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to let my daughter wear this dress as a wedding guest?

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AlicePL · 22/10/2019 20:34

Or does it look too much like a bridesmaid/flower girl dress?

This isn't the exact dress, but it's similar. I've read threads on here about parents dressing their young daughters as bridesmaids because they're offended that they weren't chosen, and it's occurred to me I'm not really sure what the difference between a child's party dress and a bridesmaid dress is! I'm guessing it's fine because it's blue rather than white, but I just wanted to make sure.

to let my daughter wear this dress as a wedding guest?
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PixieDustt · 22/10/2019 22:33

😳 definitely not!

Bluerussian · 22/10/2019 22:35

That is a very pretty dress, Alice, in a beautiful colour but it does look a bit too fancy for a wedding guest - for a bridesmaid it would be lovely.

The monsoon dresses that two people have posted are far more suitable, very charming. She'd look a treat in one of those.

GreenTulips · 22/10/2019 22:36

How often in life do you get to wear a really fancy dress?

Them dress are hot, kid can’t go to the loo without help, they get static and look awful and so old fashioned.

TrickyKid · 22/10/2019 22:38

It looks like a fancy dress costume.

AndAnotherNameChanger · 22/10/2019 22:53

Wouldn't bother me at all. In fact I'd think it really cute she'd dressed up as a princess for a special occasion.

But I would check the bridesmaids weren't wearing that colour.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 22/10/2019 23:14

I'd think anyone dressing their daughter like that for a wedding where she wasn’t a bridesmaid either had a massive chip on her shoulder about said daughter not being a bridesmaid, or had lost touch with reality.

Lottle · 22/10/2019 23:17

As long as blue is not the wedding colour scheme I think it is fine but I seem to be in the minority!

Majorcollywobble · 22/10/2019 23:19

It’s too much for a wedding guest . Plus it doesn’t look at all flame retardant. Safety first with the fashion for candles / tea lights at weddings .

RubbingHimSourly · 22/10/2019 23:26

It's a party dress. It will be fine for the night time but she needs a formal dress / something smarter for the ceremony.

Djimino · 22/10/2019 23:44

I think it’s ok too. If a kid attended a wedding wearing it it wouldn’t cross my mind that it was too bridesmaid’y or too costume’y. I don’t love it myself but I’d assume it was the type of dress a little girl would love to wear. It’s sparkly and floaty.

As long as it’s not the same colour as the actual bridesmaids then I think there is zero chance of anyone thinking the OPs daughter is a bridesmaid herself.

PepePig · 23/10/2019 00:06

I can see why a little girl would want to wear it but maybe it (well a cheaper version) would be better for Halloween rather than a wedding? It's very Cinderella and OTT.

FindusCrispyPancakes · 23/10/2019 00:22

It looks more like fancy dress to me (sorry) it's very cinderella/Anna (frozen). My daughter would love it, but only because it looks like a princess dress! I wouldn't let my daughter wear it to a wedding personally, it's a bit ott for a wedding guest.

Stinkycatbreath · 23/10/2019 00:27

There was not a cat in hells chance that I would care at all what anyone wore to my wedding let alone a little child. Dress her in what she is happy in.

ladybirdsarelovely33 · 23/10/2019 01:25

I would have no problem if a young girl - less than 10 yo - wanted to dress up like that at my wedding. Think it's cute that she wanted to make an effort and dress up tbh.

SD1978 · 23/10/2019 02:00

What was the occasion that you originally had the dress for. And how old is the child? Looks too formal for a guest at a wedding, and yup, like a bridesmaid dress. If she's under 4- maybe. But I wouldn't use it. Even then she's look like a flower girl wannabe ring in. It's a very formal dress.

lilypoppet · 23/10/2019 17:28

It would make your daughter look like she wanted to be a bridesmaid

Whatwouldbigfatfannydo · 23/10/2019 17:32

Apart from it being hideous and a blatant fire hazard, yes it's definitely in flower girl territory.

ilovetofu · 23/10/2019 17:37

How old is your daughter op?

SallyLovesCheese · 23/10/2019 17:42

A friend asked me before my wedding if her 6-year-old could wear a white bridesmaid dress, worn when actually a bridesmaid at a different wedding. I said yes. I really wasn't bothered what she was wearing, it was just lovely to see them. In a couple of the photos it does look as though she was a flower girl as I had two slightly older girls in white dresses as flower girls, but I really don't care!

OP, just ask your friend, if you're close enough. If you're not, maybe steer clear.

Spied · 23/10/2019 17:43

Really beautiful but she can not wear that as a regular guest!

Walnutwhipster · 23/10/2019 17:46

No. A friend invited to our wedding allowed their daughter to think she was a bridesmaid at our wedding and dressed her similarly! So rude.

TheFatberg · 23/10/2019 17:49

The OP has already responded people, no need to keep piling on.

SunshineCake · 23/10/2019 17:49

Bridesmaid dresses aren't always just white..