me.

No, your brain doesn't baffle you. You were just very badly taught, and haven't read enough

Fabulous conjecture there considering you know nothing about me, or why my brain baffles me at times.

Nice assumptions that everyone who uses the site has the same mother tongue.

It's not hard to imagine why people may not have exemplary spelling and/or grammar. And when people constantly pop up on posts pointing this out, hardly makes people feel welcome. The brain can process spelling mistakes as long as the word contains some of the correct letters, same with reading a word backwords. Would of etc the understanding is still there and your brain, well mine anyway, automatically reverts it to would've. Which is odd I know because of the difficulties I sometimes have.

@ffswhatnext I'm glad you've been able to explain it better than I could. They must think that people who are dyslexic, under-educated or don't have English as a first language are not allowed to post.

How, pray, do you come to this rather sweeping conclusion? @Pinkyyy

As well as grammar pedantry, the concept of giving stuff away and demanding it back much later or expecting it to be kept is something I've only come across on here.

Normally, toys are handed down because they are no longer wanted and the giver is usually grateful that they're no longer their business.