To stop giving a lift?

[Roolou658]

Hello first time poster. More looking for advice on a work situation. A girl in work was stuck for a lift a few weeks back to the bus station. As it was on my way I offered. Now the last few weeks it's been at least twice a week and then a full week here and there. I didn't really mind as one offs but I'm starting to feel a bit put out.
We work 3 varying shifts patterns and the other day she informed me she has asked management to change her shifts so she can be in the same as me so she can have a lift. That would mean I'd be giving her a lift for nearly 2 and half weeks straight and i don't really want to. I just don't know how to get out of it now. It's on the way but it's my only quiet time and I feel like it's just been assumed it's ok. I really just want to say sorry but I can't but i don't know how to politely. The other day I had to take my boyfriend to work so text her the day before to say sorry I couldnt give her a lift and she planned out my route to say that if I went earlier I'd still have time to pick her up and if I didn't could I still give her a lift back? She also asked if I could let her know a week in advance my plans so she can plan her travel. I get it but I don't feel I should have to give someone my schedule and then be tied to it. Any advice would be much appreciated.

Cf! What happened today op, have you spoken to her? Don't be afraid to just simply say NO. Getting her to work is not your responsibility. How would she do it if you weren't taking her?

What have you text her, @Roolou658

Hiya. I said along the lines what everyone said. That it wouldn't be convenient from next week. Haven't heard back yet but at least it's a start. Thanks everyone

I would hate that! But be proud of yourself for helping protect the environment at least 😄

Hopefully you’ll be a chauffeur no more.

Besides the fact that she is indeed a CF, you may not be covered on your insurance if you are giving regular lifts and if you took petrol money you would have to be careful that you were not profiting from it (you would need to work out exactly how much extra petrol used then percentages of wear and tear, mot, insurance etc) as then you would technically have to pay tax and would probably then need business insurance cover too. Given her attitude should there be an accident I don't think she would hesitate to claim against you.

Do please let us know how she replies

Good for you OP.

Well done op, stay strong.

Well done OP, don't get into a texting debate, you've made your decision, don't give her any room to discuss this. Don't engage.

I had this, CF worked in personnel and looked up who lived near her, she was horrible, in the end I said it wasn't working for me, she never spoke another word to me.

Hopefully you won't hear back and on Monday morning drive straight to work and if she asks for a lift in the evening say, 'as I texted you already, it doesn't suit.'

Read this yesterday. Honestly, it would usually be overkill but given her request to change her hours and the fact that there's been trouble before, I'd give HR an informal heads-up on Monday. Just speak to whoever you're friendliest and say that it's not a big deal, but you thought they should know you're not giving her a lift any more and you're just telling them given the issues above. You don't expect it to be an issue for you, but you don't want anyone to go to unnecessary work with shift changes etc.

Have you heard from your CF OP?

@Roolou658 - just wondering if you've had any more requests for lifts?