to let my daughter wear this dress as a wedding guest?

[AlicePL]

Or does it look too much like a bridesmaid/flower girl dress?

This isn't the exact dress, but it's similar. I've read threads on here about parents dressing their young daughters as bridesmaids because they're offended that they weren't chosen, and it's occurred to me I'm not really sure what the difference between a child's party dress and a bridesmaid dress is! I'm guessing it's fine because it's blue rather than white, but I just wanted to make sure.

My rule of thumb is always, if you’re second guessing yourself, it’s a no.

Personally I wouldn’t. But if she really wants to wear it maybe speak to the bride?

When one of my oldest friends got married the best mans wife turned up in what looked to be an adults bridesmaid dress and her DD was dressed in a flower girl dress (in the wedding colours), it looked really weird tbh and the bride wasn’t aware that they were wearing them.

I think it's ok if she is four or under and the bridesmaids are not wearing blue. Otherwise, no.

It could either be worn for fancy dress or as a bridesmaid.It’s a bit over the top otherwise.

I would ask the B&G about the colour scheme. As long as if isn’t similar to theirs and you keep your dd well away from any official photos, why can’t your dd dress up as a princess for the day without adults judging her?

When dd was 3 we attended a wedding. I’d picked up a bridesmaids dress mistakenly priced for £2.50 instead of £25 when she was a baby and it just so happened fitted her for the wedding. I got dh to check twice with the B&G and they were fine about her wearing it. Not for one moment did anyone assume she was part of the wedding party.

As for people presuming your dd wanted to be a bridesmaid, I mean really, are adults genuinely this judgmental irl? It definitely didn’t occur to me that I had wanted dd to be a bridesmaid. That would have been wholly unexpected. The groom was a friend and former colleague. I hardly knew his wife.

I think you need to find something in monsoon or debenhams if your budget won't stretch to monsoon.
Personally I think the blue looks cheap and Disney Princessy. Which is fine for a kids party and not at all acceptable for a wedding, unless the wedding is also a very cheep low end, tacky affair(thinking Katy Price type wedding).
Sorry, just my personal opinion.

Fucks sake, yes I’m 53, my Disney days are well and truly over, and neither of my DC were even DIsney fans (although we went to Florida a few times) but the first thing I thought of was Disney Cinderella.

What are you thinking?

Bridesmaid dress

Some strong feelings about this but I think for a small child this style of dress is fine, maybe an under-4? But even an under 10yo in a dress like this wouldn’t make me think ‘oh her mum wants her to be a bridesmaid’ is just think she looks cute in a party dress but I seem to be in the minority!

My aunts does this and it infuriates me. She’ll even ask what the colour scheme is. So when he children aren’t invited to be a bridesmaid at recent family weddings, she asks what colour scheme their going for them will dress she’d girls in that colour in big bridesmaidy dresses and get their hair (and makeup) done professionally. It’s an absolute cheek and if that were to happen at my wedding she’ll be swiftly asked to go home and change them.

More Disney store

100% do not dress her in that

It’s definitely either a bridesmaid dress or a disney princess dress

• Just buy her a normal pretty dress

The OP has already said she won’t!

@IDontWantToCookTonight people need to start lying to your aunt about the colour scheme! That’s bonkers

@IDontWantToCookTonight people need to start lying to your aunt about the colour scheme! That’s bonkers

Not for one moment did anyone assume she was part of the wedding party

Yes they did, they just did that British thing if being polite. They aren’t judging the child - they didn’t make the choice. Adults should know better.

It looks like a Cinderella dress up dress. Not suitable for a wedding IMO

It’s definitely a bridesmaid’s dress. Everyone at the wedding would think it was. The bride would possibly be offended - if not, speechless. It’s a bridesmaid’s dress and not appropriate in any way.

Love @DropZoneOne dress

I think you've already decided OP but I'll add my voice to the consensus- I definitely wouldn't put her (or your dad but that is a whole other thread) in that. Sure you will find something lovely though.

Unless she's 4 or under and it's her favourite dressing up outfit, hell no. It looks like an extra from Frozen. Not appropriate at all.

Little girl's party dresses aren't full length. Dressing up costumes and bridesmaid dresses are.

If she's quite young (under 6) i'd say it's ok, as I've found it hard to find a dress for little ones that isn't overly frilly, but any older and it's a little bit too much if she's not in the wedding party.

I cant link from my phone but there is a "Petronas" dress in Boden, same colour, chiffon, still tacky but not quite so shocking.
It might appeal to a 6 year old?

No, very bad form, it looks exactly like a bridesmaid dress

I'm going against the grain - I didn't care what little girls dressed up in when I got married. And my now-ex MIL wore a creamy white dress, and I didn't care about that either - she looked and felt great, and if anyone noticed they certainly didn't say anything to me. (I miss my ex-MIL; she was lovely.)

Looks like fancy dress to me