My DH has agreed to something stupid or AIBU?

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Phone call from DH

DH: “Forgot to say, my friend rang and asked if he could advertise his new business in our front garden so I said yes. So he will be coming today to put the sign in”

Me: “WTF! Who? What business? Why didn’t you ask me???”

DH: “oh just - (insert name of someone I’ve never heard of) - and his joinery business. It will just be like the size of a for sale sign or something and he will knock it into the grass. Just for a few weeks or months maybe”

I am raging with him the utter knob. We live on a main route into the city so yes it would be a prime position but I’ve never even heard of his friend. And there is nothing in it for us.

So AIBU? WWYD?

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I really wouldn’t mind though

Did your DH know ALL your friends?

Would you only help one of your friends if there was something in it for you?

Do you want him to ask his friend for money?

I would let him put it up and if it causes you too much hassle then remove it.

@fernandoanddenise You really wouldn't mind a big board up in your front garden, advertising some random company?

When we had our roof replaced the contractor put up a sign like that at by the road, but they took it down when the project was finished. I was okay with that.

But for someone I don't know, never. By having it on your property people assume you are endorsing the business when you really know nothing about them.

Hmm, I'd definitely take it as a sign, OP.

Nothing in it for us....fucking hell....

@realbecca, but you know that it's usual to pay someone to advertise in that way, don't you? The OP is just saying that they wouldn't be getting paid.

Yeah sorry but I think you're being AIBU

No. I really really wouldn’t mind. Genuinely honestly I wouldn’t mind if my DH agreed to it.

My post above was oddly phrased - I didn’t mean only if my DH agreed to it! Simply I’d not be at all bothered in the OPs position.

Why does there have to be something in it for you? Can't you help someone out without gaining yourself?
It's a bloody sign, I can understand you been miffed that he didn't run it passed you first but to be utterly raging with him and calling him a nob is way OTT, chill out.

Some leases and insurance companies have clauses against business advertising...

Plus if the OP lives in a conservation area, listed building, local authority or newbuild property, there could be covenants restricting or preventing the sign.

The point being that it could well not simply be a matter of the mate coming round and banging his sign up on the front lawn. But I don't think he or the OPs DH are going to bother thinking about that.

That's what would annoy me. Something that has nothing to do with me bringing up necessary life admin/mental load for me, because neither of the other parties will bother to address the issue.

Do you know how underfunded councils are? The listed building next to us is sporting a plastic front door because they haven’t got enough staff to enforce the restrictions.

The other side of the coin, though, is that council planning department have performance-related requirements, including successful planning action, fines and prosecutions. Some idiot putting an unlawful advertising sign up in their front garden is an easy win for them: send someone round to take a couple of photos, send out an automated letter, job done.

To be honest, even if you are not living in a conservation area, there may be some neighbours resenting the sign.

@fernandoanddenise, do you think you might mind if or when you got fined and/or prosecuted?

Very weird thread, odd issue and odd strength of responses! Quirky mn. So, the only time I've seen this kind of thing it's when a neighbour has had work done. If this joiner hadn't done work for you then why is his sign signifying on your front garden? I mean literally why there? It's odd.

It’s stupid, yes. I am not talking about your husband agreeing to help a friend.