To think if you let your child win pass the parcel at their own birthday party it tells me everything I need to know about you.

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Well, am I?

I mean, come on.

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” my children get a birthday Ryvita, the one with raisins in if the birthday ends in a 0.”

I’m quite shocked. Raisins are terrible for you; they make every single tooth fall out, give you the worst case of diabetes and make you morbidly obese. HTH.

I once caused the birthday girl to win the big prize.

Massive party. 3 birthday girls. We only knew one of them.

Pass the parcel. Dd had already opened at least once. Parcel landed on her again so I made her pass it on to the little girl next to us. Who happily started opening it. Next thing I know woman doing the music came running over shouting. Turned out that this was “The Prize” and little girl next to us was her daughter.

Oops.

The birthday child gets 25 odd presents, do they really need another? Most children should grasp that from when they are able to play pass the parcel.

I'm loving all the snippy replies from the clueless types who are suddenly realising people will have been silently judging them for their PTP transgressions over the years.

We always used to have pass the parcel as the last game at our parties. It was always a lovely noisy toy like a toy drum or recorder. I always made sure that the worst behaved child won it. The joy on my face when I saw them being driven off, tootling tunelessly into their mother’s ear!

I thought bday child was supposed to win the main prize too

We've done this by accident. The song ended when DD was very obviously holding the parcel. Oops.

Bloody hell, I've never yet thrown a kids' party. Are all the games this political? What other faux pas are there to avoid?

Dh thought this is how pass the parcel worked 🙄

I was thoroughly embarrassed when he let dd1 win on her 5th birthday, he was playing and stopping the music. It was cringe worthy.

I put him right in the end.

Birthday child does not get the PTP prize. In what terrible world is that a thing? Everyone gets a wee prize from an outer layer & then Not The Birthday Child gets the prize from the middle. (Am now wondering if thinking on this can be aligned to any kind of social stratification )

Still v fondly remember the Flower Fairies soap & soap-dish I got as the PTP prize at a friend’s 7th birthday party. ALL the girls were Wildly Envious (bar Birthday Girl, who was openly pleased I got it). Fairly sure it was a fix given the boys at the party would NOT have appreciated said prize (though in fairness, they’d pretty uncomplainingly have given it to someone/taken it home to a sibling in exchange for a load of sweets).

I bet Boris Johnson & JRM et al got to win at PTP at their birthday parties.

I HATE it when the parent's make the Birthday child win the main present at the end!!

Music is stopped randomly. Other adults keep an eye on the unwrapping. If a child has already unwrapped, the parcel gets passed along to the next child. Everyone gets a go. Birthday child never wins.

DD2 has ASD. We spent a long time modelling appropriate 'losing behaviour' with her. We taught her explicitly that if you lose a game, you clap/congratulate the winner. At first she was furious and would blink away hot, angry tears as she did it. But she got there and learned.

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I’ll get the first round in

Along with BJ and Rees-Mogg, Trump - the elder, and all his vacuous, entitled offspring - definitely all got the end prize in PTP.

Ohhh, you can so tell, can't you.

Oh gosh I hate these 'everyone has to open a bloody layer' pass the parcel. And a sweet or toy between layers? The fun was always unwrapping and hoping you had wrapping paper and not newspaper. Glad I'm well out of the toddler parties now

I thought the birthday child always won too! 🤔

Fucks sake, I always thought the birthday child was MEANT to win 🤷🏻‍♀️

There are some people here who are DESPERATELY misinformed and I can only hope this thread had helped to educate, inform and inspire.

Anyway, some of you- get a fucking grip. Waaaaayyyy too over invested in who gets the tat at the end. First world problems much.

I’m more taken with the revelation that some use newspaper to wrap the pass the parcel.

The kids’ hands must be bloody filthy

Pass the parcel is hideous. Truly awful.

I did it once with a group of 3 year olds. Rigged to fuck. One child got it actively ripped out of her hands and thrust into another’s as she had it twice and was slower to hand on than expected.
Thankfully literally every adult in the room was on board and would just point to the next child to get. I swore I would never do it again, however.

Anyway, some of you- get a fucking grip.

Calm down, dear.

I suggest a grip for yourself.

@Euromillsplz I know! I’m a massive dick. The problem is that nothing this exciting has happened to me since 2016, when I ate a biscuit. But thank you for stopping by and sorting me out.

Jeez I consider myself well & truly informed!

Newspaper these days doesn't transfer the print. It did in the 70s and was part of the fun