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CF vet???

244 replies

Millionpoundvet · 22/10/2019 10:33

NC for this because it's very outing and I'd rather it didn't follow me around. For ease I'll refer to my friend as VF.

This is a bit awkward. One of my very, very good friends is a vet, she owns and runs two practices and has an impressive amount of qualifications; far more than your average vet. I'm not sure what they are, specialisms in some things.

I decided to move my pets to her practice because of the friendship, her expertise and I wasn't entirely happy with the old vet. She very kindly allowed my dd (12) to go and do a few hours of work experience, my animals have been well looked after whenever I've taken them. My kitten was neutered, vaccinated and chipped there, and they spotted and dealt with a potential abscess on his tail. All great.

I have an old lady cat, she's 14, still sprightly but had got very, very thin, was messing around the house and had moments of confusion. VF had been to my house a few times, cuddled the cat and I'd asked about what could be wrong with her. VF could feel a couple of thyroid lumps and suggested that she have an op to remove the thyroid gland. I booked her in and delivered her to the surgery. I didn't hear anything for a week or so, but didn't mind, I assumed VF was doing what needed to be done. I bumped into her in the pub a couple of days after that, and she tells me that the thyroid tests have come back as normal. She now suspects that it's lymphoma. She says the cat is too poorly to come home yet, she will discharge her soon.

Again, we hear nothing for a week or so. I ring the practice to ask about what's going on and I'm told "Oh, I'm not sure, it's VF dealing with this. Can I ask her to give you a ring?" No problem. However, no phone call either. Again, I bump into VF socially (lots of the same friends) and enquire about my cat. She doesn't have lymphoma now and is ready to come home. VF says something vague about the cat having a liver infection. Along the way I've asked her to keep an eye on the bill and tell me when it's gone over a certain amount (£600 quoted for thyroid op). If I ask her directly, she says "It's still in 3 figures."

Anyway (sorry, this is really long! Didn't want to dripfeed), I arranged to collect my cat yesterday and I am greeted with a bill of £1,250. I was absolutely gobsmacked. She's billed me for that huge amount, despite:

Cat didn;t have or need a thyroid op.

Cat didn't have lymphoma.

Cat has had no surgical procedures at all.

Cat has had a few blood tests and basically been left sitting there for three weeks, whilst I was under the impression that she was being treated for cancer!

I asked for a breakdown of the bill and was told they didn't have it ready but that they can post it to me.

Awkwardly, it was my friend doing the discharge and I didn't want to challenge her at the time, because I wasn't sure if the fee was a fair one, and I didn;t want to accuse her of something she hadn't done, so I paid the bill and left.

I came home to my partner (who is a GP) and he says that we've been taken for a ride by VF and he's furious about the bill. Now that I've had time to process it, I'm furious too.

But what should I do?? If I go back and complain it will make things very awkward between VF and I and I do genuinely like her. Or shall I just chalk it up to experience and move my pets elsewhere? I feel like I can't say nothing, but I also don;t want to overreact. Or have I done something wrong along the way which has allowed her to bill this much??

Opinions please :)

OP posts:
harriethoyle · 22/10/2019 11:11

You are being VVVVU for leaving your cat for weeks at a time with apparently no more than a phone call per week! Unbelievable...

Itsallgonewoowoo · 22/10/2019 11:13

Yes, that's cheap for vet board over 3 weeks and including some tests I assume. The care is from trained staff who cost more to employ so costs are greater just for basic care. I think it's best to use an independent vet as obviously your friendship clouded the normal way of dealing with things. Not a friend, you would have phoned more often, not a friend, she would have rung you and explained things better.

viques · 22/10/2019 11:13

My old cat was at the vets from Saturday pm to Monday PM. Some treatments, a scan, and a £900 bill.

During your cats three weeks stay at the vets the vet had the expense of running and maintaining a building, paying staff for 24 hour cover, insurance costs including her own professional insurance. Oh and professional fees for her services and expertise bearing in mind the additional qualifications she has , most of which she has probably had to fund herself.

I think I lost sympathy when you talked about not contacting the vets for days at a time to check on your poorly cats progress. Isn't it lucky your husband is a GP so you can probably afford the bill. .......

spiderlight · 22/10/2019 11:13

Both parties should have been keeping tabs on the cost. Our vets don't do anything without discussing it with us and letting us know the price, and I'd have been on the phone daily to see how the cat was doing and talk about options. Our dog was at the vet's for two hours last week for sedation and a needle biopsy and that came to over £250, so your bill is actually fairly reasonable!

Bellringer · 22/10/2019 11:16

Insurance

ThreeLittleDots · 22/10/2019 11:16

Poor cat, she must have felt abandoned!

WomensRightsAreContraversial · 22/10/2019 11:19

What you didn't ring up to even find out if she'd come through surgery?? I wouldn't even put a 14 year old cat through surgery and I'm 99% sure I wouldn't put them through being an inpatient! I can't believe you!

Monkeyseesmonkeydoes · 22/10/2019 11:20

Your CF friend has given you mates rates I reckon. Staying at a vets overnight with a few tests thrown in can cost £100s never mind weeks.
Sounds like poor comms between the 2 of you, but by all means look at the bill.

GettingABitDesperateNow · 22/10/2019 11:20

Its hard for us to know if the vet has over charged you. Its rubbish though that she promised to tell you when the bill went over x and then never did, I think I would have said at the time 'but you agreed to tell me when it went over x and its substantially more- last time I asked you said it was 3 figures, what's changed'

OpportunityKnocks · 22/10/2019 11:21

Your cat was in there more than a night and you were neither checking on her daily nor were they updating you twice daily?!? Is this for real???

