To think if you let your child win pass the parcel at their own birthday party it tells me everything I need to know about you.

[FastAway]

Well, am I?

I mean, come on.

Seriously? Have we become this b*tchy as a community of parents now, that the OP actually thinks badly of parents who deliberately let their LO get the final layer? I mean, surely everyone else got something in their layer too, so it’s nothing to get your knickers in a twist over at all.

At the parties we went to, the parents and children were all so happy for the birthday boy or girl. There are hugs and there’s clapping. No one feels the need to b*tch and moan about the parent who did that. In fact we are fond of the bday boy or girl because we know them and they are our little ones’ friends. So I don’t understand this nasty mentality. Perhaps you shouldn’t be going to parties at all if you take issue with parents making a couple of hours mainly about their child, whilst also catering for other children - that’s kind of what birthdays are for - to make a fuss? The kids get to play games after all, irrespective of who wins, they have fun with their friends, hopefully are entertained, fed, get to have some treats like cake, biscuits, sweets etc, and a party bag.

It’s really not a big deal...

When dd was about 5 she had a whole class party plus a few siblings in a church hall. I lost the will to live wrapping the parcel. I was losing it again during the game when I landed it on a friend's 3 year old who clutched it to her little chest and sprinted under the stage and stayed put tearrng madly until her mum could haul her out. She made my day! 😄

Polly wobble - that's hysterical 🤣🤣.

Have to admit I do try to avoid my own kids winning to be polite. Didn't ever notice what other parents were doing at their parties, probably distracted by the whole crazyness ofna children's party.

Agreed. Every child, including birthday child should get one of the small gifts, a lolly or whatever is in it, but never the big present!! I can't believe someone took it off you!! you must of been so upset, I hope someone called the parents out on it!!

I've not done a party for DD yet but at almost all of the parties I went to as a child pass the parcel was rigged so the birthday child got the prize and often I (and others) didn't get anything. My mum was obsessed with fairness and making sure I came last on my birthday which used to irritate me no end as I lost out either way.

My best friend did this and I was To be fair to her, she didn't have ANY parties as a child and probably had no idea.

She might have thought that was what you do. Everyone was shocked though.

ParkLife lol! It's mean spirited! That's why people think it's rude. The birthday child has had a tonne of presents...they don't need the crappy little toy in pass the parcel. It's nicer to give it to another child.

It's a game at a kid's party. People have different rules. We all do things differently and it's about being tolerant towards others. Your attitude about a kid's party game tells us quite a lot about you.

Some people have a task to do on every layer and get a sweet or chocolate if it's completed.

Some parents stop the music randomly.

Some parents police it very firmly whilst others are very lax with the rules.

People have different traditions.

So, ParkLife maybe you want to answer the question I asked earlier.

How does it work? Does the birthday child also win musical chairs? Pin the tail on the donkey? Every single other party game?

How is it fun for all the other partygoers, if the winner for every single game is a foregone conclusion?

I have done parties much younger. Layer for all . Turn your back for the last layer.

It is meant to be a game of chance

@ParkLife123

Hear hear
🙌

On the contrary @OooErMissus- @ParkLife123 has NAILED it

So maybe you want to explain then, @Euromillsplz ...?

Do you rig it so your kid wins every prize for every game?

And that's fun, how...?

I did once accidentally not look and do the music blind only for it to stop on my DC (the final prize). It just made me realize having a look out helps, and can prevent this.

Yes layer for all to get a prize, then turn your back for the last one, but have a look out so your DC doesn’t get the last prize

I agree 80s parties were better, no one expected to get a prize or sweet with every unwrap, and only a few maybe or one person won. No big deal.

Good grief. All the unwritten rules I know nothing about. In the dim past when I did this for DS, I always thought it was the birthday child who got the central prize which is always two sweets or a packet of small colouring pencils or something equally small but very slightly better than the outer layer prizes.of one sweet

Enough layers for all children to get at least one prize and birthday child wins the middle. I must slink off in shame now.

I think it's a harsh judgement from the OP.
YABU.
Let's hope no one ever judges you so entirely on such a small matter...

@OooErMissus may I refer you back to the Oracle that is @ParkLife123.

Maturity, generosity of spirit.. ironically what many PTP enthusiasts here seem to be missing!

As for those asking does the birthday child win everything. Of course not, musical chairs , statues and pin The tail are much harder to rig, so of course I didn't bother

FastAway, I would think you had an unfair advantage if your mum and dad fixed it for you to win Pass the Parcel. In fact I am going to get the Daily Mail on to this story and later will phone Social Services.

Surely the birthday child gets enough gifts without having to win pass the parcel as well. Stupid.

4 kids and I’ve lost count of the amount of birthday parties I’ve done.
I’d never fix pass the parcel ,but equally I’ve never been to party where they have done .
Or have I just not noticed,and everyone is at it 🤪

Of course birthday child doesn't win pass the parcel and you rig against this happening. People who don't know this have no right to be holding birthday parties

So when mine were little and went to parties I did judge when bday actively won ....the worst was one when either the bday girl or one of her 2 younger sisters won absolutely everything from sleeping lions to musical statues. They got medals and a prize ........told me everything I needed to know about that family.

I remember as a child, most parties the parents either didn’t look, or watched discreetly. The game was exciting because there was a chance of winning.

Occasionally it was obvious the parents were watching and made sure birthday child won, and even back then it seemed most unfair because it was their birthday already and they’d had loads of presents.

So yes OP, even as a child I judged those parents who felt their own child was so special that they couldn’t even let someone else win pass the parcel!