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to let my daughter wear this dress as a wedding guest?

157 replies

AlicePL · 22/10/2019 20:34

Or does it look too much like a bridesmaid/flower girl dress?

This isn't the exact dress, but it's similar. I've read threads on here about parents dressing their young daughters as bridesmaids because they're offended that they weren't chosen, and it's occurred to me I'm not really sure what the difference between a child's party dress and a bridesmaid dress is! I'm guessing it's fine because it's blue rather than white, but I just wanted to make sure.

to let my daughter wear this dress as a wedding guest?
OP posts:
HUZZAH212 · 22/10/2019 21:05

There's lots of nice party style jumpsuits out at the minute too.

SarahAndQuack · 22/10/2019 21:06

To me, it looks like fancy dress. If I were getting married, I wouldn't mind what a little girl wore, but I would wonder why her parents thought a wedding was a fancy-dress thing.

Hollyhobbi · 22/10/2019 21:07

The monsoon dress is beautiful.

SpookilyBadOooooooh · 22/10/2019 21:11

You say it won’t let her wear it’ That sounds like she already has it? Why not find out what colour the bridesmaids are wearing and if it’s not blue let her wear it if she wants to. You have to be spectacularly up yourself to be bothered by what a child wears to your wedding!

PrincessHoneysuckle · 22/10/2019 21:12

You'll get the piss ripped out of you.Yabu

SpookilyBadOooooooh · 22/10/2019 21:12

Not ‘it’ 🙄 ‘you’

Idontwanttotalk · 22/10/2019 21:16

The monsoon dress DisgruntledGuineaPig has posted is fine but the other that has been posted by DropZoneOne is awful. The design doesn't match up at the seam on the back and is so noticeable with those huge godawful peonies.

bridgetreilly · 22/10/2019 21:16

Not absolute rules but a guide:
Normal party dress: patterned, cotton, knee length, would look fine with a cardigan. In winter, could be velvet.
Bridesmaid/mini-prom dress: one colour, shiny fabrics or sequins or both, ankle length/mid-calf, would look silly with a cardigan.

anothernamejeeves · 22/10/2019 21:16

Only if you are travellers and it's a travellers wedding

shearwater · 22/10/2019 21:20

Let her wear it if she wants to. Only daft buggers on MN care about shit like this, no-one in real life cares. There were three little girls at my wedding in bridesmaidy dresses, clearly they were not bridesmaids as they didn't walk me down the aisle and no-one was confused

Belgianbuns · 22/10/2019 21:36

No way, it’s is a dressing up outfit or a very nasty bridesmaid dress. Don’t embarrass yourself

FrancisCrawford · 22/10/2019 21:44

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StrawberryTot · 22/10/2019 21:46

It looks like a Cinderella dress, I wouldn’t be offended or bothered if any little girl wore that dress to my wedding. My DD would have loved that back in the day.

However my experience since planning my wedding is how precious people can become over details, if it’s a good friends wedding just ask them.

ymf117 · 22/10/2019 21:56

I personally wouldn't, looks like part of the wedding party

Iceburglettuce · 22/10/2019 21:57

@iwantavuvezela I can't believe the dad comment hasn't been blown up more... made me laugh out loud 😆

angelikacpickles · 22/10/2019 21:57

YABU to dress anyone in that going to anything (unless it’s fancy dress).

Cohle · 22/10/2019 21:59

It looks like Cinderella fancy dress. I think at a wedding the sartorial focus should be on the happy couple, not on random guests. It's just too attention seeking - sorry.

Bluntness100 · 22/10/2019 21:59

The one drop zone one posted is lovely and very appropriate.

The one you posted op is a shocker.

lovelycuppateas · 22/10/2019 22:04

A bit taken aback by the force of feeling here. I just wouldn't mind at all if a little girl came dressed up to the nines for a wedding in a shiny dress floaty. How often in life do you get to wear a really fancy dress? But I'm clearly in a minority (I don't care if other people wear white either, as I didn't wear white at either of my weddings), so other guests might feel strongly that this breached wedding law.

raspberryk · 22/10/2019 22:05

The ones the three ladies have posted links to are ideal.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 22/10/2019 22:07

I wouldn't look twice if a kid wore that at my wedding. Let her wear it if she wants to. I'm with lovelycuppa with the white too.

Happymum12345 · 22/10/2019 22:26

Weddings are the perfect place for little girls to wear princess style dresses! It would be pretty sad if a bride spent her wedding day worried what little girls are wearing!

Aprillygirl · 22/10/2019 22:27

Only if she's no older than 3 could she get away with that dress OP, and even then only if you pretended she had a tantrum and refused to leave the house until you agreed to let her wear it.

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 22/10/2019 22:28

I think you should let her wear it. But only if you wear a big white meringue dress.

Only joking. I agree with everyone else, and an pleased to see you've changed your mind!

iwantavuvezela · 22/10/2019 22:32

Oops .... no didn’t mean dad - but that would be fun 😀

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