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CF vet???

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Millionpoundvet · 22/10/2019 10:33

NC for this because it's very outing and I'd rather it didn't follow me around. For ease I'll refer to my friend as VF.

This is a bit awkward. One of my very, very good friends is a vet, she owns and runs two practices and has an impressive amount of qualifications; far more than your average vet. I'm not sure what they are, specialisms in some things.

I decided to move my pets to her practice because of the friendship, her expertise and I wasn't entirely happy with the old vet. She very kindly allowed my dd (12) to go and do a few hours of work experience, my animals have been well looked after whenever I've taken them. My kitten was neutered, vaccinated and chipped there, and they spotted and dealt with a potential abscess on his tail. All great.

I have an old lady cat, she's 14, still sprightly but had got very, very thin, was messing around the house and had moments of confusion. VF had been to my house a few times, cuddled the cat and I'd asked about what could be wrong with her. VF could feel a couple of thyroid lumps and suggested that she have an op to remove the thyroid gland. I booked her in and delivered her to the surgery. I didn't hear anything for a week or so, but didn't mind, I assumed VF was doing what needed to be done. I bumped into her in the pub a couple of days after that, and she tells me that the thyroid tests have come back as normal. She now suspects that it's lymphoma. She says the cat is too poorly to come home yet, she will discharge her soon.

Again, we hear nothing for a week or so. I ring the practice to ask about what's going on and I'm told "Oh, I'm not sure, it's VF dealing with this. Can I ask her to give you a ring?" No problem. However, no phone call either. Again, I bump into VF socially (lots of the same friends) and enquire about my cat. She doesn't have lymphoma now and is ready to come home. VF says something vague about the cat having a liver infection. Along the way I've asked her to keep an eye on the bill and tell me when it's gone over a certain amount (£600 quoted for thyroid op). If I ask her directly, she says "It's still in 3 figures."

Anyway (sorry, this is really long! Didn't want to dripfeed), I arranged to collect my cat yesterday and I am greeted with a bill of £1,250. I was absolutely gobsmacked. She's billed me for that huge amount, despite:

Cat didn;t have or need a thyroid op.

Cat didn't have lymphoma.

Cat has had no surgical procedures at all.

Cat has had a few blood tests and basically been left sitting there for three weeks, whilst I was under the impression that she was being treated for cancer!

I asked for a breakdown of the bill and was told they didn't have it ready but that they can post it to me.

Awkwardly, it was my friend doing the discharge and I didn't want to challenge her at the time, because I wasn't sure if the fee was a fair one, and I didn;t want to accuse her of something she hadn't done, so I paid the bill and left.

I came home to my partner (who is a GP) and he says that we've been taken for a ride by VF and he's furious about the bill. Now that I've had time to process it, I'm furious too.

But what should I do?? If I go back and complain it will make things very awkward between VF and I and I do genuinely like her. Or shall I just chalk it up to experience and move my pets elsewhere? I feel like I can't say nothing, but I also don;t want to overreact. Or have I done something wrong along the way which has allowed her to bill this much??

Opinions please :)

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princessTiasmum · 22/10/2019 12:54

I feel sorry for the poor cat ,at 14 he could have gone downhill pining,
I also would have been phoning everyday, 3 weeks is a long time though for nothing to be wrong,

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NightsOfCabiria · 22/10/2019 12:57

No reply from OP? She is waiting to casually meet us in a pub in about a week to update us!

Grin now we see that the OP has a pattern of behavior.

MrsCasares · 22/10/2019 13:02

My dog had 3 blood tests for rabies titre. Cost was €450. So 3 weeks boarding and blood tests and examinations for £1250 sounds about right.

Can you claim on your pet insurance?

NoSquirrels · 22/10/2019 13:07

I paid the bill and left.

That was the point to clarify - BEFORE paying out over a grand!

Without an itemised bill and a clearer understanding of what actually was wrong with your cat (which even you don’t seem to have) then no one can really tell you either way.

Boysey45 · 22/10/2019 13:07

Very weird, they should have been updating you all the time about the cat. Not just the vet telling you when she bumped into you. It sounds very unprofessional.
Why were you not ringing up straight away?, no one would just leave a cat at the vets for a week or so surely! without ringing. Do you not care about your cat?
I think you'll have to pay it and accept that it was your responsibility to find out what was going on earlier. If your partner is a G.P it will be no hardship, the amount of money they are on.

Beveren · 22/10/2019 13:08

You then got told your cat wasn’t ready to go come home and then you didn’t make contact for another week?

Nowhere does the OP suggest that.

AryaStarkWolf · 22/10/2019 13:09

No reply from OP? She is waiting to casually meet us in a pub in about a week to update us!

hahahaha

LagunaBubbles · 22/10/2019 13:11

Why weren't you phoning to check on your cat? Confused

Rubyupbeat · 22/10/2019 13:14

The strangest thing about this is, you left your cat for 3 weeks, an elderly cat too, but didn't enquire daily about her, that's cold!
As for 1250.00, that is not expensive at all.
Last year my youngish dog had cancer treatment that exceeded 10,000.00, thank goodness for pet insurance.

Beveren · 22/10/2019 13:15

What you didn't ring up to even find out if she'd come through surgery?

Well, no, because the cat didn't have surgery. It's right there in the OP.

