My DH has agreed to something stupid or AIBU?

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Phone call from DH

DH: “Forgot to say, my friend rang and asked if he could advertise his new business in our front garden so I said yes. So he will be coming today to put the sign in”

Me: “WTF! Who? What business? Why didn’t you ask me???”

DH: “oh just - (insert name of someone I’ve never heard of) - and his joinery business. It will just be like the size of a for sale sign or something and he will knock it into the grass. Just for a few weeks or months maybe”

I am raging with him the utter knob. We live on a main route into the city so yes it would be a prime position but I’ve never even heard of his friend. And there is nothing in it for us.

So AIBU? WWYD?

sigh men

If your property is leasehold it may prohibit this.

I dont understand why you are raging. YABU.

i think it would be different if it was something like an abortion clinic or a sex shop (something that would have neighbours talking). but all you are doing it helping a friend. small businesses need clients and every penny he brings in will help on his mortgage or childrens/ grandchildrens lives. If you can help (and its not embarrassing) then why not. One day you may need help from someone too :)

Would you gladly have an advert stuck in your front garden for all to see?

If it was for my husband's mate then sure, I wouldn't give a shit 🤷‍♀️

Try casting your bread for once.
Joiners are handy people to owe you a favour.
Even then, it costs you nothing and could help the pal, stop being dramatic and churlish.

If my DP did this without asking me first he’d be having his balls joined to a chair.

YABU. Nobody's expecting you to put in on your mantelpiece! We once had a front garden full of someone else's sculptures...plus a sign for a week! We live on a busy high street in a tourist destination market town and there was a big sporting event happening. Why wouldn't we?

Would you gladly have an advert stuck in your front garden for all to see?

It’s not my knickers. Sure.

Blimey, OP ! ! Either there's a massive drip feed coming, or you really need to take a deep breath and calm down. It's a sign. A temporary sign. That's all...

Don’t see a problem. Yabu

I'd be annoyed if it was in my eyesight, or caused people to come knocking, wanting joinery advice or services!

Be calm OP. Nothing bad has happened. Also, sigh, men Charming.

And yes, he should have asked you first and perhaps wangled a deal.

You normally get a discount for doing this when you have work done. Ask what the benefit is to you.

Huh. I wouldn’t like it either. Why would he agree such a thing without at least discussing it with you?

A couple of questions I would need to think about...

Do you need planning permission for the sign?
Are people going to knock on your door thinking it's the person living in the house offering the service?
If he is a rubbish joiner, might annoyed people come knocking on the door, especially if he doesn't answer his phone?

Would you gladly have an advert stuck in your front garden for all to see?

For a friend's joinery business, yes. For someone's S&M dungeon, no.

Was prepared to side with you given the lack of consultation from DH here, OP.

However ... And there is nothing in it for us.

• has swayed me the other way. YABU. Is DH only allowed to do favours for his friends if YOU get somethig out of it? You must be a delight to live with ...

Your DH should have spoken to you before he agreed something for your shared property. If it really bothers you OP, check your deads which might say you can not advertise on your property (mine says that). Also, if your property sits on the main road, there might be a highway code/council regulation for your area which prohibits advertisements on or near the road (my charity was caught out on this when we advertised our Christmas Fayre once).
A few things would bother me about this OP.

Have you or your DH actually seen the sign that this 'friend' will be putting up in your front garden?

Just for a few weeks or months maybe Maybe you should seek clarification on this point before agreeing to allow the sign or not.

Also, if you are supplying your garden for free advertising for a person and company you've never even heard of, I would think the least they could do was offer you some type of service in exchange for you allowing them to advertise on your property.

Another asking about planning permission for the sign. If it was as easy to advertise by putting a big sign in a friend's garden, they'd be everywhere.

Yabu I dont see rhe big deal. Seems a nice thing to do.

Also - if it's not allowed could the council fine you?

Would it make your property stand out to tool thieves? (Rife around here)

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You think you have problems? A friend of mine agreed to similar and it turned out to be a giant (4 foot sq) Ukip banner as the friend was standing for council. I laughed. So much.