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AIBU?

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Original poster

My DH has agreed to something stupid or AIBU?

168 replies

OrangeTwirlGate · 25/10/2019 13:56

Phone call from DH

DH: “Forgot to say, my friend rang and asked if he could advertise his new business in our front garden so I said yes. So he will be coming today to put the sign in”

Me: “WTF! Who? What business? Why didn’t you ask me???”

DH: “oh just - (insert name of someone I’ve never heard of) - and his joinery business. It will just be like the size of a for sale sign or something and he will knock it into the grass. Just for a few weeks or months maybe”

I am raging with him the utter knob. We live on a main route into the city so yes it would be a prime position but I’ve never even heard of his friend. And there is nothing in it for us.

So AIBU? WWYD?

sigh men

OP posts:
Weebitawks · 25/10/2019 13:57

Why does to bother you?

Oysterbabe · 25/10/2019 13:57

I think I'd allow this to help a friend. What harm will it do?

FriedasCarLoad · 25/10/2019 13:58

Now seems like a good time to think of some joinery work you want done for free labour...Grin

Majorcollywobble · 25/10/2019 13:58

Bonfire night beckons ...... donate it to the nearest one .

Praiseyou · 25/10/2019 13:59

It wouldn't bother me unless there is a planning issue - do you need planning permission for ads?

WomensRightsAreContraversial · 25/10/2019 13:59

Not sure this is worth any anguish...

cactusthief · 25/10/2019 13:59

You are 'raging with the utter knob' Confused

To answer your WWYD, I wouldn't do anything, it's literally a sign.

Shoxfordian · 25/10/2019 14:00

Why does it matter?

Topseyt · 25/10/2019 14:01

It does seem odd, and maybe a little bit cheeky too. I can't really work out whether or not it would actually bother me.

See how it goes. I'm really not sure. Give it a couple of weeks and if you don't like it then say that it will have to go?

AmIThough · 25/10/2019 14:01

Yes you're being unreasonable. Chill out.

adaline · 25/10/2019 14:01

What's the problem? Confused

Winterdaysarehere · 25/10/2019 14:03

Write a list of joinery related DIY things that need doing.
Tell dh to message his friend with it...
Win win.

Original poster
OrangeTwirlGate · 25/10/2019 14:06

The problem is a friend who I’ve never heard of.

So not his best friend or a close one for that matter.

Second is the front of my house will have an advert for a joinery business I’ve never heard of either.

Would you gladly have an advert stuck in your front garden for all to see?

OP posts:
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/10/2019 14:06

What's stupid about helping a mate out? Confused

It's not doing you any harm. It's not permanent... really not sure why you are 'raging'.

thisnamechanger · 25/10/2019 14:08

Baffling over reaction. Who cares. It's helping a mate of his.

Ratbagcatbag · 25/10/2019 14:09

Depending on the advert people could assume that the owner of the business lives at your house. So you may get people knocking on your door asking about it.

I'd just tell him no way. Or pull it out of the ground in the next stormy weather and say it's gotten damaged.

tttigress · 25/10/2019 14:09

What's wrong with helping a friend?

MrsExpo · 25/10/2019 14:09

Think you’re over reacting to say you’re “raging” but I would give your local planning dept a quick call. Such ads are a planning matter in some places.

Soubriquet · 25/10/2019 14:11

Yabu

It’s not going to kill you. It’s just a sign for a while

And it’s HIS friend. Why does it matter if it’s not his best friend or one you don’t know?

SunniDay · 25/10/2019 14:11

I thought signs like this were up for a few weeks as a thank you and recommendation for a tradesman that has done a good job? So say you had a nice timber frame porch people would think that this is the firm that did it. It's ok if they are reliable and trustworthy/do a good job but you are basically telling your friends/neighbours and strangers that you trust and recommend them so if they are and awful let people down you wouldn't want to recommend them - and you have no idea if they are terrible as you don't know who they are.

We just had some paving laid and our tradesmen are booked up until July. We asked for this job ages and ages ago and only got it done as they had a last minute cancellation so we had a weeks notice. People looking to advertise might not be good so they are not getting enough word of mouth recommendations.

seaweedandmarchingbands · 25/10/2019 14:12

You seem very angry about this and I don’t really understand why...

shoofly · 25/10/2019 14:12

Don't know where you live, but it'd require planning permission where we live (Northern Ireland)

babycatcher411 · 25/10/2019 14:12

I wouldn’t be raging, but I wouldn’t be impressed.
I’m not a fan of signs on private property/private vehicles. I totally get why people do it, but it’s not something I would do personally, so I definitely wouldn’t be impressed.
That said, he’s agreed to it, so I would consider being lenient for a short fixed period as I try to avoid to give back word to people when necessary.

sheshootssheimplores · 25/10/2019 14:13

I’m not sure I’d be raging either. I’d be hoping I’d get some joinery work for a discount though!!!

GeneHuntLover · 25/10/2019 14:14

Totally not seeing the problem, it's not inconveniencing you at all