i work FT and SIL is a SAHM. Most times we get along ok, but then all of a sudden she would say something that i would fine extremely insensitive. Or am i just being too sensitive?
For example, DD going to school from Sept and i said "she's quite confident, i think she's going to be ok". To which she says "oh she'll be fine, she's used to you not being around, you don't really have that bond anymore given you went back to work quite early". Once she was talking about another mum who works FT "they (other mum and husband) are going away on holiday to a hotel and they are making sure there are childcare facilities. They already have a FT nanny, really, what is the point of having children if you don't want to see them even when you're on holiday?". We have a FT nanny, who sometimes comes with us on holiday and she knows this.
Believe it or not, so far i have bitten my tongue and not said anything when she says these things, but i'm scared one day i'm going to say something i will regret.
PLEASE NOTE i am not having a go at SAHM because i know not all of them think this way (i have a good friend who is a SAHM who keeps telling me she wished she had my job so it was a no-brainer to go back to work - as it just wouldn't work financially for them for her to go back to work. She says she wished she had the option - not necessarily she would work FT).
Just re-read this and realised just having to let off steam really. Name changed as SIL might actually be on here.