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AIBU to think she shouldn't of taken my old toys?

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 21:38

So my mums sorting out her attic as she's moving house. 19 years worth of stuff.
So my aunt (her sister came round to help). When we was younger my aunt gave me and my sister all of my cousins old hand me down Disney toys which we loved and played with constantly for years. My cousins (her children) are around 5-6 years older than me and my sister so there was a little bit of an age gap but not huge.
Anyway enough drip feeding, I had asked my mum to put them toys aside because I now have a 20 month old son who loves Disney and would love the toys and appreciate them e.t.c. My aunt has taken ALL of the toys home with her saying they're were her kids' toys once. 1. My cousin is gay and married but I know for a fact they don't want children in the future or ever. 2.my other cousin does not want children either and 3. They're all like nearly 30 years old? They are just going to be sitting in an attic again waiting to be played with? Aibu to think realistically they should of gone to my son and we should of got to keep them as they was handed down to us in the first place? Sorry this post sounds so petty but I would of loved to see my little one play with the same toys I had so much fun with as a kid!

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:29

@gingerbiscuits I think it's because she never made it clear she wanted them back? I think it was a lot of miscommunication on my mum and aunts part

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MintyMabel · 26/10/2019 23:30

The policing of the policing of the grammar policing is surely derailing this thread too?

saraclara · 26/10/2019 23:31

@unicornsandrainbows98, would you be able (in general conversation) to tell your aunt what happy memories you had of those toys, and how glad you are that she loaned them to your mum? Then maybe ask if she'd be prepared to part with just two or three so that you could let your children have have the same pleasure? If you put it that way, maybe she won't be so fierce!

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:33

That's a good idea. I might slip it into conversation when I next see her will probably be at Christmas so she should be in a jolly mood!
@saraclara

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Butchyrestingface · 26/10/2019 23:34

well not really I mean I didn't think about them every day. But if my mum would talk about the attic and what's up there most of the time I'd mention them particular toys.

I take it none of the toys have previously been suitable for a child under the age of 20 months? Are they all targeted at an older child?

finn1020 · 26/10/2019 23:35

Maybe your aunt is just going to have a loan of them for the next 20 years. Get them back then.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 26/10/2019 23:36

The only people who should be embarrassed on this thread are the immature arseholes bullying the OP like they're back in the playground.

blowmybarnacles · 26/10/2019 23:37

So your Aunt has nobody to give the to but still took them?

Two reasons:

  1. To sell on Ebay
  2. She doesn't like you
Gingaaarghpussy · 26/10/2019 23:39

It's those that insist on correct English who irritate the tits off me. Sometimes it's easier to type shortened words, nobody, be they pedantic or human should give a shit and focus on the actual issue.
op I actually had to have a discussion about toys, because most of them were hand me downs, I was the youngest. I really, really wanted the weebles, but cuz they were hers first, blah, blah, and my sister us generally a mare I lost out. Although I still have MY Fisher price camera and fire engine.
Its surprising how possessive people can be over toys.
Sad isn't it?

Notajogger · 26/10/2019 23:43

All a bit moot possibly as she has them now -I guess fair enough if she bought them in the first place but yes, a little odd if she knew you wanted them.

Though having said that - maybe your DC is better off without, if they've been knocking around in a loft for years and before that were used (and all that entails, with dribble, floors, bed sheets, illnesses etc!) by 4 kids.

Italiangreyhound · 26/10/2019 23:45

@unicornsandrainbows98 if it were me I would contact my cousins and ask if the toys come their way, can you have them.

Your aunt's behaviour is really shitty.

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:45

@Gingaaarghpussy
Yeah I totally get it. To some people it's more sentimental than value of the actual item. I mean to be honest I would of had a whale of a time playing with them and remember the sounds they make and what they did. I even had an original buzz light year and woody which I was going to give my son cause they're quite a lot of money nowadays I was going to give them to him as a Christmas present!

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:47

@Italiangreyhound first of all love your user name as I'm a Greyhound lover myself.
Second of all it's a shame cause I think they're in on it too and knew she wanted them back so they will probs stick up for her

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:48

@Notajogger and very true I hadn't of thought of that, they've been through 5 kids in total so maybe they have had they're day

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ActualHornist · 26/10/2019 23:49

Have you even spoken to your aunt directly about them?

If not, then maybe start there, ask her if she has any plans for them and if not (or if not immediate plans) would she consider putting some aside for your son? The worst she can say is no, but if you never ask you'll never know.

If my mum had said to her sister she was hoping to keep some of her toys for her grandson I'm sure my aunt would have assumed they'd be going straight back into the loft they've been in for nearly 20 years already!

ffswhatnext · 26/10/2019 23:53

Maybe they aren’t in anything other than also having fond memories of playing with toys.
I have childless friends. They still have a few of their favorite childhood toys.
Some of my friends where adamant until their 30’s that they didn’t want any children. Then had the shit have I left it all too late.
You never know in a few months time there might be an announcement.

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:54

@ActualHornist no I haven't spoken to her directly. I should really but I'm afraid of getting into an argument. Especially cause my family are very involved and everyone would get involved and I don't know if it's worth it over a bunch of toys. I just wish she had talk to us about it first,but from what I'm told she sounded like she had a plan before she came and done it. She even took some of mine and sisters things insisting they where hers even though my mum argued they wasn't at all!

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unicornsandrainbows98 · 26/10/2019 23:56

@ffswhatnext that's true and I'd be really happy if they did plan to have children in the future. It's just if they don't it's sad they will never see the light of day again

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DerektheWonderdog · 27/10/2019 00:07

Unicorns, I think you're right to think of them as 'your' toys to hand down to you children but arguing with family is, sometimes, a bit like trying to knit with socks. I would ask if you could have a few of the ones you have the fondest memories of. I know that's not an ideal solution.

To all the pedants jumping in with ythr snide 'sitting on hands/biting lip' jokes. FUCK OFF AND DO SOMETHING USEFUL!! How fucking, shitting bullying do you want to be to do that? Does it make you feel important and clever? Just stop doing it you utter twats.

steff13 · 27/10/2019 00:27

I would be worried they're no longer safe. It's probably better that she took them.

Surely it's "ignoring we dickheads"

Also, no, Fatberg was right, it is us. You wouldn't say "ignoring we," you'd say "ignoring us."

Italiangreyhound · 27/10/2019 00:33

"it's a shame cause I think they're in on it too and knew she wanted them back so they will probs stick up for her" that is a shame but maybe just best to forget them then.

Toys have moved on and these very old ones may be less safe etc (plastic corrodes).

"She even took some of mine and sisters things insisting they where hers even though my mum argued they wasn't at all!" I'm afraid I probably would go and visit her and see what she has to say.

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PumpkinPieAlibi · 27/10/2019 04:07

@steff13 - I think that was a tongue in cheek comment on Fatberg's part, in line with the grammar of the opening post.

Di11y · 27/10/2019 06:40

any chance you could ask to borrow some and give them back once your ds has grown out of them?

Wherecanwegetoff123 · 27/10/2019 07:55

Pedants...! Why? People ask for help. Maybe the grammar isnt great. Mine certainly isn't. But does that mean advice can't be given to those whose grammar isnt perfect? In my opinion to flag these things on a thread asking for advice isnt being a pedant. It's called being an arse whole

Op yanbu. But not much you can do about it.

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