So you dumped your cat at the vet for 2 or 3 weeks, didn't bother asking how surgery went and are surprised the fees are over £1K?

Again, why would she bother to ask how non-existent surgery went?

There's a definite correlation round here between people who are hard of reading and people who love to join in an AIBU pile-on.

catlady3 · 22/10/2019 13:17

It's not high as such for a vet bill, having just forked out around that because my kitten was a bit dehydrated!!!! (It was quite scary and we obviously didn't know what it was so needed tests etc., but still - ultimately, that's what it was.) But very odd that you didn't check in with them, or they with you. Our vet rings us at least daily with updates when they have the cat. They wouldn't just keep them. Were you not worried about your cat at all, being away from home? All a bit strange OP, both of you!

diddl · 22/10/2019 13:18

So the cat was booked in for an op before it was known whether or not it was needed.

Op not needed, but cat became too ill to go home?

What the hell happened?

Sounds like a shit vet, shit owner & shit story all round!

Mia1415 · 22/10/2019 13:19

@Beveren but the OP thought the cat was going to have surgery when she dropped her at the vets. The OP said that the vet suggested she had an operation to remove the thyroid glad and she was booked in for that.

diddl · 22/10/2019 13:20

"Again, why would she bother to ask how non-existent surgery went?"

Because she didn't know until bumping into the vet a week later that her cat hadn't had surgery?

Patchworksack · 22/10/2019 13:24

I work as a vet and none of this adds up. Producing an itemised bill should be a matter of pressing 'print' on the computer because despite what many clients think, we don't just pluck a figure out of the air. £1250 actually sounds very cheap for three weeks hospitalisation and tests, but there is nothing in the story to explain why the cat needed to be kept in. We phone owners at least daily to update them on inpatients and that includes an update on the bill and reviewing whether that patient needs to stay or can be discharged. I'd expect to speak to them in addition to that if new test results necessitated a change of plan, and most of them will also call for an afternoon update from the kennels nurses or want to visit. I've never had an owner disinterested enough not to be in contact for a week.

seasidequayside · 22/10/2019 13:27

YABU not to keep ringing up every day while your cat was at the vet to find out what was going on. It sounds like you've just waited to bump into your friend to find out what was wrong? Meanwhile the bill would have been mounting up as others have said - overnight stays, tests, etc are very expensive.

YANBU in that your friend should really have given you updates, or got staff to call you, and should not have said 3 figures when it turned out to be more. And if the breakdown wasn't available, how did they work out the bill?

On balance I think more YABU than YANBU - you should have kept on top of this. It sounds like you're good friends so is it worth risking this by (basically) accusing her of overcharging you? I think you need to accept that you probably had £1200 worth of care, even if you didn't necessarily want/need it all, but too late to decide that afterwards.

If this really bothers you, then say to your friend that you find it hard to separate the friend/vet roles and you'd prefer to go elsewhere in future, otherwise just keep on going to a vet who you seem to rate highly, but keep more track of what she's doing in future.

SunshineCake · 22/10/2019 13:29

She is the one making things awkward if she doesn't understand when charging that much you would want a breakdown.

I am shocked you would leave your cat so long without ringing to check on her, visiting her or fully understanding what is happening with her.

LoobyLou1976 · 22/10/2019 13:29

Patchworksack, I completely agree. It's another vet bashing 'look what a rip-off these terrible vets are' attempt. With so much missing from the OPs ONLY post, it's impossible to say what is going on. We are getting one side of a very disjointed and mixed up story. I'm almost positive no vet would act like that, whether they were a friend of the clients or not, I've never heard anything so ridiculous in my 10 years of vet nursing.

BlackCatSleeping · 22/10/2019 13:30

Ultimately the vet is the professional and should have kept the OP informed at all times and should have been able to produce an itemised bill on discharge.

What was the final diagnosis? If I was the OP, I'd make an appointment for a chat with the vet about the details of the bill and what procedures the cat went through and what to do from now on.

It does sound like the vet took her eye off the ball somewhat.

PeachMoon · 22/10/2019 13:39

Another one for being completely befuddled by this situation. Our old lady cat spent 4 days in the animal hospital last year - we had to sign something agreeing that she would be visited at least once per day in addition to being on the phone at least twice per day. I didn't quite get why they needed us to agree to this as it seems a pretty reasonable expectation but it turns out there are people who are totally disinterested?! Confused

They also called us before every new test / set of tests to confirm costs and reasons for tests, and again with results. I can't wrap my head around you saying you didn't get an update for a week? Then another week? For what it's worth, that seems incredibly cheap for three weeks vet care! Our 4 days cost nearly $5000 (Aus) as she had to be mildly sedated most of the time and had various tests each day.

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FloatingObject · 22/10/2019 13:41

Why would you bother reporting this? Who cares?

cornish009 · 22/10/2019 13:41

Do we assume that if you had not "bumped into your friend socially" that your cat would still be there.

Sorry, I find this scenario very difficult to believe. Over the decades and various vet. care, I have always spoken to the surgery twice a day when animals were kept in. Infact at all the different practices if you did not call, they would call you? Three weeks? Really?

And as others have said for three weeks care this actually sounds cheap.

SunshineCake · 22/10/2019 13:43

Floating - because if the OP is a troll there is no cat that didn't see its family for weeks on end.

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