YABU for not even enquiring about your cat! Absolutely ridiculous!

LoobyLou1976 · 22/10/2019 11:22

Hi there.
I'm really sorry to have to echo what everyone else has said here. Firstly, what treatment did you think the cat was getting for 'cancer' at the vets that could not have been done at home? If your husband is a GP I'm guessing you have a little medical knowledge yourself and maybe should have asked some more questions. I'm a vet nurse and its very surprising to me that a) you would leave it a week or more on two separate occasions to phone in and enquire about your cat, and b) that the vet wouldn't contact you with a daily update. At my surgery the clients are phoned every morning and sometimes afternoon with daily updates on inpatients, and they sometimes visit!

Was it agreed at the start you would be getting a discounted 'mates rate'? Three weeks of boarding your cat and providing supportive care is going to be expensive. When you get the breakdown of the bill check what it says.
Sorry to say that something doesn't quite add up here. You say that the cat was too poorly to come home but you didn't think to enquire other than when you happened to bump into your friend socially?
Is there something missing from this story?

OpportunityKnocks · 22/10/2019 11:22

Btw, was she suggesting that the cat was hyperthyroid? This is easily diagnosed with a blood test and easily managed with medication! If you remove one thyroid, the other will inevitably follow in a few years.

Jollitwiglet · 22/10/2019 11:22

Well I assume if she said the cat was too Ill to come home then it's been having some kind of treatment while there? So may have been on fluids for the duration, then the costs of the blood test and the costs of hospitalisation itself. Obviously food isn't free.

The mind boggles though really I think the behaviour on both sides is ridiculous. She should have kept it professional and treated you like a client and kept in regular contact regarding what was happening. But you as the owner just essentially abandoned your animal. I'm just sad that an old cat has been kept in kennels for 3 weeks and you only have a vague answer as to what has been going on.

inwood · 22/10/2019 11:23

DDog was in for test at Christmas for two nights and it was almost £1800. Sounds like you want are the CF for wanting the favour.

What on earth does your husband being a doctor have to do with anything?

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 22/10/2019 11:24

Our cat needed some dental work, and between the initial appointment and examination/x-rays/bloods it came in at almost £700. (Not covered by our insurance as it was “routine!)

I can’t believe you left your cat there all that time and didn’t ring in to find out what was going on, friend or no friend. On the day ours went in for the surgery, my DP dropped her at 8.30, they told us to ring at lunchtime, which we did, and she wasn’t ready due to an emergency admission, we rang again at 2.30 as instructed, then collected her at 4. If they’d needed to keep her overnight I would have hoped to go in and see her during the 5-7 surgery slot.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 22/10/2019 11:25

So you dumped your cat at the vet for 2 or 3 weeks, didn't bother asking how surgery went and are surprised the fees are over £1K? I think it sounds reasonable. Mine was had an operation and was at the vets for 2 nights and the bill was nearly £2K!

I wouldn't even put a 14 year old cat through surgery and I'm 99% sure I wouldn't put them through being an inpatient!

That depends on the cat. Depending on the reason and odds of a cure I would definitely consider surgery for my 14 year old cat if he needed it.

FloatingObject · 22/10/2019 11:26

The cat had loads of tests and stayed at the clinic for three weeks so I voted YABU.

cathpinc · 22/10/2019 11:26

Is this real? Does anyone with a cat that old really leave it a week before checking to see whether it's dying of cancer or not?!

adaline · 22/10/2019 11:26

Who just leaves their cat at the vet and doesn't bother ringing?

My cat once had to stay at the vets for three nights due to crystals in his bladder and I was in touch with the vets at least twice a day! They always rang me with an update and let me know how he was, what medications he was taking and where my bill was.

If they hadn't rung, there's no way in hell I would just have left it!

And three nights in the vets, plus surgery, blood tests and medication cost me over £1000. £1,250 for basically a month in the vets is nothing.

Why the bloody hell did you not check on your cat?!

Billben · 22/10/2019 11:27

During your cats three weeks stay at the vets the vet had the expense of running and maintaining a building, paying staff for 24 hour cover, insurance costs including her own professional insurance. Oh and professional fees for her services and expertise bearing in mind the additional qualifications she has , most of which she has probably had to fund herself.

Was there a need for the cat to be kept at the vets for 3 weeks though when they were only doing tests on it? At my vets you’d be asked to bring the animal back as and when needed.

Celebelly · 22/10/2019 11:27

Also gobsmacked you didn't phone you check on your cat more often! My dog has stayed in overnight a couple of times and I called/was called by then several times a day and went in to visit her. A week without checking she'd even had her op?!

MitziK · 22/10/2019 11:29

It works out at around £2.48 an hour for her board, food, monitoring, tests, scritches and fusses, etc, all included.

and I'm sure with a GP for a husband you can afford it anyway

I'm pretty sure that the cost of a three week private (or NHS, even though we get inpatient care without being charged personally) hospital stay for monitoring & tests is significantly higher, even though the equipment, staffing and skill/qualification levels are equivalent.

BIWitch · 22/10/2019 11:29
Hmm
SpookilyBadOooooooh · 22/10/2019 11:29

Poor cat

Billben · 22/10/2019 11:31

But I must be honest, as a person who’s just come back from the 4th visit to the vets since last Thursday, I can’t imagine not checking up on my pet for days, let alone weeks on end if they were in somebody else’s care (healthy or poorly, makes no difference). That’s just odd.